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domtimothy46176 -> RE: 24/7 Slaves (1/20/2005 10:32:19 AM)
My situation may be a little different from others, based on what I've seen from the responses here. I don't consider my girl to be my mate, nor does she consider me to be hers, although she carries my child. Although she doesn't think of herself as a slave, considers herself too burdened with limitations to be a true slave, there is no doubt that I own her. We do have different perceptions of our daily lives. I, holding all ultimate authority, see everything she does as service. She sees those areas where I allow her initiative to be less than service. Her position is that if it's something she would do anyway, even if done to my standards or within parameters set by me, it can't truly be a service. In the final analysis, I value her service more than she does. We both see her position as that of a servant and mine as master of the manor. Her service encompasses all that I might require from her provided I accept that her sexual service only extends to my person. Her only requirements: she be allowed to serve with honor, which dictates that I manage my house and personal affairs with honor; I provide her a bed to sleep in; I allow her to attend to her basic human survival needs; I provide her an environment wherein my requirements are not contradictory to the point where she can not fulfill her service obligations. She asked me what role I desired to play in the life of our child. She didn't presume that I was obligated to take responsibility for "her" pregnancy. Our dynamic may seem somewhat alien to those who more closely relate to their SO as a mate or some variation thereof. In truth, there are times when it occurs to me just how far from the norms of my upraising I've traveled. There are very few on the submissive side of the slash that I've spoken with who seem to relate to my girl's vision of service. I admit that it took a lot of discussion and soul-searching before I accepted her as my own and even now I am often awed by her selfless dedication. She may not be a slave in her own eyes because she won't sleep on the floor or be shared with others, but I couldn't place a higher value on her than I already do. She is "on" 24/7 unless her health gets so bad that I send her to bed or she is literally incapable of carrying on. There's nothing I would ask of her that she wouldn't do. Although she doesn't require much beyond the opportunity to serve, I find I'm inspired to actively seek out ways in which to reward her for her service. I can't give her a "vacation" from her service for it is rewarding to her to serve well but I do find other ways to show my pleasure. Her greatest satisfaction appears to knowing I appreciate her efforts. Quiet companionship, although not a requirement, seems to please her much more than baubles and nights out on the town. glad to share our experiences, Timothy

Tempestspet -> RE: 24/7 Slaves (1/20/2005 3:07:43 PM)
24/7 for me is living with him. We don't live in seperate households. I work outside the home, I own my own business. Though he is key in decisions for that business, as with all aspects of my life, and our childrens lives. We are D/s 24/7, though maybe not in the way some think of. He doesn't micromanage everything. I have been with him long enough, I know a lot of his preferences. And simply do everything, with him in mind. I choose my clothing according to what I know he would like to see me in, I also plan and cook the meals accroding to what he likes, I always ask him if there is something he would like first, and then proceed accordingly. (these are just a couple examples) I would like to mention though in reference to one post I read about a Master whose sub is carrying his child. I wonder why it is just "her" preganacy? Didn't it take both of you to produce the baby? Or is it someone elses? She asked what role you wanted to take in the childs life..... maybe someone should think about what role the baby would like it's father to take in it's life. Dad? or maybe sperm donor? Tempest's pet

lovingmaster45 -> RE: 24/7 Slaves (1/21/2005 3:53:55 AM)
quote: You make wanting a mate sound so superfluous, shallow and desperate; and I have to ask, doesn't anyone seeking any type of relationship want a mate? after all, even for kinksters, aren't there machines and toys to do just about what anyone wants/needs done? Who exactly does belong in BDSM? Is it only the people who want to play with different people, have multiple partners, swing, extreme bondage/torture, not have any intercourse at all, dress as the opposite sex, exhibit/watch, wear leather, etc, etc? What makes one a pure kinkster? What makes it okay to be here and to feel one belongs? What's the test? I had a slave once and we were not 24/7. I found even that too much for me. Too much responsibility; too much WORK. I like the FUN of bdsm play. That does not mean I am not dedicated to training my subs or that I do not care for them and love them. It does mean that I will NOT take over their life. It also means that they have to have a life. It has been my experience that people seeking 24/7 are, for the most part, looking for someone to support them. I am not interested. Had my children; had my business; had my career; now it is time to have my fun. I am honest about what I want; that is all I or anyone else can be in this lifestyle. Many threads on this site point to the problems people have had with dishonesty; so I figure if I am upfront with who I am and what I want life will be good. So far it has. Good luck to everyone in whatever it is they seek. Us? We are looking for new kinky friends all the time. If they turn into play partners...terrific. If they turn into long lasting D/s relationships...INCREDIBLE. Keep your options open is my motto. FYI. I am married to Head Bitch Barbie. We have been swinging with the same couple for 10 yrs. I have a sub (21 y/o swf) danielle, and I am going to collar slut susan (45 y/o mwf) this weekend. I also play on a regular basis with sluts penny, nicolle, and crissy. This works for all of us. I hope everyone else finds what makes them happy.

Tempestspet -> RE: 24/7 Slaves (1/21/2005 7:49:14 AM)
I may own my own business, but to claify as I have seen these others who just want to be taken care of financially also. My master also works bewteen 40 and 50 or so hours. So, both of us work. One doesn't lean on the other per say for support of that nature. That post didn't make me angry, but I didn't want to be lumped in, mistakenly for those are were in this pretty much for that sole reason.... lil sheepish grin Have a great day!! Tempest's pet

UtahGoddess -> RE: 24/7 Slaves (1/22/2005 7:36:52 AM)
My slave and I are 24/07. He is my slave, my vassal, my lover and yes...my mate. We have routines and such that reinforce the power dynamic incorporated into our daily activities. Things such as: He always refers to me as Goddess, Ma'am or Misstress. He kneels to serve me food or drink. He dresses for me. When in public he walks behind me. Etc etc. Is he naked in chains 24/07? No. Am I decked out in fetishwear every night? No. On the surface I'm sure we appear pretty much like any other average couple. The differences in daily life are subtle. But I know who he is to me and what I am to him. And when the mood strikes I have a whole dungeon full of toys and tools to exploit his masochistic needs and desires. For us....BDSM and D/s is about who we are to each other and less about how others define us. Ms Sandi

Tempestspet -> RE: 24/7 Slaves (1/22/2005 9:35:36 AM)
Ms Sandi, You said it better than I did. Thank you. This is pretty much exactly the way Master and I live. ..smiles..... Tempest's pet

Darthbetta -> RE: 24/7 Slaves (1/22/2005 3:14:18 PM)
Yep, and 24/7 is good. Masterbetta1 on yahoo im if you want to chat

garylee953 -> RE: 24/7 Slaves (2/5/2005 1:45:28 PM)
24/7 D/s is what i am about.........as to 24/7 s/m.......i havent seen that one....... granted.....i am mainly a domestics servant........but i am willing to learn more if a domme will teach more of Her needs. garylee

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