Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

catering to a fetish


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> catering to a fetish Page: [1]
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 3:58:24 PM   
CintiSubGuy1


Posts: 7
Joined: 12/1/2007
Status: offline 		I openly admit to a strong butt fetish. If you were my mistress would you:

a. Ignore my fetish and purposely avoid allowing me to worship your ass
b. Allow me to enjoy my fetish as a reward
c. Make me "suffer" to enjoy my fetish (like making me take a good caning if I want some "ass play")
d. All of the above, depends.
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 4:19:22 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		Is there a "none of the above"? option? 

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to CintiSubGuy1)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 4:26:34 PM   
CintiSubGuy1


Posts: 7
Joined: 12/1/2007
Status: offline 		A mistress who doesn't like her butt kissed.  A first perhaps!

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 4:28:52 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		Not what I meant at all!  (though I confess it's not a favourite activity)

If I am with someone who has a serious fetish, then it is a fetish that I share.  So, if I am in the mood, guess what?  Teasing and all the rest are part of playing, aren't they?

Serious fetishes are not something that can be compromised on, which is why I avoid crossdressers and sissies. 

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to CintiSubGuy1)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 4:36:20 PM   
Ebonybbw


Posts: 114
Joined: 12/2/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Is there a "none of the above"? option? 


LOL... that would be mine too... Just run off now and clean my toilet...

_____________________________

Mistress Ebony
Miami's Newest Supersized Domme
http://yourebonybbw.googlepages.com/mistressebony

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 4:38:14 PM   
LadyConstanze


Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CintiSubGuy1

A mistress who doesn't like her butt kissed.  A first perhaps!


Add to that a 2nd....

Additionally it is YOUR and I would feel I am just feeding your fetish and it's all about you

_____________________________

There are 10 kinds of people who understand binary
Those who do and those who don't!

http://exdomme.blogspot.com/2012/07/public-service-announcement.html

(in reply to CintiSubGuy1)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 4:39:00 PM   
GreeneGoddess


Posts: 59
Joined: 8/7/2008
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CintiSubGuy1

A mistress who doesn't like her butt kissed.  A first perhaps!


Have you met all mistresses to know that it's something ALL twue mistresses like?

(in reply to CintiSubGuy1)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 4:40:58 PM   
Politesub53


Posts: 14862
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CintiSubGuy1

A mistress who doesn't like her butt kissed.  A first perhaps!


I think you miss the point. Even if a Mistress may like her butt kissed, she would be unlikely to give a stranger details on the internet. Not until she knows him anyhow. Your question sounds more like you are asking for detail than substance. As did the one about hygiene.

(in reply to CintiSubGuy1)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 4:41:47 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		I am putting some pieces of this puzzle together and NOT getting an appealing picture.

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to Politesub53)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 4:41:51 PM   
Usako


Posts: 697
Joined: 7/29/2006
From: NYC
Status: offline 		I wouldn't really want to be with a guy if I have to "cater" to his fetishes. It would be someone who I shared the fetishes with; so there would be no catering involved, it would be done when I feel like and they'd have to suck it up and wait.

As for your choices, "ass fetish" can be replaced with any fetish. If we share the fetish the choice would be "all of the above" or moreso to my first comment, when I feel like it and what I feel like doing about said fetish.

< Message edited by Usako -- 11/18/2008 4:50:37 PM >

(in reply to LadyConstanze)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 4:43:14 PM   
StrictnSaucy


Posts: 363
Joined: 1/6/2005
Status: offline 		My boy has a strong fetish also. Its one I adore. Sometimes I tease him (if I am feeling playful), sometimes I reward him, sometimes I demand it ...really depends on my mood. I agree with LadyHibiscus in that its important to find someone who shares your love of your particular fetish

(in reply to Ebonybbw)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 8:56:17 PM   
Lockit


Posts: 11292
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline 		I take care of, pay attention to and hope to make happy my submissive, but I do not, will not, ever cater to a fetish...  I am his fetish or we don't deal...

_____________________________

No matter how old a woman gets, some men will think she was born yesterday! ROFL... I love this place!


(in reply to StrictnSaucy)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/18/2008 9:09:19 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


Posts: 2822
Joined: 4/11/2004
From: Arizona
Status: offline 		Still at it, I see, CintiSubGuy1. 
You really hsould learn how to quit while you're ahead.
I don't cater to anyone's fetish.  That is a very bad choice of word on your part, as a submissive.
If I like it, I will consider participating on My terms.  If I don't, I am not going to cater to anything.  I might as well be in a vanilla relationship wherein I compomise.
That makes Me dominant.  How about that?!

_____________________________

Dusty
They that give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety
B Franklin
Don't blame Me ~ I didn't vote for either of them
The Hidden Kingdom


(in reply to CintiSubGuy1)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/19/2008 4:55:45 AM   
chezzy71


Posts: 412
Joined: 4/19/2008
Status: offline 		Well Clint it appears to me that if you don't mention the fetish at all you would be alot better off.I don't want to sound like the pot calling the kettle black for i have also struggled at times to keep the lip zipped when dealing with my strong fetish.But if you truly have passion for another,you won't say a word about it.Now as you can tell from a couple of the responses,some Dommes don't share the fetish with you and i know by trial and error on my part that there are a bunch of Dommes who don't share mine.So i zip up and if by chance it happens to come up in conversation by the Domme or is leaning that way then i will ask permission to speak of it.Right out of the gate though is a huge mistake and quite frankly you will be kicked to the curb more often than not.I learned the hard way so take heed if you wish.

(in reply to GoddessDustyGold)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/19/2008 5:05:22 AM   
Lashra


Posts: 4900
Joined: 2/9/2006
Status: offline 		I'm not a caterer I am a Dominant and if something interests Me then My sub and I may indulge in it. If it does not, nope he will have to do without.

~Lashra


_____________________________

“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.”






(in reply to CintiSubGuy1)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/19/2008 5:36:14 AM   
MsStarlett


Posts: 1879
Joined: 12/23/2007
Status: offline 		I have a boy with a serious fetish that I had not explored.  One could say that I am 'catering to his fetish' as I use him as a means to learn more about it.  It's still a one hand washes the other.  If I were not curious about the activity, I would not indulge in it.

_____________________________

It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.
It is by the beans of Java that thoughts acquire speed,
the hands acquire shakes, the shakes become a warning,
It is by caffeine alone I set my mind in motion.

(in reply to Lashra)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/19/2008 5:41:23 AM   
zakkan


Posts: 606
Joined: 4/15/2008
Status: offline 		Won't the sub be... umm... upset? 

_____________________________

Silence! I keel you!

(in reply to MsStarlett)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/19/2008 6:09:06 AM   
MistressFaye1


Posts: 276
Joined: 10/7/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

I have a boy with a serious fetish that I had not explored.  One could say that I am 'catering to his fetish' as I use him as a means to learn more about it.  It's still a one hand washes the other.  If I were not curious about the activity, I would not indulge in it.


Excellent point!  If it's his particular fetish or something we both want to explore, we "cater" to each other.  I believe in being mentored when learning new skills or fetishes that interest me but at this time I have not developed the kind of relationship I need to be mentored by another Domme/Dom.  If I did have mentoring, my baby would be right there with me as my "subject". 

If we have the same likes, to deny him just to play the "Domme card", is only making me go without.  With that being said, when we indulge will be my call.  This is yet another example of why two way communication is critical.

Ms. Faye

_____________________________

You can put away your masquerade
You won't ever have to be afraid of Me
Open up your eyes and see what is in store
I must the One that you are searching for.

(in reply to MsStarlett)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/19/2008 6:11:38 AM   
MistressFaye1


Posts: 276
Joined: 10/7/2007
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: CintiSubGuy1

I openly admit to a strong butt fetish. If you were my mistress would you:

a. Ignore my fetish and purposely avoid allowing me to worship your ass
b. Allow me to enjoy my fetish as a reward
c. Make me "suffer" to enjoy my fetish (like making me take a good caning if I want some "ass play")
d. All of the above, depends.


Aren't you the one that turned in his "Dom card" a few months ago? 

Ms. Faye

_____________________________

You can put away your masquerade
You won't ever have to be afraid of Me
Open up your eyes and see what is in store
I must the One that you are searching for.

(in reply to CintiSubGuy1)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: catering to a fetish - 11/19/2008 11:20:12 AM   
AlexandraLynch


Posts: 778
Joined: 3/24/2008
Status: offline 		I wouldn't say I cater to the fetish per se. Cater I think is a bad word. He serves me, I do not serve him.  

However, if I love someone, their pleasure gives me a certain amount of pleasure as well, it's how I'm wired. I don't engage in BDSM and fetish play with people I do not love and trust. So if he has been a good boy, and I am in a good mood, not busy with other things, and he has asked very nicely, I might indulge him for a bit. Or I might indulge him if I sense that life outside the bedroom has been a bitch for him. (trouble at work, etc.)

And I for one adore having my ass worshiped, so working that into making me happy in bed would not be hard. I'd have more trouble with someone who liked golden showers or crossdressing, both of which just do not crank my engine at all.

(in reply to MistressFaye1)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1]
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Mistress >> catering to a fetish Page: [1]
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.094