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Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 1:47:51 PM

Shaktis

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Hello All/all. Is there a place here to find out about a profile and whether the person is for real or just playing along for what ever purpose. Say i am interested in a Domme and She wants "tribute" before talking anything about goals, protocols, want She wants ... is there anywheres i can look here to find out if any one else "paid tribute" and then left high and dry. Or if i find a fruad is there anywhers i can place my experience if it were bad? thanks and good luck to all.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 1:51:01 PM

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You pay tribute or you don't. If you are going to rely on blacklists and other people then I wouldn't recommend it. You would never know if the person giving the info is just being malicious or not.

You are either up for the idea of tribute or not. Your personal choice.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 1:53:27 PM

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If she is the kind of whore who wants money up front and you like the kind of whores who want money up front, then you just found the perfect whore.

If you want someone who looks at you as something other than a paycheck, you might look for someone who actually at least claims to offer that.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 1:56:30 PM

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Oh, and after reading your profile which was rather good by the way, I see you are reading the blank profiles and the one line profiles. Since those tend to be hot little young chicks, you are going to get fucked but the kind of fucking that makes her richer and you poorer .

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 1:57:08 PM

LadyHibiscus

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quote:

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If she is the kind of whore who wants money up front and you like the kind of whores who want money up front, then you just found the perfect whore.

If you want someone who looks at you as something other than a paycheck, you might look for someone who actually at least claims to offer that.

NOT cool, Michael. If you hate sex workers, fine, but no need to be nasty.

OP, if someone is asking you for money, they are not interested in YOU, they are interested in a business transaction. If you want to pay someone to keep you company, call a local escort service, I am sure you will have a much more reliable experience. A person who is interested in being your FRIEND is not going to want you to buy his or her time.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 1:57:56 PM

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I've never been comfortable with the idea of tribute beyond small token gifts. If some domme wanted tribute in the form of money before she would even talk to me I'd be extremely leery.

Maybe she should include a note on her profile about receipts, exchanges and her refund policy. lol.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:04:07 PM

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I have a friend called Wladimir, let's just say he's a Russian "businessman", former KGB, is very well connected. What you're looking for might be just up his street.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:13:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

quote:

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If she is the kind of whore who wants money up front and you like the kind of whores who want money up front, then you just found the perfect whore.

If you want someone who looks at you as something other than a paycheck, you might look for someone who actually at least claims to offer that.

NOT cool, Michael. If you hate sex workers, fine, but no need to be nasty.

OP, if someone is asking you for money, they are not interested in YOU, they are interested in a business transaction. If you want to pay someone to keep you company, call a local escort service, I am sure you will have a much more reliable experience. A person who is interested in being your FRIEND is not going to want you to buy his or her time.

I have the utmost respect for actual sex workers and firmly believe prostitution should be legal as it is an honest way to make a living. I have no respect for anyone who does what so called pro-dommes who ask for tribute do. And I always enjoy being bitched out by someone who then paraphrases what I have to say.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:16:35 PM

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I quoted you directly, Michael. I didn't realize that you didn't like pro dominants.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:20:49 PM

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If you want to pay someone to keep you company, call a local escort service, I am sure you will have a much more reliable experience.

So NOT cool!

Why are you accusing pro-dommes of being unreliable? Why do you hate women so much? Why are you being so mean to this guy and saying the only way he can get company is to pay for it?

You took what I said completely out of context. I despise the concept of "tribute because you don't know any better and I am going to claim I am part of the bdsm community" bullshit. I think that pro-dommes who claim they are not prostitutes are being disingenuous but I understand the legal quandary they are in and feel that is a vastly different issue, they provide an honest service for an honest days pay.

And, for what it is worth, I am pretty sure I am friends with more pro-domme women than you are ever likely to meet, and when I say "know" I mean standing there talking to them face to face. On my first date with BSB we were actually invited to spend the night and use the facilities of a rather famous pro-domme house in the bay area free of charge, so no, I don't have a problem with honest pro-dommes who offer a service, not a scam.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:22:28 PM

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Thank you, Michael, for proving that you are who I always thought you were.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:27:37 PM

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:29:29 PM

Shaktis

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Thank you to all the people who have answered this thread, but the question is about WHERE DO I FIND INFORMATION ON THIS SITE for this purpose. while i appreciate people oppinons on what i could do ,that is not why i posted this question. thanks again.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:32:34 PM

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This is no different than any vanilla dinner date...it is not a guarentee they are who they say they are or that they will choose only you to be with just because you bought the lobster bisque. Same for a girlfriend if you buy her diamond earings, it does not guarentee you the satisfaction of her undying gratitude, love and adoration. Buyer beware.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:33:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Shaktis

Thank you to all the people who have answered this thread, but the question is about WHERE DO I FIND INFORMATION ON THIS SITE for this purpose. while i appreciate people oppinons on what i could do ,that is not why i posted this question. thanks again.

The simple answer is that you cannot. Read this thread for more info on blacklists (which is essentially what you are looking for): http://www.collarchat.com/m_1163969/tm.htm

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:37:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: Shaktis

Thank you to all the people who have answered this thread, but the question is about WHERE DO I FIND INFORMATION ON THIS SITE for this purpose. while i appreciate people oppinons on what i could do ,that is not why i posted this question. thanks again.

You cannot.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:40:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Shaktis

Thank you to all the people who have answered this thread, but the question is about WHERE DO I FIND INFORMATION ON THIS SITE for this purpose. while i appreciate people oppinons on what i could do ,that is not why i posted this question. thanks again.

There is no section on this site where members are rated or vetted. And there never will be.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:44:14 PM

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Hiya Eleven. Good to see you.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 2:44:57 PM

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You could always look to see if someone wrote something nice in the Positive Experiences section.

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RE: Where you look here to find +/- on people - 11/10/2008 3:06:02 PM

Shaktis

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Thank You every body for this answer.

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