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Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/1/2008 9:27:09 PM   
CollaredChicklet


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Status: offline 		so.. In general, during some of my last couple of sessions with my Dom, I've seemed to come out of it, not remembering A LOT of things that happened...   Today, He had asked for my feedback (we're still growing, and I do admit that I'm a newb.  I'm not ashamed! ), and I gave Him a look of confusion...  Some of the things He mentioned doing, I don't even remember... I mean, before, I had sunk deeper and deeper, but This is the first time I really couldn't logically remember what had happened.  I don't feel like I am being pushed too far, in all actuality, I want more and more.  So I don't think that is the thing.. and I know we all have our own places, apart from all the world that we slip into when we have such intense feelings and emotions... But I was just wondering, has anyone else experienced being completely unaware of almost everything that just happened? I mean, these aren't just little things to be overlooked, that i had "forgotten"...  Thanks!   
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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/1/2008 9:30:56 PM   
Rover


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Status: offline 		Although not frequent, that's not an entirely uncommon manifestation of "subspace" for some people.
 
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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/1/2008 9:40:46 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		Yes, I've experienced this.  The last public play scene I participated in, all I recall is getting mostly naked and lying down on the table, then 'waking up' happy and content, getting dressed and joining those upstairs with no idea of what had transpired in between....


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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/1/2008 9:49:10 PM   
CollaredChicklet


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Status: offline 		Yeah, It definitely wasn't a negative experience!   It was just odd when He was asking for my feedback on something I had NO idea had happened.  :P

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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/1/2008 10:22:04 PM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		Apparently I have said certain things during sex.  I didn't believe it, because I didn't remember it, until a tape recording of it was played for me.  You're not alone.


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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 5:21:59 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		The first couple of months with my Sir are a complete blur - he says things that we did, or talked about and i am clueless.  For me - i think it was a combination of sensory overload and nervousness.  I mean - how else can you forget a spanking that leaves  bruises?

enjoy the aftereffects - and you might tell your dom, because if you aren't responding during these times, he needs to know that you aren't in a position (pun intended) to tell him if something is going too far.

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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 5:25:11 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Yup, that's deep subspace. I do find that a lot of stuff tends to come back over the next few days, but disjointed. I have no time sense when this happens and have to check in with him to be sure what I'm remembering is real.

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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 5:37:10 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		CollaredChicklet, I had to smile after reading your posts.  Your Dom is technically capable of putting you in subspace, and he's asking you questions and caring about you - he'd not simply doing it to get his rocks off.

He sounds like a good one.


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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 5:52:52 AM   
ChainedExistence


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Status: offline 		It's common for me- to lose certain parts of the play when I space. But even if I don't forget things, I  do find that time gets quite compressed. What seemed to me to last only a few moments might have gone on for much longer. The thing is, we can never quite figure out the triggers for different kinds of spacing. Sometimes I laugh hysterically, sometimes I cry, sometimes I get disoriented and think I need to leave, sometimes I am all floaty and serene, sometimes I have a sense of awareness but can't respond, other times I am responding, but have no real connection to know what I am saying. It's all good..sometimes he just has to tell me how good it was ;)

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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 6:03:31 AM   
CollaredChicklet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

CollaredChicklet, I had to smile after reading your posts.  Your Dom is technically capable of putting you in subspace, and he's asking you questions and caring about you - he'd not simply doing it to get his rocks off.

He sounds like a good one.


Yes, he is a good one.  :)   And he's always been caring, and looks out for me...   One of a kind, really!

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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 6:23:51 AM   
Twicehappy2x


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Status: offline 		It is common enough not to remember a lot if you were deep into subspace.
 
I remember Scooter saying to me once "How did you like the time i took making noises with the chains to put you on edge?"
 
To which i replied "Chains, you had chains?"
 
Evidently i don't hear well in subspace either, lol.  

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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 6:28:31 AM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		yep, it's pretty normal in deep subspace and with a great connection with your partner...

don't feel bad, the first time that happened to me, i actually thought i had been slipped a mickey.

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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 7:18:42 AM   
RainydayNE


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Status: offline 		sometimes i forget alot of things, or they're put in some other order, or lengths of time change around =p
i just chalk it up to "subspace" or whatever

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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 7:49:37 AM   
missturbation


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Status: offline 		This happened to me every time i played with one of my ex Sirs. My memory would be hazy for about 24 hours but then when i settled down to write my report it would all come back to me.

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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 12:00:03 PM   
hejira92


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Status: offline 		After a heavy session, I'm left with impressions, and maybe I'll remember the set-up (He had my hands above me head-tied to a bar hoisted by a winch. I was balancd on 5 inch heels and then He took rope and hobbled me there- teetering on the spike heels. He then untied the halter of my dress to expose my breasts.... I recall being pushed a few times and losing my balance and screaming as the 'feeling' of falling overwhelmed  me. I seem to recall some nipple clamps and maybe a crop or paddle..... but that's about it. I did have a wonderful time....).
 
I try to recreate it later, for myself, my journal or a close friend, and I can't.
 
Sometimes it's not even a session, just sex with serious D/s mindplay. He is very good at befuddling me. He holds this intelligent, observant, scientific mind in His hands and turns it to mush.
 
As Master likes to tell me, "It's all good, little girl."

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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 12:35:03 PM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		Quite normal and you are lucky.

Lucky to have been safe in that situation and lucky to have a discussion with him afterwards.

A worser man may have taken advantage at the subspace level and/or not discussed and disclosed what occured.



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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 12:59:03 PM   
LydiaSciKitten


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Status: offline 		I think it's definitely normal, and you shoudln't be worried at all. If it happens pretty much all the time though, you might try to keep yourself more conscious of what's going on. Even during sweetest surrender, sometimes some form of self-awareness is crucial for ssc. And anyway, you don't want to be missing all the fun! On the other hand though, it does suggest you were experiencing something immensely intense, lucky you!

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RE: Can't remember... is this normal!? :P - 11/2/2008 6:14:41 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CollaredChicklet

so.. In general, during some of my last couple of sessions with my Dom, I've seemed to come out of it, not remembering A LOT of things that happened...   Today, He had asked for my feedback (we're still growing, and I do admit that I'm a newb.  I'm not ashamed! ), and I gave Him a look of confusion...  Some of the things He mentioned doing, I don't even remember... I mean, before, I had sunk deeper and deeper, but This is the first time I really couldn't logically remember what had happened.  I don't feel like I am being pushed too far, in all actuality, I want more and more.  So I don't think that is the thing.. and I know we all have our own places, apart from all the world that we slip into when we have such intense feelings and emotions... But I was just wondering, has anyone else experienced being completely unaware of almost everything that just happened? I mean, these aren't just little things to be overlooked, that i had "forgotten"...  Thanks!   


Of course.

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