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Not Again - 11/3/2008 8:19:40 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		VALUE   what do you have to make you valuable. what is your qualities as a dom domme or sub  what kinds of things that make you speacil or different or unique 

do you value you or do you let the slut factor kick in become the fruit of everyones sexual desire.  Value  what does it mean  to you
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RE: Not Again - 11/3/2008 8:36:07 PM   
monywildcat


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Status: offline 		I feel that it is who I am, rather than what I can do, is what makes me valuable.  There is no one out there like me. 

Oh, and I make a mean martini.  And I like to cook.  I instinctively know when Daddy's beer is about empty without looking at it, and scamper off to get a refill.  I smell nice.  People tell me I'm a good cook.  I make sure there is juice or something cold to drink when Daddy stops by during his shift at work.  I am OCD about keeping my vehicle clean and in good working order.  I am a neat-freak about the house, however don't look right now, it's a post-Halloween hot mess.  I'm girly.  whee, this is fun!!!  I listen patiently and pay attention during the long stories about the online gaming adventures.  Okay, I'm stopping now as this is becoming more like a damn resume. 

Everyone has their own thoughts on what makes them "valuable".  It would be interesting to hear what others have to say about the meaning of "value". 

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RE: Not Again - 11/3/2008 8:39:19 PM   
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RE: Not Again - 11/3/2008 9:11:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd rather not say and prefer to let people work it out for themselves. Besides everyone sees me differently.

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RE: Not Again - 11/3/2008 9:21:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		I value Me for many reasons but, any value I may, or may not have has to be measured by another if there is going to be any investment on their part.  It helps when they find value in the parts of Me that I value.  (and vice versa) 



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RE: Not Again - 11/3/2008 9:42:08 PM   
theobserver


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Status: offline 		Personal value, to me, is something that starts inward then radiates outward. That's where I find conflict in your question, because to me, it cannot be found in validation from others. It's like, the saying, "if you don't respect yourself, how can you expect other's to?"

For me, it's not about a series of tasks or willingness to succumb or bend to the wants and needs of others.

Having said that, some ways that people may outwardly show how they value themselves can be seen in how they approach life, whom they choose to share themselves with, their personal grooming habits and how they treat others.

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RE: Not Again - 11/3/2008 10:45:03 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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What Is Offered
Affection
BDSM Skills
Communication
Devotion
Guidance
Honesty and Integrity
Humor
Intelligence
Loyalty
Leadership
Practicality
Spirituality
Trust

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RE: Not Again - 11/4/2008 1:25:15 AM   
antipode


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Status: offline 		Why does a dom let the slut factor kick in? Lordie, another contrived question.

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RE: Not Again - 11/4/2008 2:15:55 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		I'm not special and unique in the great scheme of things. There's nothing I have or do that many people don't have or do to a greater or lesser extent.

As far as my value is concerned, who knows? If other people in my life consider me valuable, then I am, to them.

I don't have any qualities as a 'sub' that I didn't have before I was owned.

I have a feeling of self-worth but I'm not sure what that has to do with 'slut factor'.

What does value mean to me? It's something I place on people and things and something they place on me for widely varying reasons.

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RE: Not Again - 11/4/2008 4:07:27 AM   
LydiaSciKitten


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Status: offline 		What value means to me? Value is what a person can offer to themselves and to the others, that will improve the quality of their life.
Personally I think I am somewhat valuable because my Master leads a more pleasant life thanks to me, because I appreciate beauty, inteligence, elegance and truth, because I seek to create things that please the eyes, the ears, and the mouth, and I deem painting, composing, cooking and sex to all be forms of art that I love exploring. I have also been told I am fairly attractive, and I try to be as supportive and encouraging with the people that come to me for advice or share their experience and problems with me. Also, I am extremely young, so I am a thristy book, craving to be written onto by experienced hands.
Yet I think that no one shoud feel that their worth and value, however high they have been told it is, is reason enough for them to stop seeking amelioration.
I am sure I can still becoming an ever more valuable possession for Master, and I will strive to do so.

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RE: Not Again - 11/4/2008 7:55:19 AM   
MistressOfGa


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ORIGINAL: stella41b

I'd rather not say and prefer to let people work it out for themselves. Besides everyone sees me differently.

As usual I agree with this. People are going to view you the way they view you, and nothing and no one is going to change that. I would much rather be me and let whoever think what they want, then to be someone I am not, to please whomever I meet.

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RE: Not Again - 11/4/2008 8:32:51 AM   
Stroke


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Status: offline 		My "value" is my own beliefs and standards that I hold myself to. Personal integrity and consistency. I cannot control how others see me, nor would I care to. I value my own sense of who I am. 

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RE: Not Again - 11/4/2008 8:39:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		The value myself and express that through living with honesty and integrity, according to an ethical code that I took the time and energy to shape for myself. What others value in me likely varies from person to person and circumstance to circumstance, but I am the one who has to face myself each day, so I don't worry about other people's perceptions, and just focus on staying true to my own ethical compass.

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RE: Not Again - 11/4/2008 10:22:45 AM   
Jeptha


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ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64

VALUE what do you have to make you valuable. what is your qualities as a dom domme or sub what kinds of things that make you speacil or different or unique

do you value you or do you let the slut factor kick in become the fruit of everyones sexual desire. Value what does it mean to you

I think it's just the combination of qualities in whatever percentage or however arranged that makes me "unique" ...not that they're qualities no-one else has.
I think some of those things are;
Intelligence (not too overwhelming, but enough to make decent decisions about what fits me well - - - usually!),
Patience,
Creativity,
Open-mindedness,
Sanity (just enough),
Consistency,
Ability to communicate (both express myself and hear and consider what another is saying, and ask for clarification, as well. Not a master at this, but getting better.),
Tolerance for grey areas (not in everything, but in many things),
Motivation and energy (I don't sit around the house all day on my time off),
Generally happy demeaner (reasonably well-adjusted),
Curiosity ,
Appreciation,
Gratitude (try not to take things for granted, though to live consciously is not a deeply ingrained pattern or a "really fun" attribute of the western consumer lifestyle),
Confidence, but not hubris (usually, anyway),
Realize that I might be moderately talking out of my hat at any given time,
Fairly healthy lifestyle,
And I'll go ahead and add sluttiness and a perverse imagination as positive attributes, too.



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RE: Not Again - 11/4/2008 10:46:40 AM   
JustDarkness


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Status: offline 		Vallue?
mmm 

I do prety well in life without knowing my vallue

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RE: Not Again - 11/4/2008 10:59:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		I find value within me. That I am grateful for. I am also content that others find me a value to them.

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RE: Not Again - 11/4/2008 11:22:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		My slut factor IS a part of value in myself.

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RE: Not Again - 11/4/2008 3:49:30 PM   
LATEXBABY64


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