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Carb0nBased -> Quick ageplay question (11/19/2008 2:41:33 AM)

Hi,

I was wondering, I've read quite a bit about ageplay with one partner in a child role (innerkid, little, etc.) and one in an adult role (guardian, big, etc.), of course both being biological adults. Is there a recognized category of play between two partners who both roleplay as kids, without an adult (guardian) role in the picture? If so, what is this called? I'm asking so that if this exists (I mean in a recognized way, of course there is bound to be at least a few humans doing ANYthing), I can look up information on it. I realize this puts it mostly outside the realm of BDSM, but I didn't want to join a dedicated ageplay forum just to ask this. I figured those here who are familiar with ageplay of the D/s variety might know the terminology for the distinction if there is one.




WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/19/2008 4:01:44 AM)

Age play is one of the most often misunderstood areas.  A lot of people don't understand the difference between "Regressive Age play" and "Sexual Age play".. when it comes to age play most people's minds are running in the gutters. 

Ok, YES!  Two people can both act like kids together, playing together and having a blast.  Can be a simple moment of buying kids bubbles and sitting together taking turns blowing bubbles and acting like kids having fun doing it.  Does not have to be anything complex.

Too many people think it involves getting Dressed up like KIDS as well.  You don't have to get all dressed up in little kids clothing to enjoy AGE PLAY...

Can be as simple as buying a few GAMES from the TOY section of Walmart, or other fun things from the Toy section.   Both of you finding things Kewl to play with and simply going home and doing it.  

You don't have to dress the part, and you don't have to have sex.  People don't understand AGE play fully to comprehend this. 

Age play itself is not about KINK nor SEX nor Dressing up per say!  Now you two could play Dress up if you want to.   Hell, you could play Cow Boys and Indians..  Actually a lot of Role Playing that people do, is a bit like Role Playing done when you were a kid.

It's a shame that people don't make the connections at times, to how age play sort of fits into the BDSM mix. 

When was the last time you colored in a coloring book?  Just doing that can be a pretty peaceful and simple moment.  Two people sitting at a table sharing crayons coloring.  Perhaps working on puzzle books together.  Sharing things between each other. 

Actually one of the things I enjoy doing is temporary body art.  Drawing on each other.  This is something I started doing when I was a kid.  So I suppose in some sense this is a bit like age play, but not really anymore.

You don't have to act like a complete freak to enjoy age play is what I'm expressing.  In fact many people have engaged in age play at times without giving it much thought at all.

You don't have to have a Little one and Big person theme to it at all.   Just think of it like two kids playing together.  One kid can still be the Bossy one in charge you know.  :-P  Don't have to let D/s relationship screw with having a good time with your partner.  In fact you can chill out about D/s a little if you want to.   It's all about having fun and escaping the pressure of the world...

Hope this post makes some sense to you.  Good luck




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/19/2008 6:30:32 AM)

It's just age play, a bunch of littles playing together or being together.  There are birthday parties, daycare groups, munches, etc.  So far I don't know of any particular label which has been created for it.




SadysticJester -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/19/2008 6:39:10 AM)

even if there isnt a "quote""unquote" label for that particular type of play it still falls into the realm of age play/roleplay.what you choose to do with it is entirely up to you,you are only limited by your imagination..




Carb0nBased -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/19/2008 11:07:45 AM)

Wow, that was quick!

I actually did mean sexual activity, though I was also aware that this is not the entirety of ageplay by any means (I have seen sites that forbid this aspect of it entirely). I figured since this is a forum about kinky sexuality that people would understand what I meant. I wasn't clear though, so I don't mind your misunderstanding.

Essentially, while I have seen people describe how littles and their guardians can engage in sexual activity, I haven't seen such activity between the littles themselves mentioned. In one way this is understandable, as sex is an "adult" topic, though in this case even the "kid" is an adult, and of course it is not allowed for biological kids to be sexual with adults, so it is clear that this is not meant to be realistic anyway. On the other hand, from a developmental point of view two littles sharing sexuality seems more "logical" in some sense. I know that littles can play board games, color, etc. I also am aware that some littles would choose to assume a self that is completely ignorant of sexuality (I don't like the word innocent for this, it reminds me too much of religious repression) and unable to learn without the introduction of a guardian.

By the way, is just playing a board game ageplay? That seems an odd way to define it to me.

Thanks for the replies so far, and now I have clarified some things.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/19/2008 4:01:33 PM)

Oh I dunno.  As a little myself, I AM myself at that age, and that little self wouldn't desire, understand or want sex with another person, let alone a friend.  I can convert age play into sex with my partner because sex is part of the very foundation of our relationship so it can be transferred into anything.

Playing a board game isn't age play, playing a game as if you were a kid is. 




YourhandMyAss -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/19/2008 6:11:13 PM)

I rememeber the whole you show me yours I'll show you mine thing, And "doctor" and if two ageplayers wanted sexuality they could perhaps play doctor, or any other child like forms of showing sexuality.




Carb0nBased -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/20/2008 1:24:51 AM)

So far the reply by YourhandMyAss is the most along the lines of what I was asking for, though in a way it doesn't really answer the question, as I was more wondering whether sexual experimentation between littles is kind of its own separate scene if you will, relative to such play with participants in adult roles. I just haven't heard it mentioned much, but I would assume there would be a place for it. I guess it all depends on the feelings of each little and what level of sexual interest he or she wishes to have.




SadysticJester -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/20/2008 4:48:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I rememeber the whole you show me yours I'll show you mine thing, And "doctor" and if two ageplayers wanted sexuality they could perhaps play doctor, or any other child like forms of showing sexuality.


for this aspect i have to agree with the quote,as i mentioned earlier its all in how you personally see it and how confortable you feel doing it...while it would be nice to find a group(turn over enough rocks it will appear),however continue to explore this avenue on your own terms/desires,,,,perhaps start a group of your own and they will come from all over...




WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/20/2008 7:53:12 AM)

CarbOnBased,

There is a tricky area of thought and concern when it comes to the concepts of "littles".   Let me attempt to share with you and explain.   Some people have "littles" that are part of DID.  Disassociative Identity Disorder.  

The context of the word "little" can be a bit overwhelming.  For some people it's not about play.   They literally have "littles" that are alter personalities.  Sex for some of these "little" alters would be totally out of the question what-so-ever.

You are exploring areas in thought at the moment, which is a great thing to do.  However you need to realize all the differences.

If somebody tells you that they have "a little" as a personality.  This could mean it's a DID type of little, or it could mean it's a personality they submerge themselves into for role play.  You need to have a clearer understanding about the different meanings to the word "little" here.

For some "littles" it would be a very traumatic experience for them to actually have or engage in sexual play.  Just a heads up for you.  You need to make certain you clearly are on the same wave length of meaning with your partner regarding "littles".

I'm sitting here wondering how a D/s relationship between two people with DID would be like. (raised eyebrow).  Seems like there's always something can provoke thought to different combinations in any relationship.

If these "littles" are just personalities you and your partner submerge yourself into for role play (none DID form of littles), then knock yourselves out doing whatever turns you guys on and you get off on doing.  Again, nothing to keep you from playing the role of the Bossy kid. 

I just wanted to bring to light some differences in the use of the word "littles" here and the different meanings.




YourhandMyAss -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/20/2008 12:11:41 PM)

I really don't know about the other part of your post, since I don't hang out with any other littles or have other little real life friends. But at least one part of my post fit what you were looking for.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Carb0nBased

So far the reply by YourhandMyAss is the most along the lines of what I was asking for, though in a way it doesn't really answer the question, as I was more wondering whether sexual experimentation between littles is kind of its own separate scene if you will, relative to such play with participants in adult roles. I just haven't heard it mentioned much, but I would assume there would be a place for it. I guess it all depends on the feelings of each little and what level of sexual interest he or she wishes to have.




WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/20/2008 12:27:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I really don't know about the other part of your post, since I don't hang out with any other littles or have other little real life friends. But at least one part of my post fit what you were looking for.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Carb0nBased

So far the reply by YourhandMyAss is the most along the lines of what I was asking for, though in a way it doesn't really answer the question, as I was more wondering whether sexual experimentation between littles is kind of its own separate scene if you will, relative to such play with participants in adult roles. I just haven't heard it mentioned much, but I would assume there would be a place for it. I guess it all depends on the feelings of each little and what level of sexual interest he or she wishes to have.



I think any group or scene would be a little difficult to define.  Mainly between of the different Age levels of Age play involved.  Generally the younger or lower the age the less practiced it is, and the more looked down upon it becomes.   So yeah, the group or scene of 3-4 years olds verses a group for 10-12 year olds or even 13-15 year old littles.   Big difference in the Age Groups for little even.   Any specific scene I would image caters to a specific age group range.

I'm not aware of any scenes, movements or groups of classification of groups for littles per se.  I do know that the younger the age the fewer people are into it, and it's become more looked down upon by others when it comes to Sexual Age play.  Even many of the Age players have their own limits to the Age, or have their own preferences.   Again, there are difference amoung Age players even.  There difference make it difficult to fit everything into nice neat labels. 




Carb0nBased -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/20/2008 1:27:13 PM)

Thanks. I know there are people who look down on any kind of situation where someone plays the role of a minor. It's unfortunate that people are so paranoid about this, even when it's just in adults' imaginations.

I think your last sentence is true for nearly all fetishes and kinks, as I've learned from the internet. I just thought that maybe there were terms that people had invented for different kinds of play, as it seems like many have sprung up, again particularly now with the huge variety of internet forums.




Carb0nBased -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/20/2008 1:32:55 PM)

And in reply to the earlier post by WhiplashSmile2, which I overlooked at first, I wasn't aware of the whole connection of DID and younger selves.

"I'm sitting here wondering how a D/s relationship between two people with DID would be like."

I don't know, but what about ONE person with DID. He would whip himself into following his own desires all the time! (joke of course :-))






IvyMorgan -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/20/2008 2:47:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile2
I'm sitting here wondering how a D/s relationship between two people with DID would be like. (raised eyebrow).  Seems like there's always something can provoke thought to different combinations in any relationship.
A whole lot of fun, kinda surreal at times.

It's a bit like any interaction between two people with DID, which you just sort of have to go with in a relaxed kind of way.  I remember waking up with a friend of mine (also DID but far more unstable than me/us at the time) and curling up with her for about an hour first thing in the morning she was switching, I was switching, as all of us tried to reassure all of her that she was going to be okay.

Trying to have a consistent power/authority exchange is a bit more of a challenge though, as not all personalities are the same orientation, or comfortable in the same roles, or fit with each other personality in the same way.  Trying to force all of your personalities into the same box doesn't, in my experience, work so well.  (This might be why a)I switch and b)partners of mine switch)




WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/20/2008 4:21:15 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Carb0nBased
Thanks. I know there are people who look down on any kind of situation where someone plays the role of a minor. It's unfortunate that people are so paranoid about this, even when it's just in adults' imaginations.

I think your last sentence is true for nearly all fetishes and kinks, as I've learned from the internet. I just thought that maybe there were terms that people had invented for different kinds of play, as it seems like many have sprung up, again particularly now with the huge variety of internet forums.


I think things will grow and change in time, when people of similar interests band together and find one another.   There are many misconceptions and taboos when it comes down to "Age play" in general.  I was trying to bring to light as quicky as I could about some of these differences.   Not certain regarding if you were interested in Regressive or Sexual Age play.

In terms of DID, there are or appear to be some sketchy varied things in this department as well.  Not everything is as black and white it seems when you first read about or even think about it.

I've engaged in some various forms and aspects of AGE play, but even I have limits as to where to go with it.  Age play has been topic that I have taken interest in learning more about.  Not everything I'm sharing is based on direct personal experience.

A lot of things I am posting about are things that I took the time to learn about.  All this coming from a guy who is Not into Adult Baby girls and Diapers.  Yes, that sort of personally Squick me out even.  However, it exists, and some people are into it.   I just thought I'd make some personal clarifications here.

I will say this, what you and your partner do, knock yourselves out and enjoy it.  :-P




tweedydaddy -> RE: Quick ageplay question (11/20/2008 4:43:56 PM)

I'm going for a lie down, this makes my head hurt.




Carb0nBased -> RE: Quick ageplay question (12/1/2008 9:04:41 PM)

What exactly is the difference between regressive and sexual age play? If you assume the role of a younger person (child or teen), for the purpose of acting out a sexual act that you did or wish you had done at a younger age, isn't that regressing in some sense? or does regression only refer to when you "lose" abilities and truly act like a helpless child?




DesFIP -> RE: Quick ageplay question (12/2/2008 5:07:38 AM)

Since my inner child is a sexually mature teen, we've discussed a sexual scene of me being a cheerleader and him a high school football player forcing me under the bleachers. Haven't gotten around to it mainly because when the weather's warm enough for that to be fun, the mosquitoes are usually out in full force. And somehow the scent of DEET is a turnoff.




persephonee -> RE: Quick ageplay question (12/2/2008 9:34:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Since my inner child is a sexually mature teen, we've discussed a sexual scene of me being a cheerleader and him a high school football player forcing me under the bleachers. Haven't gotten around to it mainly because when the weather's warm enough for that to be fun, the mosquitoes are usually out in full force. And somehow the scent of DEET is a turnoff.


LOL...DEET becomes sexy when you spend a weekend tied to a tree in the woods...give it a try, youll see!




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