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wanderingastray -> how to be a good "Daddy" (11/17/2008 7:37:22 PM)
hi there, so my Dom and i have recently decided to move forward more into the "Daddy/little girl dynamic." for me this is more about feeling safe, secure, and loved unconditionally than it is about incest fantasies or wanting to envision myself as a 5-year-old while W/we are having sex. to be sure, i do feel little outside of the bedroom, i like stories and cartoons, wearing my hair in pigtails, playing silly games etc. so what i am curious about is if any of You know any literature that i could point Him towards that discusses ideas about how to accomplish this dynamic. thank You!

wanderingastray -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/17/2008 7:38:22 PM)
or even if You have ideas Yourself about what You do with Your little girls, that would be fantastic. thanks!

chamberqueen -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/17/2008 9:09:31 PM)
I am not a Master, but my Master is very much a Daddy. You can search online under the term "Daddy Dom" but there seems to be limited information. I can share with you some of what works well for us. I am allowed to ask for "lap time" at any time. During lap time I am allow to touch him or speak to him freely - always with respect, of course. I am also allowed to ask to kneel at his feet with my head resting on his thigh and him running his hand through my hair. He takes pride in my ever accomplishment - either lifestyle or vanilla. I turn to him for advice on vanilla issues besides just lifestyle issues. In some relationships there is a "bratty" aspect. Some incorporate changes in clothing or in make up and hairdos. Some might enjoy thumb sucking or carrying a teddy bear. You can take it as far as you want as long as it works for both of you.

greeneyedreamer -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/17/2008 9:24:12 PM)
Also not a Daddy but a Daddy's girl... he nurtures me outside of the bedroom and when i feel angry , he comforts me and calms me. It's like what a daddy does for his little girl.... but with no age play. Not into being the bratty one, but sitting on his lap and kissing and talking to him like chamberqueen stated, is also something we do. May I ask, what is it YOU would like? and does he share the same idea? LOTS of communication will help just about anything get better... Dreamer

xDino -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/17/2008 9:46:47 PM)
I love the daddy dynamic. It makes me feel safe and secure outside the bedroom, and yes, it can definitely be a fun game in bed too. I'd look on tribe.net and look up ageplay or daddydoms there. I'm part of a couple tribes there with those kinds of interests and it's a pretty good community. And jeeeeez :) I could go on FOREVER about all the little girl things I love....

ODadEO -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/18/2008 11:11:53 AM)
Here's a link to an article I liked on the subject of Daddy Doms http://www.vanilla-not.com/basics/daddydom.html

DaddyChess -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/25/2008 10:23:38 AM)
check out the site leathernroses.com. They have some great articles.

trealeon -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/25/2008 3:43:53 PM)
My slave is a little girl slave and I am very much a Daddy Dom. I am in the process of training my slave and her reward for completing this phase of her training is that she will be able to call me "daddy" to her heart's content. (She is very excited about this). I completely understand what you mean because with me and my little girl, it's not about an incest fantasy or feeling like a little girl during sex, it's all about the nurturing protection of a daddy. This is from my own personal experience and nothing that I've read. I find that being a daddy Dom is a lot different than a regular master/slave relationship. It requires a "softer" touch. I use a lot of the same mentality I used when helping to raise my 3 nieces (not that it makes me an expert). Of course you want her to be obedient but you aren't as harsh with what you tell her. Little girls want to please their daddy, they need lots of positive verbal reinforcement lots of "good girls" and such. They also respond better to immediate quick punishments rather than long drawn out punishments. Little girls are extremely affectionate and want to be around their daddy all the time, hold his hand, sit in his lap, and just be around him. They are silly and a little more mischievous as well. They also require a little more patience because many times they don't understand that daddy is busy or in a bad mood from a long day... they still want to come and pounce on him and be around him. Things I do? I always let my girl dress like a little girl. It helps that she is 4'11 and basically LOOKS like she's about 12. She buys her clothes almost exclusively from younger sections of stores. We play games in public like, trying to trick people into thinking she's an actual 11 or 12 year old. We'll see if she can order off the child's menu in restaurants and get away with it, or get the child price at theaters, amusement parks and other places that distinguish prices at that age range. Before I took the privilege away (and after she gets it back) I let her call me Daddy in public even when we are around her "vanilla" friends or family. They just think she's being cute, they don't know the difference. I restrict her from doing most "adult" activities (except driving because sometimes that's just necessary) and we have a collection of "kid-friendly" movies that rivals most major video stores.

BLGirl -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/25/2008 7:36:11 PM)
For me and my baby we enjoy the Daddy Dom. This is not because I have ideological/fantasy about incest. It was actually my baby that got me into (with much resistance from me) into the Daddy Dom aspect. One aspect that I have found that helps and trealeon stated it is rewards and punishments. For me it is being a father, I use what I know from being a father and move some of that over to what me and my baby do. I would say be willing to lay down rules like you would for a child and be willing to enforce what you decide is a rule. I can remember the first time that my baby crossed me and thought I was not serious until she got home and saw just how serious I was. She ended up trying to hide in the bathroom for 10 min. before she came out. The other thing that I have done is let her be a little girl. Be gentle with her, and treat her like a princess when she does good. My baby has always called me Daddy so that has never been something hard for her to do, and she has always been my baby, or babydoll. It breaks down to caring about her and showing that to her while letting her know she is safe and secure even when you are not around. Daddy of BLGirl

ThundersCry -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/25/2008 8:09:35 PM)
From what I hear a really GOOD Daddy has a huge collection of...canes...

BLGirl -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/25/2008 8:11:25 PM)
that's just for the discipline stage does the canes come out :) Daddy of BLGirl

BLGirl -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/25/2008 8:15:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThundersCry From what I hear a really GOOD Daddy has a huge collection of...canes... Oh, he has some of those too! Admiringly, BLGirl

tweedydaddy -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/26/2008 3:52:17 AM)
You'll never guess it, but I'm very much a Daddy Dom and love my games with both LadyLove, who while being very much a Domme is happy to be my little girl, and our main girl pet, who loves being in pigtails and being spanked. It's about affection and reassurance, many on the knee cuddles and being a good and creative grown up little girl who likes dirty little games. I spoil them silly in every way, which is not what I do with my other Lady slave who loves the whip and everything that comes with it. There are few better turn ons that a subbie girl who is a grown and sophistcated woman being ready to get over my knee and be my little girl for a few hours. Its very feminine and very alluring, all talc and cotton knickers and white socks. I like big booby, well hipped, broad arsed girls for preference, with a nice fruity giggle. I like bathing them, and dressing them and treating them like big barbie dolls. And it's a great excuse for hand feeding them chocolate.

wanderingastray -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/28/2008 12:07:24 AM)
thank you all for your advice and links to articles and whatnot, i really appreciate it :) does anybody have any memories to share of your daddy/little girl relationships? i think those types of replies helped the most actually. thank you :)

leadership527 -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/28/2008 7:55:28 AM)
~FR~ This is an interesting thread. I've wondered for some time what "Daddy Dom" implies exactly. From reading this, I'd say that it is not directly about either incest or ageplay. It is clearly a flavor of dominance with more emphasis on love and nurture than dark & dangerous. Other than that, I'm still out to sea.

xDino -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (11/28/2008 9:52:18 AM)
I know it sounds cliche, but the schoolgirl thing can be a LOT of fun with the daddy dynamic. I have three or four different uniforms- completely accurate and demure ones, to the slutty kind you buy at christmas- and different ones come out based on what we're playing or feeling that day. One of the most fun things to do in Little Girl mode is either taking a bath (if you're really little) and having daddy wash you, or if you're a little 'older', maybe try taking a shower together, but have him still wash your hair and do all of that for you. Having your daddy touch you like that can be a really exciting feeling, or 'accidentally' touching him can lead to a lot of fun stuff, but you can still keep it totally non-sexual if thats what you want to do. I play both ways. It's really nice to get toweled off afterwords, having him brush your hair and get you ready for bed. I love getting tucked in with a stuffed animal, and I love the idea of being read to before I go to sleep too. My daddy likes to cook for me too, especially when I help him out in the kitchen doing little things. Sometimes he helps me get dressed, or I'll wear my little girl clothes, like a school uniform, or just cute t-shirts or skirts. I love wearing my hair in pigtails. I have a love/hate relationship with getting spanked as a little girl, but that can be a really fun thing to scene. Punishments in general, like writing lines or standing in the corner also work well. I like to color a lot and play with toys. I've found that I have interests as a little girl that don't really carry into my adult life, like dinosaurs. My little girl side LOVES dinosaurs, and I couldn't explain why. There are actually a lot of changes that hit me when I go little. My posture, expressions, feelings and everything are all really different. I have a lot more I could say, so if you're interested,wanderingastray, then just pm me and I can keep going.

wanderingastray -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (12/5/2008 9:56:46 AM)
the day after i was finally able to call him Daddy he said that we were going straight to the toy store to get me a stuffed animal. it's pink :) he also tucks me in every single night, has imposed a bedtime and wake-up time. i have a sock monkey that i hide somewhere around the bed and when it's bedtime i say "Daddy! where's sigfried? Daddy? i need him!" and he always finds him and then tucks him and my new stuffed animal in with me. he reads me a bedtime story 2-3 times per week and whenever i'm upset about something he brushes my hair for me. he's really a natural at this whole Daddy thing :)

wulfgarw -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (12/5/2008 9:16:09 PM)
I haven't had a sub to explore that kind of dynamic per se, but I did have a sub that enjoyed being diapered. I still have her (unused) pacifiers.

DomDG -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (12/6/2008 12:03:44 AM)
My princess and I are very much Daddy/daughter. It is a nurturing style dominance. I do things for her that some would consider sub, like I do all the cooking, I tend to pick out her clothing and lay it out in the morning. She is NOT into pain, so discipline is pretty straight forward, spankings and corner time work. Daddy tucks her in at night, she sets the table like a good little girl. Daddy manages the money and she asks to buy things (like tonight she told me that Old Navy has a big sale on jeans tomorrow morning). I drive everywhere, she has a license but likes Daddy to drive. (if and when another sub is added to the house she will be a driver for both of us). Daddy is always proud of the things princess does, and takes time to listen to her when she needs to talk about things on her mind. It was with the DaddyDom dynamic that we discovered a transparency that allowed us to open our relationship to poly and open play. We found we both had things we needed fulfilled so we found the security to look for that. Now with that said we also do age play, but that is only in the bedroom as roleplay. We separate that from DaddyDom.

kdmfl -> RE: how to be a good "Daddy" (12/12/2008 12:19:40 PM)
At first I thought the Daddy roleplaying was about the most discusting vile thing out there. I am a father of girls and the idea just mortified me. Since my daughters have grown into teens and live away from me, I had come across a profile here of a woman that really captured my eye. She never responded to me when I tried sending a message but she did cause me to read a few threads on the message board and to look at it from a different perspective and I think that it can be erotic and sexy. I think it appears a softer side to the lifestyle that I find more to my liking then the humiliation, degradation and more hardcore pain that is of no interest to me. So I wish you luck in your searchings and look forward to hearing what has and has not worked.

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