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NuevaVida -> RE: The perfect profile for a slave/sub? (11/19/2008 7:01:52 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MistressAinCT
I have been asked what should be said in a profile to make it more appealing.
Some people don't give enough information and some people are very verbose without giving any decent information. Personally, if someone drones on just for the sake of having a profile, I tend to shut down. And if its a one sentence "hook" I don't even bother.
This is your filtering method and it works for you. Others have other filtering methods that work for them. Since we're all unique individuals here, what may be completely unappealing to you may well be "perfect" for someone else.
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While honesty is always the best policy, I find most slaves/subs here seem more concerned with what THEY want and what THEY are seeking, rather than what they can do for the perspective Dominant. I would rather hear what you would do for ME, get ME interested, then we can discuss what you want.
If someone doesn't know you, how could he/she possibly know what he/she can do for you? The best people can do is present who they are, in a manner that feels right to them.
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I assume (and wrongly so at times) that what would turn a slave/sub on would BE pleasing their Dominant, but that isn't always the case. If you enjoy the sensation of submission but don't want any of the service aspects, then I would say you are a bottom. It should reflect that in the profile as well.
In other words, if a submissive likes certain things, he/she is a bottom? What if the submissive is listing such things as a means to let others know if they are compatible or not?
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Also-I find much too late that a person is married or involved. Why not state that in the beginning? Can you be marked? Are you a masochist? Do you have experience? What are you open to/would like to try? Are you interested in a RELATIONSHIP or just play?
You contradict yourself here. You don't want to read what they want and like but you want to know what they would be interested to try?
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Pictures-why not? And why not show your face? If you are afraid your friends/coworkers can see you here, well-what are THEY doing here as well? If you don't want to put a pic in the profile, then when you send an application send the pic then. We are all visual creatures and attraction IS key (rarely do people say "looks aren't important"). In this era, we can all get pictures NOT taken by a cell or webcam that looks decent and non-blurred. Cameras have a self-timer. USE IT.
There are a myriad of reasons people do not put pictures in their profiles. There have been a lot of threads on that very topic. And not every submissive is interested in an "application process." The assumption that these are applications explains your thoughts about profiles, but some of us would rather engage in conversation and learn about each other. I apply for jobs, not for positions with dominants. And I've had no issue sending a photo when I feel the time is right. I'm not here to advertise myself. I'm here to write on the boards, and to be open to possibilities that may come about.
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Of course, there are those who don't read profiles and just send letters so some say "why bother writing them". I am one of those rare people who DOES read a profile and most journals (again, too many are so wordy I would rather read War and Peace).
So who should our target audience be. You? Or others who aren't interested in what a profile says?
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If anyone has any other suggestions on what they would like to see in a profile I am sure it would help all those seeking. It pays to tell the truth-eventually it will get you nowhere in the end if you don't. Or very injured.
My response to you is not intended to discredit your personal preferences in reading profiles, but one person's preference is another person's annoyance. People are who they are, and their profiles are an introduction to that. If the profile doesn't suit you, it's best to just move on to the next.
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