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NordicViking -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/24/2006 9:56:03 AM)

hello, Asian Slave

I have formulated and have been using [with weight loss clients for alomst two years] a  dramaticaly successful weight loss program.  The beauty part of my program is that with the exception of just one 'MUST NOT' it is very simple and easy to follow, requires no dieting and the weight will fall off.

If you're interested pls write me

warm and sincere regards,

Luke

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spadsangelslave -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/24/2006 2:06:11 PM)

[:)] i myself am an BBW and am still somewhat sensitive about my weight @ times. but i have found Master has accepted me for ME and none of that matters Anymore.[;)] He makes me feel so sexy.
 



cloudboy -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/24/2006 5:03:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: allyC

Here are some more facts: http://www.bigfatfacts.com/


That (bigfatfacts) sounds like it was constructed by lawyers who left Phillip Morris to work for McDonalds. Truly, I've never seen that kind of spin before.



amayos -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/24/2006 10:35:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: cloudboy

quote:

ORIGINAL: allyC

Here are some more facts: http://www.bigfatfacts.com/


That (bigfatfacts) sounds like it was constructed by lawyers who left Phillip Morris to work for McDonalds. Truly, I've never seen that kind of spin before.


I completely agree. While cloudboy might call it "spin", I'd call it something else...



CERCKL -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/24/2006 11:28:33 PM)


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[laugh] Look around. You are so not alone. Many masters are looking beyond body type and size to the more important aspects that can't be measured on a scale.
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My sub is very confidant about her self, her spirituality, her traits and very fragile around her appearance...this is something I am trying to get her to see beyond. To Me she is the most beautiful woman I have ever met...more so, the more I get to know her and to Me, My opinion is the only one that means jack to Me...
LOL, we're going out Saturday to see a friend of mine and his band...and she's nervous as a 'school girl' going out on a 'date'...worried about what to wear, being ready, making Me proud of her...and that endears her even more to Me.
C



LadyNeets -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/25/2006 1:53:58 AM)

I too am a BBW but I have added a letter to it  Now Im a BBGW (BIG BEAUTIFIL GEORGOUS WOMEN) and I'm happy to say that I'd rather be a Big Girl cause there is More of Me to go around Just ask IB.

I'm a BBGW and Proud ..

Lady Neets



Urza -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/25/2006 8:55:01 AM)

It's not easy to commit yourself, especially when your paranoid about what others will think, but you've got to hit that stage where it's do or die, and you may aswell attend one of them event's and just take it as it comes. You'll be fine and no one will notice let alone care about your size, be proud of who you are, your mind body and soul is a beautiful thing, no matter what you say.



shygirldesires -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/25/2006 9:23:45 AM)

Are you speaking about playing as a bottom in a public scene or just attending?

shycumslut_DB



newsubjenn -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/25/2006 9:39:23 AM)

i just want to add to this...

i have thoroughly enjoyed reading this discussion, and some of the encouragements and commentary about loving bigger women nearly had me in tears

in the last few years, i have put on some weight that i'm not overly delighted about, and have worked my ass off to lose it...controling my eating, increasing my exercise, everything...to no avail, which sent me into even deeper despair...i currently do not have health insurance, or i would go to my doctor and ask what else is impacting my weight

now the bonus here...i have always had large breasts, to the point that when i was thinner, i had daily backaches, often on a heating pad as soon asi got home, popping advil or tylenol or whatever was available just to carry them around...since gaining weight, my back no longer aches from the strain of my breasts...i'm sure i'm not as healthy anymore, but i've never been very fitness oriented

in any case, i have ALWAYS been very insecure...i feel fat, ugly, undesirable, etc no matter what i currently look like

my best solutions were to go buy a new outfit (something beautiful and a bit daring -- i love blacks, reds, wine colors, dramatic things), have my nails done, do my makeup, do my hair, and even take a long, hot bubble bath before getting ready just to relax...when i can actually take the time and money to do these things, i find that i am less self-conscious of my faults, and more tuned into how dynamite i feel and think i look...but having a supportive partner truly helps this as well (which i don't currently, unfortunately -- i have a partner that is not supportive in the least)

i find that replies such as "if you're not happy, lose weight!" always make me more depressed and more self-conscious, because they seem to validate my fears and insecurities...it's the comments of "you're beautiful, be proud!" that make me feel great and want to run out and show the world how wonderful i am

i wish you the best of luck



wolfsong -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/25/2006 9:51:26 AM)

lol  this one gets so tired of those who put us larger size ladies and gentlmen down what really gets me i see Doms and Dommes put a large size sub down in a chat room or somewhere then turn around and  pm or e-mail the sub wanting them to service them.  If i was not good enought in the first place what changed things in private???[8|]   If they like me and accept me for who and what I am then I show them respect but if they use and tease and abuse one just because there not the norm why should i show them respect and honor??? 

I am not ashamed to admit I am BBW sub[;)] wish i was skinner yes but there are those who love and accept me as i am believe it or not i had a Dom a few years ago who demaned I gain 100 more pounds but for my own health and self respect could not do it so lost 250 real fast when i lost him!![:D] wolfsong



frog -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/26/2006 1:04:28 PM)

Amayos - if you will, please pass along my gratitude to Gina D. as well. 
 
A story...
 
Six years and 3 months ago, i met someone online who took me to my first "play party".  The person i met was another submissive, so i felt relatively comfortable and not "obligated" to do anything.  However, i was so incredibly nervous that i nearly..er...lost my cookies on the side of the road. 
 
This particular group is a local group, and was just getting going at that point in time.  The play parties were also the monthly business meetings, and there were demos that usually started the evening off.  Funny how i don't remember what the demo was that night...
 
Anyway.  It became sort of a joke later on how quiet i was that night, how i stayed in the corner and didn't talk much, and left relatively early (meaning around midnight or so).  The reason i was so quiet was not just from the nervousness, but it was completely in awe as well.
 
It really didn't hit me as to where i was until after dinner was over and the playing began.  Immediately, the first two to get naked were women considerably larger than me.  my jaw dropped right into my very tightly clenched hands!  They were laughing and excited, and just that sight gave me a shot of confidence.
 
Suffice to say...i had the courage to come back.  *chuckles*  Not only to come back, but stay for 6 years, serve a term as a board member, and learn more about myself than i thought possible.  And a few years ago...i had someone come up to me and tell me that i had given them confidence as those two women had given me.
 
Do what feels good.  Don't be afraid to test the waters.  Who knows...someday you might give confidence to someone else.  =)
 
 
 
 



Daddysredhead -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/29/2006 7:43:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Sensualips

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I think being fit and trim is worth the work and effort, and to be frank, most guys don't like overweight women. Of course you don't need me to point this out. Still, being fit and trim is a self reward, regardless of what others think. My Mistress is pretty much a fitness fanatic. She goes to the GYM six days a week and I absolutely love the way her body looks and feels. I always tell her she is beautiful and that I adore her, and I don't say this because she is beautiful "on the inside." I say it because I LOVE HER BODY. Hmmmmmm.


This may be your preference and you are fortunate to be matched with such a compatible Mistress. It is not everyone's preference. Physical appearance or body type also takes on different levels of priority with different people.

The original poster did not ask for advice on losing weight or voice any health concerns. The concern was one of self confidence and feeling comfortable. People can feel self conscious at any size and for a whole host of reasons.

Your "frankness" did nothing to assist her with the stated problem.




Amen, sister!  I totally agree.  The OP didn't ask for a diet/workout regimen, she wanted assistance with taking a step into a new environment, and needed a little encouragement to go out and enjoy...



SparklyAltoGirl -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/29/2006 8:03:55 AM)

I'm a submissive, 22 years old and at the moment around 286lbs. I've always found that people in this lifestyle are much more accepting of how other people look. Yes, there are those who will only play with the pretty ones but they weed themselves out quickly. We all rock, in our ways and if someone makes fun of you for your weight, go find people who won't.

As a personal note, I'm less than 30 days away from having gastric bypass surgery. Daddy wasn't too happy about it at first but now he understands that it's not to make me skinny, its to make me healthy and more able to serve him. There won't be as much of me to love, but that love will be more concentrated into a smaller and healthier little girl for him!



Daddysredhead -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/29/2006 8:06:17 AM)

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ORIGINAL: newsubjenn

i find that replies such as "if you're not happy, lose weight!" always make me more depressed and more self-conscious, because they seem to validate my fears and insecurities...it's the comments of "you're beautiful, be proud!" that make me feel great and want to run out and show the world how wonderful i am



I wholeheartedly agree...  I am also very fortunate to have a Master who absolutely loves me as I am, extra pounds and all.  He never knew me when I was a thin gal, and after seeing the pictures of me back then, tells me that He probably would never have noticed me (in a physical attractiveness way) back then.  Good thing I met Him when I did, can't imagine life without this wonderful Man...  [:)] 



slave41couple -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/29/2006 8:13:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross


Hmmm I can't say your experiences are off for your own group, but I know in our community, the skinny hot ones have just as much fun as the fat normal ones.




slave41couple -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/29/2006 8:16:53 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross


Hmmm I can't say your experiences are off for your own group, but I know in our community, the skinny hot ones have just as much fun as the fat normal ones.




Oops forgot my remark, lol. Who says the "fat" ones aren't hot? I have seen some absolutely gorgeous (physically, not referring to the insides) BBW's out there.   



MissyRane -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/29/2006 12:46:22 PM)

This reminds me of a song called "Baby Got Back" by Sir Mix Alot[:)]



sultryvoice -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (3/29/2006 1:15:27 PM)

The most beautiful thing I have seen is soemone I know who was a BBW naked and comfortable and confident with herself. In the past year, she has lost an enormous amount of weight and is now extremely self conscience.

Respectfully,
sultry



DOMBifemTN -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (10/19/2006 4:16:09 PM)

Well first off let me say that there are some very very very beautiful BBW on this thread, Im amazed and pleased. The guy with the weight lose advice sounds like an infomercial...we KNOW all of the things you posted so why even do that??? I think its great that you are in shape and your Mistress is in shape and everyones happy, but loosing weight wasn't her concern.

On to the original question...I have seen numerous females and males in this lifestyle of all different shapes and sizes. You must realize, we have all singled ourselves out of "vanilla" lifestyle and have joined a lifestyle that is much less acceptable than most. We don't want (IMHO) to be all the same, we enjoy being different whether it is our style, clothing, hair color, its all unique and individual...and sometimes extravagant, but it is accepted still. Most people are not here to judge or frown upon others, you will come accross a few that may, but not in general. So if I were you I wouldn't worry too much about being accepted. People in this lifestyle are 100 times more accepting, minus the few vain, conceited know it alls.....and I think they just need a good beating....:) 



JerseyKrissi72 -> RE: Overweight slaves in the public scene (10/19/2006 4:20:31 PM)

I am a very large woman and it took many many years to accept myself "as is"..Beauty truly does come from within...remember that.



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