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NessunDorma -> Redoing my profile (11/8/2008 2:43:02 PM)
Hello all, I'm a Dominant male who's recently realized how boring (not to mention unsuccessful) my profile was. I've gotten rid of most of it, but now I have to figure out what to replace it with. Anyone have any advice? I'd like something more than just the facts...

hopelessfool -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/8/2008 2:44:08 PM)
Play on what you want. not what you DONT want. (it comes off as negative)

VampiresLair -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/8/2008 2:45:27 PM)
Facts, interests, vanilla and BDSM. What you are looking for in a partner and what you offer. What your hard limits are , and what your must haves are. That should just about round it out.

Usako -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/8/2008 5:43:48 PM)
Depends on what type of person you're looking to attract really. I think the best profile is a normal one, one that shows you're a multi-dimensional person. Humor, wit, talk about more than just BDSM. Don't be negative, don't be too demanding, be honest and up front most of all. Looking for something purely sexual? Say it! Looking for someone mainly into pain? Say it! Don't hide what you want. The last thing someone wants to find out is that this nice person who seems interested in them has totally different goals of how things will flow.

SadysticJester -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/9/2008 7:48:23 AM)
be creative but truthfull,i'm always redoing,adding,subtracting things from ours,or you cud start a journal thingy here where yu can be to the moment and then move on from there,,,shrugs

hejira92 -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/9/2008 11:49:06 AM)
Well, I agree with what most have suggested- be real, state clearly what your wants and goals are, show humanity and humor. However, if you take a look at Master's original profile (and He still has it posted with a prefix), you'll see that He spoke eloquently on His goals as a Dominant and what He wanted in and expected of a submissive. I was very attracted to that because it showed He put thought into His dominance- He obviously knew how to get into a girl's head. And I knew that that is what I needed- someone stronger (psychologically) than me who could really control me. When we made contact, then I found out how much we had in common (vanilla), and how well we meshed. But before I would or could go there, I needed to know I was not wasting my time with another "dominant" that I could wrap around my finger (I'm not a brat, just a strong, intelligent, independent personality).

marie2 -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/9/2008 11:53:42 AM)
What ever you do, don't write complaints in it or talk about how unsuccessful your search has been in the past.

SadysticJester -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/9/2008 1:22:48 PM)
writing complaints can be done,but dont be surprised to hear about it/them,,,,i allow my subs/slaves to write anything but also tell them that while i wont critisize them or what they write,i will go into more detail to right a wrong or an unjust act or simply to explain things so thye are more clear

aravain -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/10/2008 11:04:43 AM)
Mmmmm... Puccini-gasm... Eh? OH, right. I tend to like profles that have a little bit of thought behind the structure... a little artistry to the prose, rather than a direct list of requirements. Shrug but I'm also kinda strange... goes off to listen to Turandot

SailingBum -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/10/2008 7:55:38 PM)
All the ppl I have talked to on here was thru my posting on the threads. BadOne

NessunDorma -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/12/2008 10:28:27 AM)
Good to hear all of the above...It all seems very helpful. Thank you all.

sailorfrank -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/12/2008 12:06:50 PM)
Yes like the sailingbum said you will get more responses here than at the profile page. But always watch your posts as some are easily offended by simple things? But the rest are great and have a good sense of humor![;)]

spatejak -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/13/2008 9:29:27 AM)
I see that we're neighbors. I would suggest that you get in touch with Black Rose, the local BDSM support groups http://www.br.org They have a SIG called The Next Generation for younger people. CollarMe is fine, but nothing beats face-to-face interaction[:)] Now keep in mind that even the best profile is going to get relatively little attention[&:] There are realtively few submissive females compared to the number of so-called doms. Also subs are generally bombarded by email from all sorts of freaks that tend to make them guj-shy. Remember, men do the hunting, but women do the catching.

PrincessEllie -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/13/2008 10:38:39 AM)
Tell the truth about yourself, what you're looking for, and what you have experienced in the past. Do not say "I haven't found anyone in a long time" say, "I really hope to find someone soon." If that doesn't work, flashy text?

NessunDorma -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/18/2008 3:19:42 PM)
Thanks to everyone who responded...I've got at least something much much better up now. Even if that's not what leads to a meet, it's nice knowing people can look at it and get some idea.

IronBear -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/19/2008 5:57:24 AM)
You could tell us something about yourself, likes and interests. Give us some insight on your goals regarding a BDSM Relationship. Remember it is best to start off as live apart and not 24/7 untill you are both used to each other then build from there. You could give a list of things which you are looking for such as areas of BDSM which you enjoy (so a potential sub/slave knows and if that is a hard limit they can not contact you), and mention your hard limits too.

ODadEO -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/19/2008 7:51:02 AM)
Yep, just make it easy to read, not too 'full of yourself,' but indicate who/what you are looking for. And write it in a 'natural' way so people can see something of what you are like -- your attitude -- through how you express your thoughts. And getting a pic up is better than not, as many people only look at the profiles with pics.

wandersalone -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/20/2008 12:37:40 AM)
I like the new profile....just a suggestion ... in the last line you say that due to some unpleasantness pics are available on request. Why don't you keep it simple and just say pics available on request, leave out the part that can lead to them wondering about the past drama. I am sure you will tell them all about it if/when appropriate anyway. :)

tweedydaddy -> RE: Redoing my profile (11/20/2008 2:42:13 AM)
Just make sure it reflects YOU and that it's not just about sex, which is incredibly boring in a profile, try to entice and entertain, if people are bothering to look through it, you should at least try to make them smile. I think making them laugh would be going too far, which is why I am dressed in mine. besides, there is no zoom facility!!!!!!

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