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protocol - 11/23/2008 8:39:22 PM

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i am in a fit of loss of or something dealing with words.

i have been in protocol and know what i believe it to be and such and how i would apply it kinda as an alpha or as a dom if i ever got to have a pet of my own which wont happen but now i cant explain what im asking my master.

i asked my master about our protocol and he doesnt know what i mean and i dont know how to explain it. all i know is its how relaxed or how i am to act based on what and how i am to or not to ask permission to do things and what i would and wouldnt have to ask permission for.

ok before i get confused and such Sirs Please help this Alpha slave explain to her master what she is trying to express.

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RE: protocol - 11/23/2008 8:55:34 PM

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Protocol is the codification of personal preferences.

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RE: protocol - 11/23/2008 8:56:42 PM

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Perhaps it's just a "word" issue. You should simply ask him what his rules are. Every master knows that a slave needs boundaries and rules. Once you explain to him that you're trying to learn his general rules for how to behave as his slave, I believe you'll get the answer you're seeking.

I'm making an assumption he's not completely new as a master. If he is, perhaps a gentle suggestion that he come here and seek guidance from other masters.

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RE: protocol - 11/23/2008 9:10:14 PM

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hes not completely new actually hes been at this for a while it just may be that im using terms for things that he uses some other term for LOL

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RE: protocol - 11/23/2008 9:10:27 PM

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Maybe you're trying to create a system that he doesn't want to have?

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RE: protocol - 11/23/2008 9:29:13 PM

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My protocol would involve capitalized letters at the beginning of sentences.

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RE: protocol - 11/23/2008 9:39:14 PM

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I'm sorry Sir, and LA Ma'am it may just be a system that he hasnt used before but may be needed with me because Master has already said that me and pet are both diffrent in ways he has to go about certain things

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RE: protocol - 11/23/2008 10:41:47 PM

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Well as I said, it sounds like just a language issue and if you ask him in another way, he'll probably understand and you can go from there. Also once again, it's never a bad idea to introduce him to a community where you can both gain insight from others.

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RE: protocol - 11/24/2008 2:15:24 AM

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i am in a fit of loss of or something dealing with words.

i have been in protocol and know what i believe it to be and such and how i would apply it kinda as an alpha or as a dom if i ever got to have a pet of my own which wont happen but now i cant explain what im asking my master.

i asked my master about our protocol and he doesnt know what i mean and i dont know how to explain it. all i know is its how relaxed or how i am to act based on what and how i am to or not to ask permission to do things and what i would and wouldnt have to ask permission for.

ok before i get confused and such Sirs Please help this Alpha slave explain to her master what she is trying to express.

Outside the established relationship rules, I expect my girl to take her cues from me in general. If I'm feeling all relaxed and casual etc, then the girl is my vanilla equal and we interact as any adult couple does. But a certain look or tone from me and she instantly knows that I'm "Sir" and she responds accordingly. That's basically *our* personal protocol.

You say you have a Master and if he doesn't know what your "version" of protocol is, then I'd suggest it's irrelevant to him and the relationship. Master sets the rules and standards of behaviour etc, not the slave; not even an "Alpha slave". If your particular Master isn't as structured or formal as you'd like, then that's probably the real issue you should address.

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RE: protocol - 11/24/2008 8:16:04 AM

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thank you Focus Sir

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RE: protocol - 11/25/2008 9:30:18 AM

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Having read the above posts it would see to me that your Master, you and the pet need to make sure you set aside time each week to discus limits, boundaries and rules. Perhaps over a meal you could ask him how you should go about asking for specific needs or desires.

I agree that the Master sets the tone, however I also believe a good Master desires to not only be pleased but please as well.

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RE: protocol - 11/25/2008 10:15:58 AM

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thank you daddychess and thank you everyone with this it cleared my mind so i could tell my Master and we have set our protocol and it will be worked on as we get to actually spend time together and such and this helped alot.

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