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Anger in a scene. - 11/11/2008 4:56:11 PM

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'It's an essential part of training to provoke strong emotions.And there's nothing easier to provoke than anger. But as you know, one mark of a good slave is the ability to let the anger go and continue working, continue serving, continue offering respect and deference. Now, if the anger and shame and hurt can then be change to love or affection or lust - well, that's our mark as sadomasochist's isn't it?'

I personally can relate to the above. I often feel bursts of strong anger when 'playing' physically. I can also relate to the letting go of the anger and working it through during the scene. It doesn't always change to love, affection or lust, sometimes its just enjoyment of the pain, scene.

The part i'm struggling with is why i feel this burst of anger in the first place. I have consented to the scene, always enjoy the scene and therefore cannot find anything i would be angry about.

Anyone else feel this anger? And if you do, ever analysed it? Any ideas why you feel it?

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RE: Anger in a scene. - 11/11/2008 6:29:54 PM

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The only time I feel the anger is when he's pushing me to do something that no matter how hard I try I just can't do it but he continues to push or the pain is so great I want him to stop but he continues anyway.

After all is said and done though his voice and caresses help to get me through the anger and back to surrendering to his will.

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RE: Anger in a scene. - 11/11/2008 6:58:05 PM

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One of my public playpartners is an evil genius...as are they all....but this one takes the cake. He says the worlds most awful things to me and then makes me admit that its all true...and at the same time hurts me so intensely in this certain way...that i will almost do a take down scene to avoid getting in his grips....once hes got me in this certain way, however, the rage in me kicks in. Its a good part of the scene, i like it...i could call the whole thing, but wont...but the rage in me boils up and i make direct and angry eye contact and then...manalive....the scene is ON.
i am angry and resistive and combative and just plain pissed off and fighting back for real and he knows it and loves it and knows that im a wuss, so that even if i tried my hardest to best him, i am simply unable...so he concentrates on keeping me safe physically while im just fighting back with total abandon.
im an impact kind of girl...i consider sensation play warm up and foreplay...i dont get into emotional or theatrical scenes...im messy and sweaty and my hair is wildly fucked out...and i look a hot mess...i dont play to win beauty points...(good thing cuz id lose). So accessing this anger kind of freaked me out...but we talked and he takes me there every once in a while...when he wants to....and i love it and hate it all at once.

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RE: Anger in a scene. - 11/11/2008 7:32:08 PM

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RE: Anger in a scene. - 11/11/2008 8:48:17 PM

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Anyone else feel this anger? And if you do, ever analysed it? Any ideas why you feel it?

I used to experience this. There was a period of time when I would feel an animalistic rage in me while he was pushing me. I realized this was an inner rage that had been pent up for eons. I went through this for several months and then I just stopped experiencing it. I figured somewhere in my psyche I worked the anger out of me. At first it really scared me because it was so intense and ugly. But I was pushed to go there, and after awhile I let go of the fear and it was such a relief when all was said and done.

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RE: Anger in a scene. - 11/12/2008 8:09:04 AM

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yes, I sometimes feel that all-encompassing rage during a scene. It only happens when I'm tied up or physically restrained in some way, and he's doing something that is either humiliating to me, or something physical that I'd rather stop. I get to a point where I want to say stop, but my pride won't let me. So I get all angry and start cussing and struggling and angry. And of course the usual reaction I get from the Top is laughter, which just makes it worse.

And it makes me all hot and sweaty and adrenaline-filled....and horny as hell!

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RE: Anger in a scene. - 11/12/2008 12:39:07 PM

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Anger to me is an emotion I have a big problem with. The only time , when I was young , A girl hit me in the back at school. From what I was told later, I was a sight no one thought I would be like. I lost it completely! Now anger is something I fear because I do not want to hurt anyone.
My Master has so much patience with me and he is working to get me to let go and have anger when we scene. I have once and after he got me to see and hear him , telling me he was there and I was okay. We laughed ! He remarked that he knew I was strong but not that I was so scrappy too !
Anger I guess is that primal demon in me that takes over and I fear it most.

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RE: Anger in a scene. - 11/12/2008 12:51:15 PM

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I haven't really felt it, but I can understand it happening. I'm extremely contained emotionally - which is probably the opposite of what you're speaking of here. It's something that I need to work on.

There was one time I did feel a huge rage start - I was pinned and he was taunting me and something just came up out of nowhere inside me. The Dom I was with at the time (in a relationship with) didn't have a clue how to handle it and it turned into a big scene, not in a good way. I think I learned then to stay contained and not risk letting anything out - but am working on it now because I sense the release this must bring, emotionally and physically.

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RE: Anger in a scene. - 11/12/2008 5:11:49 PM

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Every so often i feel anger during a scene - and its usually when i am tied down, and feel as if i am being punished. I figure its a flash back to my childhood and spanking as a punishment from my parents. It doesn't freak me out, but i usually end up crying and being emotional which isn't usually a result of scening.
My Sir tends to ignore it once he has established that i am all right, and carry on, and i can get past it into the happy place.

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