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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 7:49:37 AM

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KnightofMists...

I suspect the reason she is asking is about the same reason people who have never had a roommate before would ask others who have, to ensure that she has considered all aspects of the situation and ramifications involved. NRE (New Relationship Euphoria) can blind you to some of the things you really do need to look at before moving someone in.

Realistically how many B/G friends move in together to discover that after a few months things are just not working out and the person they thought they knew is not the one who moved in. It happens so often in roommate situations that the numerous TV Judges can fill entire seasons with roommate disputes and have a slush pile of them left over. Heck here in Florida..if someone moves in and gets mail at your place, even if they are only there for a month and it was supposed to be temporary, you need to go to court to evict them if they refuse to leave..you can't just put them out. Here having a month to month lease agreement is not a bad thing, even if the other person is not on the lease or deed and never pays a dime.

Our criteria is not of course necessarily going to become hers, but it can give her a lot to consider before she makes that committment, even if she is taking them on as a Pro-Domina.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 8:07:46 AM

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willingness to surrender to the following, among other more specific items, was presented to this slave as requirements for consideration as Master's "live-in" slave:

Limited family contact
Job/career limitations
No control over finances
Relocation

Food/Drink restrictions

Speech restrictions

Clothing restrictions

Public exposure

24/7 Personal Service to the Owner, or whoever he/she designates

24/7 Sexual Service to the Owner, or whoever he/she designates

Body Modification

Daily work tasks

Fulfillment of the Owner's fantasies

No Limits

No Safe-word

No time limit

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 2:07:50 PM

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or is it more like a kennel

Nah, they're supplicants, so my guess would be it's a bundle of nuns.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 2:18:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: world4penelope

I'm considering taking on a couple of new full time live-in slaves. What requirements do you have for accepting new live-in slaves? What is the regimen for new supplicants before allowing them into your private world?

Regards,
Mistress Penelope St. Devi

1. They have to be female.
2. They have to be naked.
3. They have to enjoy saying "Yes Sir" a lot.
4. They have to know how to make coffee.
5. They have to come with complete with leash, collar, cage, and owner's manual.
6. They have to be one of those no-limit, let-me-do-what-I-want types....I only take "twue" slaves.

Not having had any luck with that check list, though, I have experimented with an alternate requirement:

They have to be good people I like having around and with whom I have a certain chemistry--you know, that whole "relationship" thing.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 2:26:44 PM

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I might be missing something here, but exactly why do you want to attempt taking on two live-ins at the same time? That sounds to Me like it would be a huge pain. Not to mention, if you don't know either of them all of that well, what's going to happen the first time you find there might be one that isn't as trustworthy as you would have hoped they would be? I would think it would be more difficult to have to concentrate on having to teach both of them what they need to know about serving you, and whatever form of M/s that you plan to have in practice.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 2:32:07 PM

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On the other hand, it's been our experience that, if there are two (or more) people who are both interested and available to start at the same time, bringing them in at the same time, rather than bringing one in, getting a dynamic established, and then going through the upheaval of trying to bring someone else in later on may actually be easier. In either case, it takes about a year to completely integrate newcomers into a relationship... but when multiples come in at the same time, the integration takes place communally, over the year, rather than having a year to integrate one person, then stirring things up and having to take another year for each newcomer, in order to re-establish homeostasis in the relationship. In addition, there is the COHORT factor -- the Army figured out that individuals who are recruited together, train together, and are assigned together, and who are then deployed together work better together and experience less trauma and upheaval, even in highly stressful situations than their counterparts who are recruited individually and split up after training for separate duty assignments.

Same goes for training two (or more) at the same time... if they're brought in separately, time has to be made to go through everything twice. If they're brought in together, all the common elements can be covered once, with both, and only aspects that are individual to each servant need to be covered separately.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/20/2008 3:10:55 PM

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Yes, but we're also not talking about an organization where, if there are issues with one and not both, it's easy just to send one packing. We are literally talking about moving people into someone's home. You know, the place they really live. That's a whole bundle of whacks right there. From what I got out of the OP, it didn't sound like these were already long standing dynamics. It might just have not been mentioned, but My first thought was, do we know if these are people that can be trusted in the house. If that's not the case for either one, that's begging for a problem. It's not like the Army where they buy themselves a nice ticket to Leavenworth should someone hack the computer or steal the credit cards.

I think we might be of differing opinions on this is, I believe you are looking at it as a service only proposition, where I'm thinking of it as more what it takes to build as a dynamic which might also include an emotional relationship. That can be tough to do when bringing two in at the same time, with no established bond in place. In that aspect, bringing in one at a time can be more beneficial.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/21/2008 12:58:12 AM

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ORIGINAL: persephonee

Dear Dr. Seuss,

i make mine wear reindeer antlers during the holidays...makes up for all the times she knocks crap off the damn tree.

I really ought to be replying to the OP and not derailing the thread... but...

You may have just inspired me in ways my cat is going to hate you for! LOL

PS... gotta go with shatter proof ornaments.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/21/2008 1:01:35 AM

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An in an effort to make a serious reply to the OP...

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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW

We have an extensive probationary period, and for the most part, our probationary servants are required to keep their own domicile and serve in progressively increasing increments before we accept them as full-time, in-house servants. The vetting process, for us, is long and drawn out, but basically amounts to making sure, over time, that they're really ready for the intensity of full-time, in-house service.

The other thing that is a consideration for us is whether or not we can -afford- full-time, live-in, dependent servants. How will we manage health insurance, food, shelter, clothing, uniforms, training tools, body-fluid-personalized toys and equipment, collars, etc.? How will we plan in case something happens to us or this person chooses to return to life outside the House? What other contingencies will need to be in place, and does this person have any special needs that have to be addressed if we bring them into full-time, live-in status.

What she said.

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RE: Live-in requirements - 11/21/2008 1:41:26 AM

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I'm considering taking on a couple of new full time live-in slaves.

Does the word "new" refer you had live-in slaves before? In general, if you have no clear idea what live-in slave should do and how to behave you are not ready. One important thing to remember is that it is "two way street" and slaves have needs too. For example: need to be treated as slaves. The last sounds trivial but is often ignored.

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