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RE: What if - 12/20/2005 9:03:23 AM

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Thanks for the wonderful ideas and for the support! La'Dee

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RE: What if - 12/24/2005 10:08:20 AM

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errr. ummm. well, veronica.

Chicks Rule!

Even obnoxious, demanding, opinionated, overbearing, controlling Chicks.

We're Dommes.

humorously yours,

TexasMaam

by the way bobbi, my "Chicks Rule" calendar of a stocking stuffer was THE BOMB!
I love it! thank you, pet!

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RE: What if - 12/25/2005 7:12:57 PM

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Even obnoxious, demanding, opinionated, overbearing, controlling Chicks.

We're Dommes.

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ONLY to a POINT!
even a Ma'am can be -----w r o n g-------- at times...we ARE human...
and i have pointed it out to MY Ms at several times..

best wishes to You n Yours in 2006 from me n mine..

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RE: What if - 12/25/2005 9:36:14 PM

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Well, if they joined online training, that means they no longer desire or need mine. I would wish them luck in their future endeavours as I accepted my collar back.

Lady Ursa

Lady Ursa, I couldnt agree more. Absolutely.

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RE: What if - 12/25/2005 10:06:44 PM

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You can not equate learning to ride a horse with something such as singing up for bdsm trainin with someone else. When your mistress collars you you don't just go give your service to someone else even if it's only online training.

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i have a question on this if i went to learn a skill in something that my domme liked say she was into horse back riding for something melow and didn'tf tell her would the decision be the same if i didn't tell her and w\ent to training in a bdsm sence

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RE: What if - 12/25/2005 10:42:43 PM

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you don't just go give your service to someone else even if it's only online training.
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yes...... you can. i have, myself, had 1 online, 1 real time...
it was an online sissy thing...and She had zero issues with it.

granted, most folks maybe wouldn't..but when someone ain't around 98% of the time.....a little something extra helps.....
but you do what YOU gotta do...and i did what i had to at that time...

take care

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RE: What if - 12/25/2005 10:44:25 PM

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Yeah but you yourself say she's not your mistress and only uses you for social service needs.

To someone in a commited Regular D/s who owns you has given you a collar and controls you relationship you don't just go follow someone elses orders. Not if you want to stay in that D/.s

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RE: What if - 12/25/2005 11:27:18 PM

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social service needs.
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social?

huh?

i do housework...and i am not talking about NOW..............i was talking about my 1st domme.

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RE: What if - 12/26/2005 10:09:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: veronicaofML

you don't just go give your service to someone else even if it's only online training.
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yes...... you can. i have, myself, had 1 online, 1 real time...
it was an online sissy thing...and She had zero issues with it.

granted, most folks maybe wouldn't..but when someone ain't around 98% of the time.....a little something extra helps.....
but you do what YOU gotta do...and i did what i had to at that time...

take care

Did both of your Dommes at the time know about each other? Did whoever was your Domme first give permission for you to contact the second and begin serving her as well?

If the answer to both of my questions are "yes", then hey, I have no problems with that. Everything is out on the table and in the open.

However, if not, then as far as I'm concerned, the situation is no different than a husband/wife cheating on their spouse. If it's done behind someone's back, then it's wrong - if there is deceit involved, then it's wrong. This is exactly what I got from the situation described in the first post - someone in a r/t D/s relationship discovered that her submissive had gone behind her back and joined an online stable belonging to another Domme, no discussion of this had occurred, no permission had been granted - therefore, it loses it's "consensuality" of the SSC creed, not to mention everything else that the situation brings up in my mind. If the sub felt that the Domme wasn't 'enough' or wasn't 'right' for him, then he should have talked to her about it instead of sneaking around behind her back.

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RE: What if - 12/26/2005 10:32:30 AM

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Did both of your Dommes at the time know about each other? Did whoever was your Domme first give permission for you to contact the second and begin serving her as well?

If the answer to both of my questions are "yes", then hey, I have no problems with that. Everything is out on the table and in the open.
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what ARE You talking about?
are Ya talkin about that online thingie?
hell Girl, She knew i was doin it. She said ain't no biggie...possession is 9.9 tenths of the Laws of Goddess...
She said as long as i learn something new,...to further my training as-a-sissy--it was cool.
ain't like any domme can be with ya 24/7...there ARE times i am left alone..so i took THAT time to learn more..
ain't like anyone got hurt..
they both loved it..
one online got HER kicks and my Owner got a better slave.......and.........i learned...its a win/win/win situation..3 out of 3...
100% turnover...everyone was happy.
as to whatever else You are talkin about??????????

k
any who way
take care,huh?
that was calif back a few years ago.......

i am in Wi now..........doing different things in a different life.

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RE: What if - 12/26/2005 10:43:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: LaDee

What consequence/discipline would You enforce if You found out Your sub/slave joined an online sissy training stable? La'Dee

At the risk of being the only sub or slave who replies to this question, I would agree with most of the Mistresses here that it is certainly a serious breech of trust when a sub or slave goes outside of the relationship because his or her needs are not being met. After all, does not what we do always require a huge amount of trust?

I have no idea what you personally would do in this circumstance, but if I were you I would take a long and very serious look at this relationship.

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RE: What if - 12/26/2005 11:10:14 AM

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what ARE You talking about?
are Ya talkin about that online thingie?
hell Girl, She knew i was doin it. She said ain't no biggie...possession is 9.9 tenths of the Laws of Goddess...
She said as long as i learn something new,...to further my training as-a-sissy--it was cool.

If you actually read my post, then you know damn well what I'm talking about. You are presenting a totally different situation than the OP - in your situation, there was no sneaking, no cheating. In the OP's situation, there was - totally different scenario, totally different reactions to it.

I don't particularly care what others do as long as they don't impose it on me - I may think it's wrong, but unless they ask me for my input, I'll stay out of it. When I am asked for input, I'll give it, whether they'll like it or not. Cheating is wrong, and I will always think so - having multiple trainers/Dominants/PYLs, as long as everyone involved knows what is going on, is fine.

The reason that I am pointing out these differences is that you posted that you didn't see a problem with someone being trained by more than one person, because you've done it ... but the situations are NOT the same - you did it with the knowledge and permission of your r/t Domme, and I would assume the knowledge of the o/l Domme as well - in the OP, the sub did not have his r/t Domme's permission for this, she had no clue about it until she found evidence of it on the computer. In your case - no cheating, no deceit, no problem - in the OP's case, cheating, lying, deception ... BIG problem.

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