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transitioning a friend into something else - 11/16/2008 6:53:53 PM   
usemekinky


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Status: offline 		Has anyone ever successfully had a good friend transition into a D/s type relationship?

What let you know you should go for it?

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RE: transitioning a friend into something else - 11/17/2008 7:05:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		I had a very good friend transition, albeit slowly as it's not something that can be forced or pretended (for long anyway).
She enjoyed greatly the normal kink, the vanilla kink, the deviant stuff that Cardinal Montissori warned you about - as in anything deviating from the mish position.
At the time I met her, she was into the swinger's scene here in San Jose, namely a club called the Forum, a few miles south of town. She had a veritable blast every time she went there as she never failed to score, and scored couples and women also, which started her on the track to BDSM strangely enough.

What happened, in a nutshell, is she was with a couple who wasn't getting into it so, the guy she was with simply took over and happened to use everyday implements to bind the three of them together and to lightly spank them with brushes and the like when they didn't suck to the beat. Afterward, and this is the key, afterward, she expressed a keen desire to replay certain elements of that ad hoc scenario ... namely the ones where the girl on girl action has her flogging the backside of a kneeling sub who is commanded to suck to the beat, so to speak.

The transition began from there ... (but it had to be there all along, thanks to Cardinal Montissori's pontifications in his regal robes)...

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RE: transitioning a friend into something else - 11/17/2008 7:23:21 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Master was my platonic friend for almost three years before we got together. We had both been dating other people. (My relationship lasted 6 years) When I ended my relationship, I spent about a month being anti-social. He was the one telling me that I needed to get out of the house. We'd been invited to the grand opening of a friend's Sports Bar.......and suddenly something clicked. He leaned over and kissed me.....and wow.

He's someone that before that moment wasn't someone I'd ever considered dating. He's the not the usual type that I dated. We've been a couple for almost 9 years and we've been married for almost 8. 

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RE: transitioning a friend into something else - 11/17/2008 10:38:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		Both Neets and I are open and upfront abpout who we are and what we do which includes both our pagan faith  and BDSM. This way people have the opportunity to either mix with us or not based on their way of looking at things. However we do let it be known that if they visit they will see things which are part of our life which we will not hide and if they want to talk or ask questions then we are happy to do so but we will never try to force our ways onto any one. It is just a matter of respect for other peoples beliefs and choices from our point of view. Suprisingly a number of visitors to Bruin Cottage never appear to even see the pagan alter in the living room or the off flogger or such left laying around or being worked on. Either they don't see them or they are too well mannered to comment. Still at this time we do have friends who are taking n interest in our pagan ways and there are other friends who are showing heaps of interest in our kink so we just olet the cards fall as they may and simply answer questions, encourage and see how they progress, If the interest is genuine, we'll take them as guests to a munch or two, point them in the direction of some good reading and take it from there. 

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RE: transitioning a friend into something else - 11/17/2008 2:28:08 PM   
ThundersCry


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Status: offline 		Ya mean ya don`t grab a handful of hair after the first kiss and drag `em sayin` *trust me....you`ll like it*?

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RE: transitioning a friend into something else - 11/17/2008 2:57:32 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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ORIGINAL: ThundersCry

Ya mean ya don`t grab a handful of hair after the first kiss and drag `em sayin` *trust me....you`ll like it*?


I was going to type a silly one word response of, (speechless!) but figured that would give people WAY too much to work with, and I believe most of you sadistic buggers need to load your own ammo.

As for transitioning people - sometimes all it takes is putting someone at ease and confident enough to test the waters and explore.  Sometimes, all that does is give them the permission to go EWWWW that's disgusting!  The question is, are you comfortable enough with who you are, that you can live with either response.  At least, that's what I ask myself before I start unwrapping anything that I may not want laid bare to just anyone.

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RE: transitioning a friend into something else - 11/17/2008 3:00:55 PM   
ThundersCry


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Status: offline 		I don`t have a sadistic bone in my body...
 
I have two...

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RE: transitioning a friend into something else - 11/17/2008 3:09:28 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


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ORIGINAL: ThundersCry

I don`t have a sadistic bone in my body...
 
I have two...


It's always good to keep a spare...or umm, is it an attachable bone err umm....

Anyway!  My ex room-mate, fuck-buddy, friend, was my date to all my munches, when we lived together.  He would be what most consider open-minded, but vanilla, and all I did with him was ask him, between breaths, during a blow-job if he would take me to the munch.  He was surprisingly agreeable to the idea.

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