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JustDarkness -> RE: Breakfast (11/10/2008 9:55:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile2 Some of us Doms enjoy being useful and of service at times too. :-P It's simply a matter of doing things for somebody we love and care about. Not a matter of orientation or living up to stereotypes. I don't caring for you s doesn't make you less D. And good service needs to be rewarded ;)

DesFIP -> RE: Breakfast (11/10/2008 1:00:53 PM)
He's made toast before. And he can grill a burger or a steak. Beyond that, I do the cooking.

agirl -> RE: Breakfast (11/10/2008 1:11:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile2 Some of us Doms enjoy being useful and of service at times too. :-P It's simply a matter of doing things for somebody we love and care about. Not a matter of orientation or living up to stereotypes. I haven't a hope in hell of 'serving' M in anything like the way he 'serves' me. He has always done far more for me than I do for him. He's got far more to offer me than I have him, in terms of 'service'. agirl

PrincessJ77 -> RE: Breakfast (11/10/2008 1:22:27 PM)
I love to cook, he loves to eat. It took some time, but I can even cook his favorite paella. (Ok, his mom came over to show me, but she's a dear and I adore her.) Breakfast is my domain during the week, as I do feel it is the meal that sustains us for the day. Eggs, waffles cereal, doesn't matter, we eat together. Afterward as I clean up, I make our lunches and they get ready for work/school. No reading the newspaper during breakfast, that's my rule. (And it seems to work as we have gotten closer to reconciling.) Now weekend breakfast is his way of pampering me after 'putting me through my paces'. Yes, aftercare for him includes cooking my favorite French Toast or southwestern omelet. Most weekends find us alone in the morning or as he calls it "our time". I do love weekends.

Alighierisquest -> RE: Breakfast (11/10/2008 1:53:00 PM)
Meals are important communal points in any relationship from D/s to vanilla. Too often I've seen meals talked about in D/s only in terms of manner and protocol, another time for a submissive to demonstrate their willingness to serve. I for one would appreciate footnotes in such works to include a nod to meals not being just about service but as taking care of one another. Not just going one way.

cutuppaperdoll -> RE: Breakfast (11/10/2008 4:17:28 PM)
sigh...im tire of waiting for my breakfast.

WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Breakfast (11/10/2008 4:38:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: cutuppaperdoll sigh...im tire of waiting for my breakfast. Oh girl, I'd cook it right up for you if I was there. :-)

Sandyshores29718 -> RE: Breakfast (11/10/2008 6:08:49 PM)
Sir quite loves cooking for me and I love him cooking for me! Hes a wonderful cook. A lot better than myself. Its great fun pestering him while he cooks with random grabs, licks, and nibbles. When he visits me if he wants I make a simple big breakfast for us. I enjoy cooking for him and he for me. What I love the most though is when we cook together and Sir tells me to chop this, cut that, and bring him this or that. sighs with pleasure

Riggor -> RE: Breakfast (11/10/2008 6:13:43 PM)
I love to cook breakfast for my lady, makes me feel good! I esp love it when she fixes me a big breakfast...good stout coffee, bacon, pancakes, hashbrowns and my eggs cooked in bacon grease..just the way I love em! I know it makes her proud to cook for me and it makes me proud to sit back and let her serve me......Thank you Darlin!

Riggor -> RE: Breakfast (11/10/2008 6:15:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sandyshores29718 Sir quite loves cooking for me and I love him cooking for me! Hes a wonderful cook. A lot better than myself. Its great fun pestering him while he cooks with random grabs, licks, and nibbles. When he visits me if he wants I make a simple big breakfast for us. I enjoy cooking for him and he for me. What I love the most though is when we cook together and Sir tells me to chop this, cut that, and bring him this or that. sighs with pleasure Well all I can say is...your a DAMN good chopper!

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Breakfast (11/10/2008 7:11:07 PM)
It is a myth that service = submission Again, it's not the act, it's the motivation and intent.

MasterTslave -> RE: Breakfast (11/11/2008 7:42:56 AM)
I thnk that is fine! Master T cooks all meals on the weekends, and cooks dinner during the week-always...I must admit I am the world's WORST COOK and everyone in the house if greatful that I don't cook...in my defense, it runs in the family...my mother, grandmother and great grandmother all could burn water in less than 30 sec as can I. Master T enjoys doing the cooking, it is a stress reducer to him...it gives him a project to work on that has a great outcome. Everyone enjoys what He has made and He gets great pride in that. Master does not think of it as be sub to me by any stretch...in fact, He has said times before that He loves cooking as it is Him making the choice of when and what we eat...control!!! He also likes to cut the grass (but makes me do the trimming)...there again, he makes the choice of how the house looks and when i need to work outdoors.

califsue -> RE: Breakfast (11/11/2008 8:37:45 AM)
I have to tell you for me, it is nice to see posts like this one made by Whiplash. I think so many people, especially new folks think a Dom who has a soft side is less than for some reason. I think it is important to recognize that both D/s can serve each other. Aren't the forums a place for sharing and learning and seeing how wonderful a relationship can be and the different dynamics that exist and appear to thrive?

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Breakfast (11/11/2008 8:43:30 AM)
I'm the cooking fetishist in our household. Regardless of the side of the collar, the kitchen is, was, and always will be my domain. The big difference now is that I can make wonderfully fanciful meals and amazing treats, and someone -else- can do the dishes (the part of cooking that I despise...)

ElectraGlide -> RE: Breakfast (11/11/2008 8:54:33 AM)
I agree with you Califsue, many Dom's and Master's do have a soft side, and are kind and caring. I know several nice Dom's and Master's that I enjoy talking with when I see them at a scene event. I went to a three day Master, Slave Conference this year and the word Efficiency was used often by the workshop speakers. Being efficient as a team and getting things done was a key reason that drew them into the relationship and was the glue that held it together. The submissive may do most of the domestic chores, but we are not afraid to roll our sleeves up and help here and there.

Padriag -> RE: Breakfast (11/11/2008 11:59:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah WhiplashSmile2, With this and your other thread I get the impression that you are defending your right to do whatever the hell you want to do in your relationship. My Friend it is YOUR Power Exchange to define not anyone elses on this board. I get this impression about many dominants regarding doing many things. As you say, it's their relationship, they're the dominant... do what they want and enjoy it. Dominance is not defined nor displayed by the physical acts themselves, but by the motivations for those acts. Run around in your underwear and clown shoes if that's what ya want. As for carrying them to bed... I've found more than a few found it very "domly" when I picked them up and said,"Woman, I need you to warm my bed." They either get all giggly, or all mushy, or very quiet... but it almost always gets a reaction... gets one in the bedroom too. [8D]

servantheart -> RE: Breakfast (11/11/2008 3:01:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Padriag As for carrying them to bed... I've found more than a few found it very "domly" when I picked them up and said,"Woman, I need you to warm my bed." They either get all giggly, or all mushy, or very quiet... but it almost always gets a reaction... gets one in the bedroom too. [8D] I've been carried to bed by men on several past occasions, though without the Domly type words as they were extremely vanilla relationships. If words to the effect of what You've posted here had been uttered too......mmmmmmmm [:)] [sm=mop.gif]

servantheart -> RE: Breakfast (11/11/2008 3:20:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile2 It's simply a matter of doing things for somebody we love and care about. Not a matter of orientation or living up to stereotypes. There are times when circumstances dictate that Sir do for me, such as keeping the youngest UM quiet and out of my hair when I'm studying. There have been other times that He's "served" me as well. Does this diminish my respect for Him? Absolutely not! Not in the least. Why? Because there is nothing sexier than a Man loving and caring for His property in whatever way He sees fit. A Man secure in His dominant role within the relationship doesn't need to operate within rigid parameters defining what a "real man" should and should not do. When He cares for me, it is tangible evidence that serves as a reminder that He cherishes and values me as His property. I am always very appreciative of the things Sir does for me. It inspires me to give ever more of myself and serve with even greater enthusiasm and joy.

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