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MarksFantasyGirl -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/16/2008 10:32:05 PM)
I used to cyber.... I had a couple of "friends" that I would cyber with... Like someone stated, it was a way to get out some of my thoughts about some fantasies that I wasn't ready to share with anyone in person... A couple of them just dissapeared off the face of my buddy list... (Not that I really care) and another one of my "perves" and I got really close, and ended up meeting in person.... It was really a way for me to open up, and express myself sexually without having to worry about what anyone else was going to think... If what I said bothered the guy I was talking to, I would just block him, and move on to the next... it wasn't a big deal... It really helps if you are doing it with someone that can write... I have written a short (very short actually.. maybe like a page worth) erotic story... And everyone that has read it said that it was very good... So I know that I have the imagination for it... but if the person that you are talking to can't, or isn't at least on the same level as you, it will seem boring... And I agree with BabyGirlKitten... It's hard to type one handed... lol

MidMichCowboy -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 2:42:10 AM)
I've been on the Internet since it was Arpanet and used for research and such. There has always been chatrooms and cybering. It was kinda fun the first week, but it's not satisfying and it's not real. I get bored. I am astounded at the number of people who can really get into it. For some, it assumes more importance than the life they live, day to day. I think that is a waste. To me, the INTERNET is keeping in touch, exchanging ideas, news, research, etc. It does not replace my real life relationships.

BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 2:51:19 AM)
I usually don't cyber, just don't have the time since I spend entirely too much time working ol however on a rare occasion a sweet young thang will catch my eye and will indulge in some sexy chat....bounty

marie2 -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 2:57:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy I am astounded at the number of people who can really get into it. For some, it assumes more importance than the life they live, day to day. I think that is a waste. I'm surprised as well. Talking to prospective partners on the other side, I find this a lot. It just floors me how many guys turn out to be just looking for cyber-sex/wank fodder before bedtime. And it's cute how they try to wrangle it out of you without you noticing. I really can't imagine why they don't want to take it off a computer screen and actually have it in real life. The number of men who won't even take the next step to a phone call, nevermind a rt meeting, is mind-blowing. quote: To me, the INTERNET is keeping in touch, exchanging ideas, news, research, etc. It does not replace my real life relationships. Exactly. And it's a great place to make the initial contact/connection.

masterforRT -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 2:59:54 AM)
Just like some people prefer talking, others prefer writing. Writing is every bit a creative outlet as anything else can be. Those who put down cybering show how shallow they are. It might not be your cup of tea, but why denigrate others for enjoying the written word?

aravain -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 3:04:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 The number of men who won't even take the next step to a phone call, nevermind a rt meeting, is mind-blowing. Hmm... I would probably say no to talking on the phone... but this is less because I don't want to meet with someone and more because I'm terrified of talking on the phone. Why can't we skip right to meeting at a public place instead?

leadership527 -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 7:56:33 AM)
At least for me, I found cyber... or as my son likes to call it... pixel sex... to be really hot when done with a good partner. Just like in real sex though, "good" partners are hard to come by. At it's peak though, it's like a collaborative erotic story unfolding in real time. Then again, I never saw it as any sort of replacement for real life so I never expected out of it more than it could reasonably deliver. While pixel sex may be, as antipode likes to say, an online simulation of sex... it is the REAL DEAL when it comes to erotic stories.

stella41b -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 10:02:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: masterforRT Just like some people prefer talking, others prefer writing. Writing is every bit a creative outlet as anything else can be. Those who put down cybering show how shallow they are. It might not be your cup of tea, but why denigrate others for enjoying the written word? Exactly masterforRT, I fully agree. The way I see it, if it doesn't involve me then it's okay, in fact it's not really any of my business what other people get up to. Some people get to enjoy the old jiggy jiggy two or three times a week and good luck to them. However some people can't or don't want to have jiggy jiggy either through personal choice or circumstances and that's fine too. What I don't understand is how those who are having all the jiggy jiggy get to look down on those who aren't having jiggy jiggy regularly. I mean what is this? A competition? A race over who gets the most jiggy jiggy in their lives? It takes all types, it really does.

aravain -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 10:33:35 AM)
Jiggy...jiggy... oh dear lord... XD I think I've fallen in love with you. LoL

LaTigresse -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 10:49:53 AM)
I don't do net sex or phone sex. I also will not be anyone's long distance dominant/Mistress. Real face to face, hands on, only.

mztresn0w -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 11:16:39 AM)
I am not into the cybering or creative writing as some call it. I think it is wonderful that this lifestyle we can all be different. I do enjoy creative writing and don't consider it cyber. But then to me creative writing is a well written story. Cyber is something different. It is a private sexual conversation/ im between two people on the internet. But hey if that is your one of your kinks than enjoy it. I enjoy mine they just don't included that.

oceanwynds -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 11:52:22 AM)
I do not do cyber at all and never have. Sir doesn't like cyber, which makes me happy. I use my computer for writing non-fiction articles, replying to clients, research and occassionally chatrooms. I only have my ims available to a hand -full. oceanwynds

CreativeDominant -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 12:01:37 PM)
I look at it in several ways...I would not want to do it as the only way to conduct a relationship. I would not want to NOT be able to write something sexy/naughty/very nasty to someone that I was interested in. When I first got on the net, I found the chatrooms and used them. It was an expression of quite a bit that had been pent-up for a long time. I found my first submissive in a chatroom and moved from there to phone to real life. I found my second submissive on an erotic fiction site that also had chatrooms but we connected through our writing...again from there to phone to real life to living together. Yet, even while we were living together, I would still send her a nasty/sexy/naughty IM and she would reply in kind. It added spice. I found my third submissive online also on another site similar to collarme on topica. It was through thoughts exchanged there and an email exchange over something I had expressed that led to our being together. I cybered with each submissive, the first more than the other two but they all led to real life involvement. However, I have not been near a chatroom in 4 years and yet, have met some very interesting submissives on here. Has there been the occasional nasty email exchange? Yes. Has it been prolonged in any way? No. Tis not for me anymore BUT I don't have a problem with those that enjoy it.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 1:46:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant I look at it in several ways...I would not want to do it as the only way to conduct a relationship. I would not want to NOT be able to write something sexy/naughty/very nasty to someone that I was interested in. Yay! He likes me, he really likes me! [:D] (sorry, couldn't resist!) I'm a hedonistic slut who enjoys the mind, body and soul aspects of what it is that I do. Erotic collaborative writing, teasing on the phone, teasing in person, enjoying the mindfucks where I can get them. S'all good.

ThundersCry -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 1:49:41 PM)
=coughs= I agree... Glad I am not the only #$%^&&& out...there...*

monywildcat -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 2:09:28 PM)
There is no way I would be able to get remotely close to "jiggy jiggy" with someone thru an IM window. I am way too tactile. Mad props to those that can. Whatever floats your jiggy jiggy. [:D][:D] Daddy is going to wonder why I am working the words jiggy jiggy into converstation at every turn. My thanks to you Stella, for providing me with something that either will make him crack up, or want to chase me around the yard so he can spank me. [:D] Edited to add a missed jiggy!!!

pixidustpet -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 2:57:52 PM)
i have a friend that i exchange naughty emails with. Daddy and i occasionally talk about this or that we did when we were together, but not so much in the cybery way, more like just memories. i have cybered, its fun in a way but gets boring pretty fast. i'd rather have a nice conversation and then meet with someone i cared about to get with the jiggy jiggy. (thank you stella, that is absolutely adorable!!) kitten

MrHarsh -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/17/2008 4:56:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 I really can't imagine why they don't want to take it off a computer screen and actually have it in real life. The number of men who won't even take the next step to a phone call, nevermind a rt meeting, is mind-blowing. It's because the cyber partner is disposable. If you give out a phone number or meet someone in person, you might have to deal with them in the future. Cyber is for exploring a fantasy, and then moving on. It's not about a relationship, or even having to talk about "stuff" before or after.

CreativeDominant -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/18/2008 7:21:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance quote: ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant I look at it in several ways...I would not want to do it as the only way to conduct a relationship. I would not want to NOT be able to write something sexy/naughty/very nasty to someone that I was interested in. Yay! He likes me, he really likes me! [:D] (sorry, couldn't resist!) I'm a hedonistic slut who enjoys the mind, body and soul aspects of what it is that I do. Erotic collaborative writing, teasing on the phone, teasing in person, enjoying the mindfucks where I can get them. S'all good. Who could stop themselves from liking you? [;)] Seriously, I find the ability to express myself in writing helps me to better express myself verbally. I found this out when I first started writing essays in school...doing the research and finding the right words to express myself on paper led to better verbal expression.

ExSteelAgain -> RE: Cyber, Etc. (11/18/2008 7:54:37 AM)
Over time I’ve come to realize the power of online communications and won’t give the knee jerk reaction that RT is better. Of course, I’m always using cyber as a tool to enhance a RT relationship. The problem with RT is that enormous pressures are put on both of you to meet, drink some coffee, carry on a superficial conversation and then go fuck and play. Give me time online to get to know someone in a relaxed, anonymous situation where discussions about intimate feelings and ultimate beliefs are held. We will know each other well by the time we physically sit down together. The question comes up, what if someone can’t write well? To be honest, that’s a screening tool for me. If she can’t communicate well, I doubt we will get along. Cyber is kind of an e-harmony way of finding similar people.

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