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First time meeting - 8/5/2004 7:04:40 PM   
quietpleasures45


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Status: offline 		Question that needs to be asked. Is for the first time, meeting a Dom. We are just meeting to get to know each other, for maybe an hour but...more then likely i will be getting my first spanking...here is the question...do i need a safe word? Or trust him to know when to stop?
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RE: First time meeting - 8/5/2004 7:12:00 PM   
SherriA


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Status: offline 		Only you can decide that. People can tell you what works for them, but we're all individuals and need to do whatever works best for us personally. What works for me may not work for you, and vice versa. Trust your instincts and do what you feel is best for you.

Oh, and just fyi, most people are going to tell you that making plans to play at a first meeting is a bad idea. Maybe it is...again, only you can decide whether it's right for you or not.

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RE: First time meeting - 8/5/2004 7:21:27 PM   
quietpleasures45


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Status: offline 		Thank you SherriA....we have talked for awhile now and its right to meet and we both agreed to talk first and see if the "sparks" are real as they are online. And i blushingly admit that i want my first spanking so bad lol

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RE: First time meeting - 8/5/2004 7:36:47 PM   
LadyShoshin


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Status: offline 		You need
A) a safe CALL, somone who has the Dom's information, has addresses, phone numbers, a check in time to make sure you are ok, a code for I am fine & one for call the calvary in NOW, you need to let the Dom know ahead of time that you are setting up a safe call

B) This is the first time you are meeting him & you ask if you should trust him to know when to stop????? Safe words!!!! Use safe words!!!!!!! And I definately wouldn't let him restrain me on the first play meeting. Make sure you take your own car to the meeting so you can leave when you are ready. Check in with your safe call not just once, but a few times, pick someone you trust to be there. They can even be vanilla, just give them the Dom's information, tell them you are going on a date and as a precaution you want someone to know where you are and that you are ok.

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RE: First time meeting - 8/5/2004 8:03:24 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		There's some very good advice on this thread:


first meeting guidelines

Hope it goes well for you.

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RE: First time meeting - 8/5/2004 8:57:31 PM   
LadyShoshin


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Status: offline 		Check out http://www.leatheracademy.com/safe_calls.htm & http://www.geocities.com/safecalls4friends/Friends.html for more information, don't just take my word on it.

http://master_gurney.tripod.com/Safewords.html http://www.leatheracademy.com/safe-word-signals.htm

Nuff said?

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RE: First time meeting - 8/5/2004 9:20:17 PM   
ScorpioMaster


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Status: offline 		Do not forget to meet in a public place so if things do not feel right you could leave or have some one set up to a check in with a pass word you could use when they call you in case there is trouble. You could call them and when you do give the pass word for them to return your call. Then you have a way out by saying you are needed home. If they know your pet name then uses a different name of the pet. I know of one case with a dome friend calls her check in and something was not right. The person she set up for her check in picked up on and showed up or called later telling her son needed her and it was a way out for her. A sky diver’s will use a spare chute as a back up in case they needed it. Good luck

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RE: First time meeting - 8/6/2004 1:02:00 PM   
quietpleasures45


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for your help and advice. As said i am new to this and your advice was very helpful in that we rearranged the meeting to fit a "safe" first meeting. I also set up a person as a "call" person as someone suggested as well. Thank you bunches again

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