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KnightofMists -> RE: The scene (12/24/2005 6:58:16 AM)
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ORIGINAL: andrew77uk
Well, I am new to this, but I do have to wonder how much of this is pretnetious or not, whilst I tottaly respect and individuals oppinions and such like, I sometimes get the feeling some people try to make this out to be alot more than it actually is. My reasons for thinking this is perhaps some people dont want to be made out to be a slut, or have moral issues. There for they try to make this out to be some kind of lifestyle (I know some people in person who are very happy in this lifestyle). Dont feel I am having a go at the community, but I do feel some people are just trying to make sex into somthing more than it actually is. Whats your opinions?
ok... maybe I should be alittle less tongue in cheek like I was in a previous post on this thread...
I can't say with any certainty on how much of this is pertentious or just postering egos. I can only reflect that those friendships I enjoy most are those that are true/real to themselves. It is not a question that they are aligned to my beliefs and ideals... it is they are being honest to themself and others in what they are about and demonstrated IT. We often here the terms "True" or "Real" this that and other thing. Generally, I find the term rather poorly used and is more a value judgement directed towards others. However, when the term is used in such a way that is it statement that I am setting the bar for you to judgement against. That who I am is this.....what ever this is... and I will be "true" or "real" to that. Now terms like TRUE Dominant or submissive are rather lame... for it doesn't really say squat! Saying... I am Open-Minded... I am a Person of Intergity..... I am Prudent... I am a Risktaker... I am etc etc. Terms that actually can be understood and demonstrated in clearer context and not so wishy washy "like I am a Trainer of Subs" whoooppee so what the hell does that mean. Usually not much! I do know that I am quick to avoid people that say one thing and do another.... their actions go against there words.... Besides the deep love and friendships I have with my slaves, my best friendships are with my Bottom and her Husband. They have very different priorities and values than I. Their relationship is much different... we share some common ground... but they are much different in many ways... I respect them and care for them as a friendship for some basic common ground... but most of all I respect them for the fact they are not playing games on what they are about, they are true to themselves!.... these type of people are the best of frienships! I hope everyone has friendships like these... for it does make life fun *G*
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