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MistressOfGa -> RE: New Sissy (11/5/2008 8:08:05 AM)
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Explain, that the sissy will be alone without anyone to accept them for what they are if they do not learn to obay in short order...
With respect, I disagree with this. Telling a sissy that no one will accept them for what they are, if they do not do what you want them to, can be so damaging to their psyche. There are many who already feel that no one accepts them as they are, without having the woman/man who they respect the most telling them as well.
From experience, my last sub was a virgin when I met him. He was also a sissy and I made mistakes with him that I still feel badly about. I drilled it into his head that he would never find another Mistress/Mommy like me. That no matter who he found, he would always see my face. I thought, mistakenly, that we would stay together till the end of days, so I wasn't worried about what it was doing to his mind. I knew I would always be there for him. Long story short, due to his own personal choices, he was released. Five months later, he is still unable to give himself to another woman. She could be vanilla or kink, doesn't matter. He is convinced that he will never find another to take my place. I did this to him. I can not undo what I have done, I can only encourage him to go out and meet people, be open to another relationship and be happy.
I found myself telling my Koko the same thing, until I stopped myself. I know I will not be in his life for that long, so I have encouraged him to continue on and be happy. I ask him to find someone who will be kind to him, who will encourage him to follow his dreams and will respect him. Tall order? I don't think so. I think he deserves the best and if I can not be here for him, than I ask that he takes his time to find one who will love him as I do. In other words, he has my permission to find happiness after I am gone.
Before anyone posts criticism for what I have done, let me add, there is nothing anyone can say to me about how I handled this, that I haven't already told myself. I am human. I have faults. I readily admit that I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, even if my Koko thinks I am <s>
MistressFoxi,
You ask "what's the quickest way to obtain total and unwavering obedience?" My answer is take your time. There is no quick way to go about this. He is a human being. Treat accordingly.
Good luck to you! I have had the best times with my past sissies and I respect them tremendously. I mean, it isn't easy for a man to admit that he is a sissy. I respect them for that fact, alone.
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