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Notanaddict -> ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/19/2005 3:08:38 PM)
I am new to the bdsm scene, so still learning the ropes...but here goes; On meeting some of my bdsm friends at the pub we were all kidding around a bit and i sat on the side of a pool table.. and i probably must have put on a bit of a cheeky face to my partner, but ended up thrown on the pooltable lags and arms held with one person sitting on my face (i think it was my girl) and one of the doms putting a poolque up my skirt.. And i get that it was all fun and games, but at some point my partner said "I share u with my sisters" and afterwards i was told there was some interest... I guess my question is, I don't really know where to go from here... will this fooling around have some impact on my future role in that scene? I mean, will there be some expectaions? i think i just lost my chain of thought.... any feedback would be good...

Sensualips -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/19/2005 4:20:07 PM)
Are you asking if there is now an expectation that your partner will share you and you will be expected to comply? I think if it was done in a spur of the moment, fun and games way then there would be no expectations. It may be that the incident inadvertently (or intentionally) opened the door for discussion with your partner about how you both feel about you being shared. The fact you "went along" with the fun does not obligate you to go along in the future, or take it further.

MHOO314 -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/19/2005 8:41:35 PM)
ok I am having an issue with this one as it is a classic scene from a 1980's movie and I cannot remember the name--but it will come to Me---this sounds too much like fantasy--

slavejali -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/19/2005 10:56:47 PM)
Jodie Foster comes to mind

sweetpettjenny -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 3:02:50 AM)
well sharing is one of my 3 limits i owned. Master knows i can't emotionally handle being shared sexually, so i doubt He'd ever put me through that. Once i submit and am owned i gave my limits up for His. That is why communication is key. i personally am aware and trust that my Owner will never cause His pet any harm emotionally by sharing His property.

Notanaddict -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 7:05:41 AM)
never saw a movie where that happened, it did happen at the pub thou... funny, but a bit embarressing having my head dryhumped on the pooltable and arms and legs pinned down while heaps of people i know and do not know were watching

starshineowned -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 7:16:00 AM)
The movie was called "The Accused" ..came out in 1988 starshine Happy slave of Master Delvin

windchymes -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 1:51:20 PM)
I'm with you, MH, I've got my "Hmmmmmm" face on. (Lips puckered and drawn to one side, chin down, eyebrows raised, lol) The movie was The Accused and I think it was a pinball machine, though, not a pool table. It sounds like a chat room fantasy from a guy posing as a lesbian. But I could be wrong. chymes

windchymes -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 1:56:50 PM)
Now that I think about it, it also sounds like an old Linda Blair movie (after The Exorcist) that I think was called "Born Innocent". It was in a girls' reformatory and the hard-timers held her down on the shower room floor and raped her with a mop handle or toilet plunger handle or something like that. chymes

nonuts4thshoney -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 1:57:57 PM)
The first question that comes to mind is: Is this a public pub????? with nilla folks??

FelinePersuasion -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 2:08:57 PM)
WOOHOO wind that sounds hot hehe. I adore movies with rape scenes and tingly stuff.

Notanaddict -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 3:35:13 PM)
yeay it was a almost vanilla pub... lesbian night at the local gay bar basically... and thou the poolque was well up under my skirt, it was not actually inserted anywhere "indecent".. and i am not a guy posing as a lesbian, i'm just a stupid newbie who has the belief taht it is better to ask and be a fool for 10 minutes than to never ask and be a fool forever...

MHOO314 -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 4:11:17 PM)
well let Me see if I can bring this back to some semblance of order--first of all, all whoi responded here are experienced---and most of them are American---given those two stats, I can assure you that (A)--we have seldom heard of that behavior outside of a lifestyle event-(if even then)--unless it was gang related- and (B)--I do not know what the laws are in Australia--but I can assure you, here in America, a public display like that would have ended in arrests MAJOR--now to go on, you talk of your partner and "the sisters" and the sharing, I do not see this as BDSM--I do not even see any signs of Ds in the post you made-- it all sounds like one too many drinks and everyone getting "cheeky"--BDSM encompasses much more--now given that--once you determine how you want to be defined in the life, that is how you will be perceived---so I suggest you start with some basic education, determine what it is you want from the life and if it is with your partner, define your public persona from there--

fastlane -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 4:24:07 PM)
Well, if you were pinned to the pool table with the que up your skirt and they didn't call the right pocket, I would call it a scratch shot. So, next time make sure the scene is more clearly defined and don't forget to use some chalk. Peace, Kevin

MHOO314 -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 4:26:21 PM)
You are such a brat!! LMAO

darkinshadows -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 4:27:40 PM)
quote: i'm just a stupid newbie who has the belief taht it is better to ask and be a fool for 10 minutes than to never ask and be a fool forever... Now that is a fantastic response...[:)] Welcome to CM - do not feel slighted... Something that you will find is a cultural difference between the countries that visit this site. On your question - If you were comfortable with what happened, then really, it is for your Mistress/partner to decide whether her words were said in jest, or serious and you need to decide whether that is for you. Be comfortable in the skin you are in and for the skin that you serve. Nothing should be expected save that which your Master or Mistress does - there are no rules or standard proceedure, although one could risk gaining a reputation for being nothing more than players for doing and saying something that could be seen as 'teasing'... especially in a new crowd. Just like any venue - treat with responsibility and caution. What people are more concerned about is the act within the confines of what is labelled a 'vanilla' area. This can be seen as non consensual to people outside the initial group. Obviously nobody knows the club you went to and behaviour that it 'OTT' in some peoples eyes may be the norm. Some clubs are there for the shock value. But it is always wise and respectful to yourself to respect the rights of others... Take care Peace and Much Love

Notanaddict -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 4:39:27 PM)
it was in the poolarea, and there weren't that many people there, and i don't think anyone would be offended... its quit liberal here, and it definatly wouldn't get anyone arrested if there were actually someone who could do that there except if they felt i was being forced.. and thou i was wriggling like crazy to get away i was enjoying the being held down thing[:)] A lot!

DelRey -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 5:05:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Notanaddict I am new to the bdsm scene, will there be some expectaions? Yes, you will be expected to figure a way to tie que balls together and use as anal beads. I lost my train of thought too..... hate when that happens del Rey

orfunboi -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 6:44:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejali Jodie Foster comes to mind Jodie Foster....and me tied to a pool table....hmmm, i think i feel a fantasy coming on.....thanks for that :O)

orfunboi -> RE: ok, maybe a wierd question, but.. (12/20/2005 6:51:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MHOO314 well let Me see if I can bring this back to some semblance of order--first of all, all whoi responded here are experienced---and most of them are American---given those two stats, I can assure you that (A)--we have seldom heard of that behavior outside of a lifestyle event-(if even then)--unless it was gang related- and (B)--I do not know what the laws are in Australia--but I can assure you, here in America, a public display like that would have ended in arrests MAJOR--now to go on, you talk of your partner and "the sisters" and the sharing, I do not see this as BDSM--I do not even see any signs of Ds in the post you made-- it all sounds like one too many drinks and everyone getting "cheeky"--BDSM encompasses much more--now given that--once you determine how you want to be defined in the life, that is how you will be perceived---so I suggest you start with some basic education, determine what it is you want from the life and if it is with your partner, define your public persona from there-- i worked at a lesbian bar for a couple years and have hung out in all kinds of gay bars all my life....yes, things like that do happen and i have never seen anyone get arrested for it. As far as bdsm events go....my personal fave was watching the merry-go-fuck and suck 4 years ago at leather retreat....basically they put a group of female subs on a merry go round and the men stood around it. When the merry go round stopped the sub would please whatever man they ended up in front of. my personal fave to participate in was being kidnapped by 5 women and tied in a sling, then fisted and played with. Be carefull when you start accusing people of fantasies....while it is true that there are a lot of posers out there....there are also a lot of people who actually do things, even if you have never heard of them.

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