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lusciouslips19 -> RE: A Smart Way to Begin... (11/15/2008 8:34:38 AM)
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ORIGINAL: DelilahDeb
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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19
My perspective comes from learning the hard way. I broke off with a dom because he was technically unfit. I was hit behind the knee in the crease. this is an endangerment site filled with blood vessels. It took 3 weeks for the bruises to go away. That is 2 weeks longer than any bruise should take to heal. I have also suffered swelling in my wrists from someone not listening. Had Doms whacking me aboout my hip bones and slapping at my kidneys. Safety is of the utmost importance to me. I am lucky that I know what these cautionary sites are. As a Massage therapist and educator i have learned and taught it. Some may not know as much as me and may not know the danger is hitting these areas until its too late.
I know I am on the safety soapbox again.
The safety soapbox is a pretty good place to be when introducing players, IMNSHO.
A few basics:
- impact to joints equals injury. The sjambok as weapon is used directly at joint strikes.
- impact to bones equals probable injury, or at least bone bruises—(not minor).
- impact to fleshy parts (muscle especially) equals fun; and caning as a top should never be undertaken without instruction! Sensual Caning article
- constriction at joints equals caution. Repetitive stress injuries, compressed major nerves. Limited blood flow is fairly safe play for up to a few hours (except to HEAD!!!) but research first.
- common sense ain't! Don't toss your horse sense out with your control; negotiate first, and make sure to include communication option during a scene as well as beforehand.
The U.S. National Guard for one group, and riot-control police, etc., get trained in the places not to hit rioters because they can kill someone if hit there (neck, spine, kidneys, spleen, liver, gut, etc.)
Now, back to the OP's topic:
A commercial/public dungeon or just a local kinky community dungeon can be safer or not. Like everything else, it depends on the players. However, it is a great way to meet folks (also munches, of course), and, better, observe how they play. Before asking if you might play with them. Of course, it can also be overwhelming to the newcomer who has an interest in mild bondage or flogging or spanking, and gets an eyeful with a suspension scene in one corner, a fisting in another, urethral sounding in the medical chair, and major play piercings with two-player corset lacing in the blood-sports room. I know someone who was scared right out of the scene by such play at a private home. So it can be more than you expect, and less or more than you hope.
And the safety factor, as always, depends on the individual players.
Lady Delilah Deb
<edited to finish my thought and sign post>
This is probably true. i would have been overwhelmed in a dungeon at the beginning. i looked around alt and it freaked me out so I opted for AFF(actually met my current Dom there). When I finally did join AFF the first time i again ran away screaming from the freaks. i was more prepared and joined again later. Once I found CM, this is a much better environment. I know there are alot of fakes here but the real people are more serious about the lifestyle, looking for more long term and less about a thrill.
i wish I had found these forums sooner. This is a great place to learn and get direction. SO many here are willing to share their knowledge.
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