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Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 1:05:21 PM

RealSub58

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.... you are the private type and don't even air a spot of anything eluding to dirty laundry on the clothes line of forum boards... for many various reasons; although there is no issue in contributing to posts or reading and commenting about another's. After you have exhausted, truly exhausted your search for an answer to what burns within, who would you go to?

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 1:39:57 PM

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I guess it depends on your definition of 'exhaust'.
The first and only person I would go to, is Darcy. If I could not be open about anything with him, then I would not see the point of the relationship. You then exhaust it together. If you can't get through it together, try counselling.

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 1:44:26 PM

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this slave wholeheartedly agrees with .the dark.

Master is the first and last person this slave would go to and she trusts completely that we would find the answer together...or it would remain one of life's great mysteries.

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 2:47:23 PM

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There's no answer here to any question I might have. I wouldn't even bother looking anywhere at all before having a good old chew-it-over session with M. I wouldn't even get to the *burning* stage.

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 3:01:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

this slave wholeheartedly agrees with .the dark.

Master is the first and last person this slave would go to and she trusts completely that we would find the answer together...or it would remain one of life's great mysteries.

I agree with beth agreeing with .the dark. :)

And I'll add onto beth's comment. In my experience, when I have banded together with carol to find such an answer, even if we do not find the answer, we typically end up finding something -- even if all we found was that we love each other.

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 3:14:04 PM

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You might chose someone whos postings you respect and ask them if you can talk about a problem you are having. They may or may not want to chat, but its well worth a try.

of course, this is assuming that you can't talk about the burning issue with your significant other.

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 5:56:41 PM

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quote:

who would you go to?

It is probably not the answer you are looking for, but I go to me. I am a Buddhist, I will go somewhere and meditate. I find that the answer is always within.

(Gosh, that was deep.. *grin*)

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 6:46:14 PM

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Choose someone off the boards whose respect you admire.

Or ask a friend with a similar moral compass to your own (or the moral compass you wish you had...mine's a bit rusty).

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 7:13:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: antipode

(Gosh, that was deep.. *grin*)

Oh Rob, you're so deep...

(Sorry, I had a Millie Helper moment).

To the OP, I have indeed had some things I didn't know how to deal with, and was not receiving help from he who owned me at the time. I am fortunate to have a couple of extremely close friends whom I trusted in seeking counsel from. That counsel mostly consisted of holding up a mirror and asking me what I saw (figuratively). I found my own answers there.

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 7:46:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RealSub58

.... you are the private type and don't even air a spot of anything eluding to dirty laundry on the clothes line of forum boards... for many various reasons; although there is no issue in contributing to posts or reading and commenting about another's. After you have exhausted, truly exhausted your search for an answer to what burns within, who would you go to?

Since I don't see anything in your question that implies it has to with an owner or implies having not spoken with an owner, I'd say it really depends.

If it had something to do with a person I know from lifestyle events, I might seek out another person who I thought would understand the situation. I'd do the same if it has to do with my friends or family misunderstanding what I do and how I live my life. I might even go to my Mother or Valyraen's mother. If it had to do with Valyraen, I might talk to him first. Or I might not. I might talk to friends first.

Valyraen and I have never held with the belief that he must be the first to know everything in order to have an open and honest relationship. Sometimes things will bother me until I get a chance to talk to someone else when I've realize "Hey, this isn't really what bothers me." Then I figure out that either I don't care about it at all or I figure out what is actually bothering me. This allows me to have a more informed and more productive discussion with him as I've already sorted through my feelings.

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 8:20:13 PM

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For me it's not a who, but a what.

The Four Noble Truths by H.H. The Dalai Lama.

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 8:46:14 PM

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My best friend, my people I have the ability to speak with, other chosen family members, my sister, others dear, as well as a professional.
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< Message edited by DavanKael -- 11/3/2008 8:47:17 PM >

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/3/2008 9:10:01 PM

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People often email someone who's posts resonate with them and ask questions of them. Most of us regular posters get them, I don't often hear from them again because most were looking for affirmation rather than actual advice.

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/4/2008 12:50:32 AM

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Personally speaking, in terms of trust and respect, there is no human being I hold higher than my Dominant, which is one of the main reasons he even IS my Dominant, so there really would be no one else I would go to. I should add he is an amazing communicator and problem solver, so really he is my "it"! Of course if it was an area in which he had no knowledge, experience or expertise etc I would still discuss it with him, but I know that when he feels it appropriate he is not at all hesitant to seek out the advice of others more knowledgeable on a particular issue or subject, or direct me to seek them out. Good luck!

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/4/2008 3:30:53 AM

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Of course the first person i'd take my question or problem to would be my Owner. That being said, without having one of those i might ask someone from the Forums that i respected, but i'd probably go to one of my real time friends....find the person who would be mostly likely to have the experience to help me think through a problem. I have a wonderful dear old friend who has been a slave to her Master for more than 30 years...I know her life and how she lives it; she's always willing and gracious to share her walk with me.

In the end it doesn't matter who you ask, but what you do with the information and advice....

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/4/2008 4:55:07 AM

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the dark is right.

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/4/2008 5:09:10 AM

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Greetings,

My first thought was "I'd go to LA." She is a trusted friend as well as being sexy google for the boards. Finding the ones outside of our primary relationship to help us understand the things we struggle with is immensely valuable.

I find that having close confidants, those I trust to both hear and help, allow me to consider all the different perspectives and find balance in my life.

I also agree with .the dark in that He is always the best guide post for thoughts and feelings which leave us exhausted. Best of luck in your search.

well wishes ~ fairer than she

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/4/2008 8:24:30 AM

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The first person i would go to is my Master. No matter how helpful the message borads can be they can't take the place of talking to a real live person. I know if it was a personal problem he would help me solve it. Some other problem i know he would give me good advice. If i was unowned i would go to my best friend, she is not the sharpest knife in the drawer but at least she would let me talk it out.

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/4/2008 5:12:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: leadership527
In my experience, when I have banded together with carol to find such an answer, even if we do not find the answer, we typically end up finding something --

I did exhaust all my resources, even my Sir. And 2 of my resources said the same thing. One from a male and one from a woman perspective. It was interesting. But the ball is back in my court to try another way.... ......drawing my feelings. They do say a picture says a thousand words?? But I know I will find something. Thanks ya'll

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RE: Suppose ...... - 11/4/2008 6:25:23 PM

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Sometimes, I go to Sir or to someone I have great respect for, but in the end I go into mediation. Only through calming my mind, can I understand the answers.

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