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RE: Turning Partner Into A Sub? - 11/20/2008 4:56:28 PM

Lordandmaster

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I agree in principle with the people who are saying that it's impossible to turn people into subs if it isn't already in them, but it's certainly possible to open other people to possibilities that they would never have imagined on their own. How many times do you hear subs saying something like "I first discovered that I was submissive when a boyfriend suddenly grabbed my hair and spanked me" or (these days) "I immediately realized what I had been missing all my life when I logged into a BDSM chat room and saw what was going on"?

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RE: Turning Partner Into A Sub? - 11/20/2008 6:14:23 PM

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I haven't turned into a submissive character just because I'm owned but it's certainly the case that my mind has been *opened to possibilities* that would have been unlikely left to my own devices.

There are so many things that I'd have totally ruled out years ago that are just accepted ways of being now. In a way , I've become conditioned, contentedly so, because of the way it was presented and because of the way I was led.

You might not be able to turn someone into a sub, but you can certainly influence their choices and make it an attractive prospect, if they're open to it.

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RE: Turning Partner Into A Sub? - 11/20/2008 6:30:53 PM

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Did you do a search on this first, this has been asked and answered over and over.

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RE: Turning Partner Into A Sub? - 11/21/2008 3:52:54 PM

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Shes been very willing and to be honest not too much communication on my part!!
With the gag we watched some tame bondage dvd and i asked her what she thought of them and she said don't know! So i said what if we got one! She replied dont know! So i pulled out the gag and she giggles alot! Until i put it on her that is!!!
She found it a bit weird, but i have now put it on her a few times and she hasn't commented.
The last session we had just involved the gag a blindfold and she was really enjoying it and after admitted it was fun!
I want to get some restraints which i think she will be fine with and maybe even a spreader bar???

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RE: Turning Partner Into A Sub? - 11/21/2008 4:35:50 PM

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I'd advise bending her over the arm or a sofa and then start spanking her. If she protests (a little) push her back down and continue spanking. Then you should pull her panties down and spank her bare bottom. If she responds appropriately take off your belt and whip her with it. Lastly enter her from behind while pulling her hair.

After these actions she will never see you quite the same way again. There's an excellent chance she will be thrilled and excited. Or she may hate it and order you out of her life.

If you like BDSM and she doesn't, it's better to move on ASAP. So it's a win-win situation. Don't talk. Don't ask permission - just pull down her pants and take off your belt. Sooner or later you will have to have this scene. Discussion is not component of her masturbation fantasies.

There is some danger of course - she may run out the door screaming. That just makes it more interesting.

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RE: Turning Partner Into A Sub? - 11/22/2008 1:48:55 AM

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Sounds like you have a great recipe for kinky sex. D/s relationship, maybe notsomuch.

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RE: Turning Partner Into A Sub? - 11/22/2008 6:02:51 AM

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Sounds like you have a great recipe for kinky sex. D/s relationship, maybe notsomuch.

Which is PERFECTLY OK, if that's what works for you.

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