cpK69 -> RE: Rewarding Failure (11/7/2008 5:14:20 AM)
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Thank you, all, for the responses. Merc, glad you stopped in, as I believe it was your posts that I first started seeing the phrase in. quote:
Why think outside the box, work to be self sufficient, or expect to incur the consequence for decisions when all around you for all your life failure was encourage through rewards? The short answer to this question; honor. It is the same answer I come up with when I ask; “Why do I keep trying so hard, when I know I’m just spinning my wheels to make someone else rich?” I think, perhaps, those who wish to chalk this up as rewarding failure, are missing a very important aspect of the situation. If I am the kid who receives the trophy I didn’t earn, the gain is empty. Seriously, if my teammates think I suck, their parents despise me, and I can’t breath by the time I get to first base (if I even make it to first base), the experience is not going to be a pleasant one. Chances are, I didn’t even want to play baseball in the first place. If I am the kid who feels my trophy has been diminished because someone who didn’t earn theirs, got one too; I’ve lost sense of value. However, I’m thinking, right about then is when someone should be slapping me up beside the head, and asking me what the fuck is wrong with me. That trophy isn’t what made me “great”, anymore then it did the kid that didn’t earn it. If I was only playing for the trophy, and got one; I should be happy. Otherwise, it was for the experience and honor of knowing I did a good job, which I will take with me on my path. The other kid got a piece of plastic mounted on a rock, that’s it; I should feel bad for the poor SOB. This leads me to what I see as the real issue here. Why does the kid who can’t play baseball think they should? Why is learning differently, considered a bad thing? Why should I aspire to earn $150k a year (just throwing a number in there), when the cannibalism of big business holds no appeal to me? And why should I ask for apple pie, when what I really want is blueberry cheesecake? Because, "The American Dream", how does that saying go? "Mom, baseball, and apple pie"? What you are referring to as “rewarding failure”, looks to me like institutionalization. I said it in another thread, and believe it to be accurate; reward always goes to success. So, who gets the reward? Those who we let convince us that we must strive for that trophy, college education, SUV, and house with the two door garage and white picked fence. Consequence is ours. In order for us to gain any reward from the experience, we must ask ourselves; “Did we learn anything?” Kim
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