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RE: Help your Mistress kick a bad habit? - 11/3/2008 11:41:11 AM

PeonForHer

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Dip lighters and matches in water when she's not looking.

Nothing like a bit of pragmatism, Stella!

I think with certain habits - like smoking - suggesting you do all those sorts of things that help calm her nerves would be an idea. Baths, massages, that kind of thing. Or even things that burn off the nervous energy, like cycle rides, stints in the gym and climbs. But then, I'm imagining a domme who likes to do the same vanilla things as me. Tall order!

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RE: Help your Mistress kick a bad habit? - 11/4/2008 12:36:33 PM

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i would ask if you and your Mistress have a open time to discuss things. if not respectifully ask to let her know your desire to keep her safe. my M'lady has brought it up and i support her in doing it. i have also left stop smoking packets near her computer so she can see them. smoking causes increased cervical cancer as well as breathing diffuclties and more frequent illness.

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RE: Help your Mistress kick a bad habit? - 11/5/2008 6:06:37 PM

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I'm not going to nag, bitch, pressure, or use emotional blackmail (such as "quit or I leave"). I haven't been here that long, but it is something we've discussed a few times. I'm just looking for ways I can help when she is ready to do it.

I'm sure tricks like hiding her cigs or lighter would be very bad ideas. I have tried to convince her to substitute sex for smoking but that isn't always very practical. :(

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RE: Help your Mistress kick a bad habit? - 11/5/2008 6:33:54 PM

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Just a little advice. Any bad habit really does have to be kicked by the person who has the habit.

My sub, the one who posted above you there, handled this pretty well. The first thing he did was wait for Me to bring the subject up. My being ready to talk about it was a lot better than him trying to persuade Me. The information materials that he got for Me weren't waived in My face. In fact, he did it in such a quiet way, that I was really proud. This is only compounded by the fact that I know this is something he has hoped I would do for some time. Not once has he nagged, bitched, complained, or reminded Me that I haven't quit yet. He knows that I am under a considerable amount of stress in this past month and probably wouldn't have mentioned it at all if he hadn't been replying to this post.

Now, clip's case is a little different than yours. He knew I smoked and it was something we discussed before he was collared. I did ask him specifically if it would be an issue in his serving Me. What you have is a situation where it wasn't a current habit when you agreed to serve. If you've already discussed it a few times, it's time to let it rest for a little while. Have information ready for her when she's receptive to looking at it.

Oh, yeah, don't hide the cigarettes. As much as you want her to quit, that's not exactly something that is going to build on the trust she has in you. That's a little bit higher a cost than a pack of smokes these days.

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