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marie2 -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 7:52:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation Hussy [;)] [sm=flash.gif]

IvyMorgan -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 11:32:55 AM)
Cuddles and to feel comfortable receiving them. Someone who understands that, sometimes I need to cry, and that means they have to hurt me (that's about the only time I'm selfish over pain, I don't care what they feel, I need it, and damnit, I'll get it). Someone to hold me when I cry. Personal space - that's a biggie for me, sometimes, we just need to be left alone. S&M - at least once a fortnight, (yeah, try doing that when you're single/LDR) Tokens of affection - it's the whole LDR thing Phone calls/conversations - see LDR issue They have to at least pretend the cake tastes good.

MsLyonese -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 11:35:22 AM)
The joy and thrill of that first trembling touch it's both a physical and mental need

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 11:54:23 AM)
Wow.. this is really hard for me to answer. I spent a considerable time in a monastic way of life, and I'm not really a touchy-feelie person... I don't really like to be touched, except for the occasional hug if -I- initiate it (and only for specific people that I've welcomed that way... the older I get, the less I want to hug just anybody). On the other hand, my disciplines have required several instances of silence for extended periods (ranging from 5-30 days), including no chatting, texting, blogging, and no verbal conversation -- no music, no singing, no Happy Tangent Land... and I -miss- that. I think that it would be the one thing I couldn't do without in a relationship, is that 'talking' thing -- debate, lecture, discourse, even argument. Everything else, for me, is a 'want', not a 'need'. I can survive, and even thrive, without them, though it's wonderful to be able to pierce, cut, draw blood and taste and smell it... I can, and have, lived well without it... same with sex and all of its other accoutrements... Nice to have if it's the right situation and the timing is good... but pretty much optional.

justgemmie -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 11:56:40 AM)
greetings miss :) and Eeveryone else :) i need pain every once in awhile. how i get it is up to Him, i really don't care if it's paddles, crops, hands, belt, whatever. but a pain session every once in a while. alone time. i work all day with people. i live with a room mate who is home almost all the time when i am. i see Dauntless on the weekends and we are together the entire time. wow!! sometimes i just need to be alone. well wishes, gemmie

aravain -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 12:01:51 PM)
Physically I need touch, I need the occasional hug, the occasional kiss, the ability to cuddle, even if it's only for a minute. Otherwise I need an edge, a bite to the sex. Some light pain (biting, scratching, etc), and a little bit of force will do it, though I do enjoy more. Those are my needs on the two physical levels (intimacy versus sexual) It's more important for me to have the intimacy... I can provide my own sexual 'release' but with other people I will need those two things in order to 'get off' on anything other than just pleasing my partner.

agirl -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 12:27:31 PM)
'Touch' would probably be the only physical thing I'd consider a need. That would be the only thing I can think of that would apply universally across any relationship I might have. agirl

NorthernGent -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 1:29:01 PM)
No way what?.....charity begins at home.

PrincessJ77 -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 1:34:30 PM)
His possessive kisses, strong hands, inconspicuous pinching or stroking while out in public. Being used as his urinal or fuck doll all weekend long. Damn, needed today to rest....

gypsygrl -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 2:44:54 PM)
quote: Everything else, for me, is a 'want', not a 'need'. I can survive, and even thrive, without them, though it's wonderful to be able to pierce, cut, draw blood and taste and smell it... I can, and have, lived well without it... same with sex and all of its other accoutrements... Nice to have if it's the right situation and the timing is good... but pretty much optional. Yeah, I wonder about how people define want vs. need. My definitions are different.

Barelily -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 3:00:16 PM)
The minimum I could make due with [;)] Ass play(non negotiable) Kissing(cuddling and touching included) Orgasm control Spanking Begging Giving head Being "Taken" Bondage Whips/Floggers Seeing his smile when I've pleased him(corny I know)

CreativeDominant -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 4:19:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation We talk a lot about what we need from our relationships, not want, need. Usually the things we discuss are all on the side of feelings, emotional point of view. For example equality, equal rights, to be loved, needed etc etc. But what about physically? What do you need physically from your relationships? What do you feel you couldn't be in a relationship without? Mine would be:- Whips Knives Floggers Kneeling Painful sex It's ironic how you note that what is often talked about in here are emotional needs vs. wants and then mention physical needs vs. wants. Ironic in that physically, all we really need is food, water, and some sort of protection...either clothing or walls...against the elements. The things mentioned above all come from an emotional/spiritual/sexual need within. Yes, they satisfy physically but the need that is satisfied...even if unrecognized or unknown of...is an inner need. That said, within a relationship, needs and wants often become intermingled because without certain criteria being met, why would we be in a relationship? For me, physically, I need touch...light touch, heavy touch, touch laden with desire. I need sexuality...both rough and gentle... but at a level that matches my own.

KnightofMists -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 4:43:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 Oh, you have no idea.... yeah... your right... when it comes to women... I pretty damn clueless

MadRabbit -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 4:48:54 PM)
The physical tends to coexist with the dynamic I need in my relationship so it's kind of an all or nothing deal. If I can't physically and sexually express myself my dominance (Sex on my terms and time, rough, painful, overpowering, controlling, and dominating are adjectives that come to mind), then the relationship dynamic isn't the one I need.

marie2 -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 5:32:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NorthernGent No way what?.....charity begins at home. I don't think I've ever heard a guy say....well....you know...what you said. I mean....that's rare, I guess.

marie2 -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 5:35:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 Oh, you have no idea.... yeah... your right... when it comes to women... I pretty damn clueless sigh It looks like I'm going to have to spell things out for you. I have a bumper sticker that says: "I'd crawl to Canada just to get spit on by KoM"

ulti -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 8:36:50 PM)
My physical needs: - Shelter - Water - Food - At least occasional affection/reassurance of some kind (When I feel neglected, I tend to struggle) Beyond that, it's generally optional. I've found through past experience that my satisfaction in service lies in the service itself - not any specific kink. I find my satisfaction in the pleasure of my Dominant. I do have my favorites, but there is no one kink I MUST have to thrive as a submissive to a Dominant I respect and admire. Water, however, is pretty mandatory. :]

KnightofMists -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 8:45:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 "I'd crawl to Canada just to get spit on by KoM" wow.. that is a big bumper... we could stretch out nicely on the back seat G but instead of crawling... how about driving that car.. alot quicker

NorthernGent -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/10/2008 11:07:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 quote: ORIGINAL: NorthernGent No way what?.....charity begins at home. I don't think I've ever heard a guy say....well....you know...what you said. I mean....that's rare, I guess. You must be aware of the principles of performance related pay?.................acceptable conduct = bestowed with a charter granting a measured slurp 3 times a week.......excellent behaviour = elevated to woodpecker status 5 times a week.....fall by the wayside = get the lass from next door 'round so she can enjoy the fruits of labour instead. There's no such thing as something for nothing in this life, and in the grand scheme of dreams and aspirations, even a burrow owl can find a way to get its cock sucked.

tweedydaddy -> RE: Physical needs ? (11/11/2008 1:49:17 AM)
I can't live without spanking someone until wet at least five nights a week, my palms itch for soft buttocks. I really find fulfillment from oral worship, it's the ultimate affirmation of really being wanted, I rate it on how long they can keep it up for, I have never come before I was ready, but I long to meet someone who can make me jump the gun!

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