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LeonM -> What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 8:29:48 AM)
im learning how to be a better dom and i think it would be easier if i learned what subs slaves expect (im looking for mainly whats expected withen the first week of the relationship and in the long term) but anything would help

HisPrincess05 -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 8:34:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LeonM im learning how to be a better dom and i think it would be easier if i learned what subs slaves expect (im looking for mainly whats expected withen the first week of the relationship and in the long term) but anything would help I've only been with my Master/dom for 9 months, thats how long I have been in the lifestyle as well. But I can tell you this what I expect from my dom/master is the following: 1. Honesty 2. Understanding my needs, desires, my fantasies, my hopes, my dreams, my goals 3. Love and Care 4. Compassion for things outside of the lifestyle 5. Patience 6. Strength- Firmness yet gentle in ways Those are just some of the things that I looked for in searching for my Master. I'm lucky I found mine right off the bat. Its different for everybody I know but its a start.

kristileigh -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 8:37:30 AM)
Set rules and guidelines: how the sub is expected to address You what to wear or not to wear what is expected of the sub in public(i am expected to walk a step to the side and behind) what both of Y/your goals are any hard limits? just a few i am very sure You will get many more ideas. Best of luck! slave kristi

Mercnbeth -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 8:53:51 AM)
this slave expects a dom not to be submissive. everything else would fall under a different category. this slave doesn't expect the descriptor of "dom" to indicate anything about one's integrity/patience/physical appearance/spiritual path/etc.

novabunny -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 8:59:30 AM)
For this slave a Dominant is someone to look up to, respect and trust in. Master gives the girl honesty, freedom to make her own choices daily but is always a guiding light if the girl is unsure about something. This girl has been with her Master for 10 months and has grown in herself under His care and guidance. Master can be harsh when needed... but in a heart beat can be the kindest, most gentle man you will ever meet. Don't mean to get mushy but its how the girl is made to feel. The girl has had previous doms who weren't as good and she nows knows the difference. x nova x

sunshinedreams -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 9:18:06 AM)
I expect that He would be interested in refining the person I am, and not wanting to diminish me as a person. I feel that I need to know He is really looking out for my interests, as well as His own, to be able to trust enough to be able to put my life in His hands. edited to add that this is what I did look for and did find[:D]

RCdc -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 9:23:08 AM)
Nothing other than they should be themselves and not what others expect of them. the.dark.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 9:36:38 AM)
I expect from my Dominant that he be someone I can respect. Honor and Integrity and someone i can trust.

celticlord2112 -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 9:41:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LeonM im learning how to be a better dom and i think it would be easier if i learned what subs slaves expect (im looking for mainly whats expected withen the first week of the relationship and in the long term) but anything would help To be a better man, learn what YOUR slave expects, and decide which expectations you are willing to meet. Make sure she knows also what your expectations are, and the consequences of not meeting those expectations.

ProlificNeeds -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 10:22:55 AM)
Each sub looks for different compatibility factors in their 'dream dom'. Worry about being yourself, not what other people want you to be.

Barelily -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 12:38:14 PM)
Honesty (even if it's brutal) Draws out my need to be the best slave I can be for him Experienced with the tools of the trade Maturity and playfulness, yet stern Intelligence (And I don't mean purely academic) Clarity in his own mind and stability Hairy chest and at least an average size penis [;)] Knowledge of a slaves mind Consistence with his rules Allows me to be the basic me that is me[:D] Caring, guidance, approachable, security... Basically everything that comes in the wonderful package of a natural Dom. Disclaimer: This post was made in response to the post made by LeonM and is based on my opinion and experiences only.

DesFIP -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 12:43:48 PM)
I expected that he didn't assume I was just like his last one but a person in my own right. That he paid attention to what I said and accepted the fact that I know me a lot better than he does. That he not condescend or pat me on the head saying "you'll change your mind little girl". Basically, that he gave what he wanted to get. Respect, honesty, keeping one's word. Those things are for both sides of the slash.

agirl -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 12:53:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LeonM im learning how to be a better dom and i think it would be easier if i learned what subs slaves expect (im looking for mainly whats expected withen the first week of the relationship and in the long term) but anything would help Personally, I don't expect anything at all in the first week of anything. As I'm in a long term M/s relationship.........I can say that what I GOT was someone that makes good decisions for me, that does what he says he's going to and is consistant. agirl

slavekal -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 1:47:19 PM)
I expect a Mistress to tell me what she expects from me. I expect her to tell me what her requirements are and what the rewards/punishments are for certain behaviors. I expect her to be consistent and fair.

akisha -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 2:05:44 PM)
~FR~ Every sub expects something different, reallistically the only one that can answer your question is the sub you are getting involved with. There are the standards like honesty, reliability, consistancy.

kallisto -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 4:02:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirl Personally, I don't expect anything at all in the first week of anything. Agreed. Long term - honesty, respect, integrity, to be himself .. all standard answers that most people want in any relationship. Everything else, I think would fall under what would be right for "our" relationship.

DavanKael -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 4:15:32 PM)
Honesty, honour, loyalty, and the other things that would make someone compatible regardless of the dynamics. Davan

laura2161 -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 5:05:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth this slave expects a dom not to be submissive. everything else would fall under a different category. this slave doesn't expect the descriptor of "dom" to indicate anything about one's integrity/patience/physical appearance/spiritual path/etc. What a fantastic answer. I have nothing to add except to say ' what she said' laura

WildHoneyPie -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 5:06:20 PM)
Long term: that what he needs is complementary to what I need that he is comfortable enough in his own skin to take me in hand that he is brave enough to be strong for me that he cherishes me and is honored by my submission that he brooks no insolence from me and never shirks from teaching me obedience that he never ever shames me for being who I am

Lilith13 -> RE: What you expect from a dom (11/6/2008 6:25:20 PM)
I'm the sub--I'm not in a position to expect anything. My Domme molds my expectations to her; she doesn't adjust to fit mine. In practical terms, however, I think a dom has to be decisive. I think he has to have a lot of knowledge about such things as human nature, relationships, the human body, and so forth. The dom has to prepare himself on his own.

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