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A Question for Fem Subs/Slaves - 11/4/2008 6:01:41 PM

DivaLadyTJ

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I've been in the lifestyle since the mid 90s, receiving my initial education as a sub/slave in a "Victorian" household. I found I loved the genre, but wasn't worth much as a sub/slave. Every fiber of me is Dominant, and while I'm straight, would love to find a fem sub who may or may not be bi. I'm not bi, but am comfortable "tormenting" and caring for a female. Every now and then, I'd like to approach a possibility, but am only concerned with friendship first. I'm unsure of how to make this approach, except to just let it hang out about who I am, what I want, and let it go from there.

What do you all think?

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RE: A Question for Fem Subs/Slaves - 11/4/2008 6:39:31 PM

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I think I'm sure there are women out there who would be interested. Myself, I don't think I'd want to be involved with someone who wasn't sexually attracted to me. Unless they were doing no strings housework for me.

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RE: A Question for Fem Subs/Slaves - 11/4/2008 8:06:13 PM

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In my opinion, looking towards friendship only and then if any chemistry happens ... If not then you still have a friend. But, yes, letting it all hang out there in terms of what your interests are, generally speaking, would be appropriate, particularly given that part of building a friendship is sharing that type of thing.

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RE: A Question for Fem Subs/Slaves - 11/4/2008 8:08:18 PM

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I think people in the lifestyle are good at laying things out, and aren't surprised when others do it. No point in hiding your intentions and ambushing the person later on.

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RE: A Question for Fem Subs/Slaves - 11/4/2008 10:26:04 PM

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You said it pretty clearly right there. You are interested in a fem-sub for non-sexual power exchange, or give a more indepth description of what sort of things you'd like to have a fem-sub for.
Be practical, be up-front.

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RE: A Question for Fem Subs/Slaves - 11/5/2008 11:38:17 AM

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You would have to also accept not being the primary person in her life. She would be a friend and a play partner but she would also be out there dating, having relationships with men that might turn into more. Can you accept that? Because it isn't right to tell someone you are incapable of satisfying her needs and refusing her the right to have those needs met.

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RE: A Question for Fem Subs/Slaves - 11/5/2008 3:17:17 PM

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Thanks Everyone! I certainly have a lot of catching up and new learning to do!

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RE: A Question for Fem Subs/Slaves - 11/5/2008 3:18:31 PM

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Thanks Everyone! I certainly have a lot of catching up and new learning to do!

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RE: A Question for Fem Subs/Slaves - 11/7/2008 12:40:18 PM

littlemisssnarf

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Ooh see now this sparked something in me - on a fantasy level!

i am really not into the chick thing.... muff diving really grosses me out.....! However in my fantasy imagination i have always desired to be used as an object/maid by a Domme...!

Curious - and ta very much for posting from the other side.....!

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