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WhiplashSmile2 -> Having Fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. (11/12/2008 2:03:14 PM)
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Another thread reminded me about how up tight people can get about the rights or wrongs of their choices or behaviors in a D/s relationship.
Some people take some things a little too serious at times and well don't understand how it's fun to have fun with D/s itself in a D/s relationship.
Such as a submissive playfully acting bratty and their Dom partner, steps in with a little play punishment. God, forbid that this is supporting Disobedient or unwanted behavior though. Actually it's supporting being able to lighten up and have some fun a little.
At times, it's fun to have a little fun with D/s itself. No real or true harm done to the relationship dynamics one bit. Actually if anything, it makes it a little more enjoyable at times.
So what if a submissive partner turns to their Dom and makes a remark such as "You should be spanked"? lol... Oh yeah, I'd like to see you try and see how far you get (the Dom egging the submissive on a little, for the sake of engaging in some playful play).
Some people try to make D/s some rigid cold thing. Has to be some hard ass, hard line standard of strict behaviors that can never be broken, even for the sake of having fun.
My frame of mind is such, lighten up a little here folks. Try to have some fun, don't take yourself so seriously at times.
Everybody should know the difference between playing around, and when things are serious in your relationship. Why not have a little fun with D/s in a D/s relationship. So what if it seems or feels like you are kind of making a mockery out D/s at the time. It's just another form of role playing and having fun.
I think some people have this notion that they should not have a sense of humor at all when it comes to all things D/s. Some people seem to get uptight or offended at the drop of dime over nothing all that serious. Playing around like this by no means threatens the D/s relationship itself, and if anything it can enhance it for many people.
God forbid that a submissive should have a smart ass sense of humor, or to lighten up and simply be themselves at times. This is sort of the message that comes across at times. God forbid as well if you are a Dominant that you tolerate such behaviors too. Again, this is the sort of message that comes across at times.
Back to my thoughts on people taking themselves and their orientations way too seriously, to have any fun. It's ok, it won't ruin or distroy your D/s relationship. If you feel or think it will, well perhaps you have some security or insecurity issues about being a well rounded human being in a D/s or BDSM relationship.
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