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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 4:10:32 PM   
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wish she could cum in my ......


Is this an option?
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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 4:19:24 PM   
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The Mistress gets what the Mistress wants. Bring me the infidel that suggests that such a thing would be taboo.
 
I shall fill his bottom with peanut butter, his mouth with potato chips, sit him in a room full of feathers and make him sneeze.

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 4:22:35 PM   
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It depends upon the Domme whether she likes it or not. I have never tried anal, but I do like it when my sub uses his tongue there. I guess for me its just the fact that a woman can barely feel anything there (so I've read) and only feels a fullness. To me unless its going to give me an orgasm or a wonderful feeling of relaxation, I'm really not interested.

He, on the other hand, loves anal and that is because men can feel whats going on back there. So I give it to him quite a bit.

~Lashra



egads no, TONS of feelings there for both sexes. i dunno who said women can't feel anything there, maybe whoever said it had their own nerve issues
but i definitely do not agree =p

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 4:49:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lashra

It depends upon the Domme whether she likes it or not. I have never tried anal, but I do like it when my sub uses his tongue there. I guess for me its just the fact that a woman can barely feel anything there (so I've read) and only feels a fullness. To me unless its going to give me an orgasm or a wonderful feeling of relaxation, I'm really not interested.

He, on the other hand, loves anal and that is because men can feel whats going on back there. So I give it to him quite a bit.

~Lashra



egads no, TONS of feelings there for both sexes. i dunno who said women can't feel anything there, maybe whoever said it had their own nerve issues
but i definitely do not agree =p


Yeah, I found that post a little weird too. I was left thinking "Um... who's been spreading this information?" My ex preferred anal over vaginal. The area is LOADED with nerve endings for both sexes.

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 4:50:19 PM   
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I view any penetration with my Lady as a privilege, and not in any way an act of submission on her part.  This brings us closer.  It is not about the act, it is about the authority.  She has it, always.  I am adult enough, and smart enough, to not interpret her desires for me to penetrate her as an act of submission on her part, nor to let any of that nonsense get in the way of our dynamic.

If ya don't like it, that is one thing...if you are threatened by it, that's another.



As so often, Otters:

Well said.

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 5:15:02 PM   
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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 5:24:51 PM   
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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 5:35:50 PM   
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MsStarlett:
What Dommes do with their life partners and what they do with their subs are totally different ballparks.  I do enjoy occasional anal sex with my husband.  But I have only allowed one other man to do that, and he was also a longer, closer relationship.  With a sub?  No way.  I don't even have vanilla sex with boy toys.  That's not their function in my life.


An enigmatic, immutable statement like "what dommes do with their life partners and what they do with their subs are totally different ballparks" doesn't apply to everyone - some yes, but certainly not all.  For example, I'm the opposite in this regard.  What I do with my life partners and dommes is one and the same because these people, in my life and relationships, are one and the same.  So I absolutely have sex with my domme and I've also been on the giving end of anal sex with dommes who enjoy this.

I don't want to appear as though I'm championing the "wait till you try it" camp, however, it has been my experience that loving partners often try things for each other.  With the right approach, communication, emotions, and touch, activities that might be un-enjoyable otherwise can become very enjoyable.  There are activities I've despised until one partner came along who took a different approach.  Voila.  The oft-hated activity suddenly became very enjoyable and sometimes a favourite.  I had one domme emphatically declare at the outset of our relationship that she would never switch or bottom to anyone, and that she had no interest in being on the receiving end of impact play.  An evening much later, after our relationship had matured, I found myself flogging her as she purred in contentment.  There was no need for me to coerce her and I didn't go into the relationship with this goal.  Rather, she knew the capability was in me, felt comfortable with our mutual trust, became curious, and asked.

As to anal sex, I think this is a very individual matter.  I've had vanilla, submissive, switch, and dominant partners and there is no commonality that I've been able to observe.  Some love it.  Some are indifferent.  Some loathe it.  I don't believe men are better biologically equipped to enjoy anal play.  (i.e. the prostate factor.)  As lusciouslips19 points out, an activity doesn't have to lead directly to orgasm for it to significantly contribute to a much bigger "POW".  And for that matter, some people, men and women alike, orgasm from anal stimulation.  Me, I'm in the prior camp.  I've never had an orgasm from anal play alone (at least not to date), but it's an incredible orgasm amplifier so I enjoy it greatly.

Elan.

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 6:10:10 PM   
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I guess for me its just the fact that a woman can barely feel anything there (so I've read) and only feels a fullness. To me unless its going to give me an orgasm or a wonderful feeling of relaxation, I'm really not interested.


Lashra - interesting to me that you describe it this way. I love anal, and sometimes I think some of my nerve endings got put in the wrong place because I get just as much, if not more sensation from anal penetration, as from vaginal penetration.

Overall though, I do think its more of a mental block for most than a physical limitation.

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 6:12:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SthrnCom4t

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

I guess for me its just the fact that a woman can barely feel anything there (so I've read) and only feels a fullness. To me unless its going to give me an orgasm or a wonderful feeling of relaxation, I'm really not interested.


Lashra - interesting to me that you describe it this way. I love anal, and sometimes I think some of my nerve endings got put in the wrong place because I get just as much, if not more sensation from anal penetration, as from vaginal penetration.

Overall though, I do think its more of a mental block for most than a physical limitation.

Sthrn
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I guess I've read too much Tristan Taormino, because I was rather disappointed with the reality---I thought I would be a big fan, rather than figuring "meh".  More testing needed, I guess.

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 6:30:02 PM   
RainydayNE


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ORIGINAL: Lashra

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Overall though, I do think its more of a mental block for most than a physical limitation.




i kind agree with this. well i guess as far as willingness to try it maybe.
some people just don't like it, and that's understandable
i like it ALOT, definitely lots of feeling there

i think as far as whether it's a dom or sub act, though, is purely in intent. and how you feel when it's happening =p
kinda like that "doms who want anal" thread, i don't think any act is necessarily dom or sub, just depends on the intent. if a dom/me wants something, and the sub does it, it's the will of the dom/me and thus a dominant act.

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 7:03:47 PM   
ElanSubdued


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I view any penetration with my Lady as a privilege, and not in any way an act of submission on her part.


Hmmm.  Not so sure I'm with you regarding the "privilege" aspect of this.  A privilege for who?  For the Lady?  Yes.  Most definitely!  For the submissive?  Yep.  That too!  Truly though, I don't so much think of the word "privilege" when pondering penetration (or sex, or BDSM play for that matter).  Rather, I think of the word "communication".  This is just one way that partners communicate so I suppose you could say each is privileged to have the other.  People who care about one another frequently show this with acts of affection (and with romantic partners sex is often part of this equation).

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This brings us closer.  It is not about the act, it is about the authority.  She has it, always.  I am adult enough, and smart enough, to not interpret her desires for me to penetrate her as an act of submission on her part, nor to let any of that nonsense get in the way of our dynamic.


I agree with you entirely here.  I'll add this though.  What does it matter if a dominant's desire to be penetrated is an act of submission?  I'm fairly sure there must be moments where a domme wants to be cuddled, caressed, made love to, and utterly surrounded in the safety, sanctity, and nourishment of her partner.  She may even desire to hand over the reins for a while.  As a human being, I can think of many reasons why a domme would feel this way.  Personally, I don't care what label anyone wants to put on this because I'm far more concerned with giving my partner affection and what she needs and wants.

Elan.

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 7:09:13 PM   
ElanSubdued


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If my Mistress says she wants anal, then she gets anal...


This is a very succinct, insightful, astute summation.

Elan.

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 7:34:21 PM   
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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 7:44:28 PM   
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   I've always wondered what was up with the taboo of a femdom receiving anal from a submissive sexual partner. When properly done (going by what I've heard), anal barely hurts and can be extremely enjoyable. A woman can receive anal from the front or even go on top, it doesn't just have to involve some guy bending a lady over a table and spanking her during. Despite all this it still seems that most female doms just hate receiving. why is this?


I have met a couple of femdoms that made me lick their ass, but that's as far as it goes. If they want sex they usually like on top vaginal. I guess they consider anal an act of submission.

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/12/2008 8:06:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		a squirting strapon i bet would be fun to try  wonder if my mistress could milk my prostate of my cum to fill that up some ...then i wouldnt have to worry about aids because its my own cum is squirting in my ass  to feel it drip out i think would be very erotic indeed ...the ladys get all the fun --lol  its only 7in long ...im used to at least 10 in now on a daily /weekly basis now 7 in ? mistress is it in yet ?  size does matter in strapon play and it is a honor when my mistress lets me do anal on her too  coming in a womans ass is priceless indeed ..glad our fluids have bonded  so well now throughout the years of playing together  have fun and enjoy mal

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/13/2008 3:54:47 AM   
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I hate it ONLY because I haven't found a man yet who is patient enough with me - it hurts like hell for me and I need lubrication and time to adjust.  Many men are too fuckin' rough.


  That's why I've only allowed 2 men to do that.  My husband and a sub boy that he 'trained' to do it.  I used to have to drink a couple of beers before I could relax those muscles enough for entry.  But then, that was part of the fun of hubby and me playing "dirty girl" because I'd be drunk and - well, you know..  It was very hot sex. 

When we adjusted to each other, the need for the beer went away... but you always need the lube.  It's funny how we Ladies talk about being slow and easy and working our boys up to taking a strap on... but you are Oh-So-Right NewDom, guys can be rough.  And they have to UNDERSTAND that the rectum is not a vagina and they have to go slow and easy at first.


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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/13/2008 4:11:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		hi Ms S  your right about slow and easy ...love how my mistress takes the time to lube up my ass well  and the strapon ...once she slides in and i have opened up for her then she really gets a nice in and out going  love the loving caring way she has while she does so  shes coming on friday gawd i cant wait  great way to start the weekend indeed being fisted and fucked anally by your mistress  love these anal topics ...really puts me in the mood to bendover for my mistress ...mal

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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/13/2008 5:37:15 PM   
AlexandraLynch


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Status: offline 		Well, anyone I take as a submissive is going to understand that if I have a better orgasm when in the missionary position, that doesn't translate one bit into me being any less the dominant in the bed or he doesn't get into my bed. It's my cock, I can do with it what I like, and I happen to like anal now and again.

I think it's probably two things run together. One, a lot of women, entirely leaving TTWD out of it, don't like anal sex. Some it's for a personal reason (doesn't work for me, shuts me down sexually, aggravates my IBS, etc), and others because their experience with it has been less than ideal. Part of my stated reason for dating (I am poly) bisexual men is because they are a little more sensitive on the matter.

Bringing TTWD back into it, for some people being the penetrated equals to submission. If either the submissive male or the dominant woman has that meme in their subconscious, that can influence their feeling about having anal sex.


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RE: The taboo of anal in femdom - 11/17/2008 4:56:27 AM   
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Nope, I've not heard of the anal-taboo-for-femdoms thing. I think it's a load of tosh. I do, however, think that anal is still somewhat of a taboo subject for most people.


I have never tried anal, but that is because it doesn't interest me, not because there is some femdom guide book telling me how I am suppose to be a femdom. But, if it were to interest me, then I would. But I have to say, I don't completely understand some of the feeling here in regard to not allowing a sub to do it, as opposed to a non-sub. Each to their own of course, but, quite frankly, if I did want my butt penetrating, I would only ever have my sub do it for me, as opposed to a man (or woman) who was 'vanilla' and in that vanilla mindset. Because for me, no act is inherently submissive or dominant, it is the context it is done in that creates the power structure.

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