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Sugar Mummies - 11/24/2008 5:39:54 PM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		uhm uh, well--20-30+ years difference? What is the attraction? Loneliness, desparation? I mean what does someone have to share intellectually? Or is it all about...well sex? Mommy syndrome??

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/24/2008 6:38:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		Are you asking what it is for the guy or the lady? For a guy a younger woman can bring excitement, a recapture of an earlier period in their life, a release from the chains of responsibility that are sometimes stifling. An older woman can represent security and peace that he never had. just an opinion

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/24/2008 6:45:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it more about security. Mommy's boys like to feel secure. "Don't worry, mommy will take care of it". And its similar to Adult baby fetish as well.

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/24/2008 6:51:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		The BBC had a show on this very topic last evening ...
Based on many of the couples they interviewed it honestly appeared to be love,IT honestly would have to be for the headache so many of these couples have to deal with based on peoples perceptions ...Once again the idea of the many effecting that of the few .. the non conformist the ..well whatever you wish to call those that do not march to the same beat as everyone else.....I am not too sure why anyone would raise such an eye on the female being the older with so many males being the older by that many years and more without many saying much if anything .Unless we want to buy into the ideas that women are only good so long as they are young dumb and full of ...well you get the idea .Honestly ... whatever floats their consentual boats .. heavens their boats are floating and we all should be thankful !
 
Okay and for the record ... the age differences are as follow in Our clan .. My knight 4 and 1/2 years my junior , smiling amykinder 6 years my senior,Da wookie 6 months my senior ,sweet tigergirl 13 years my senior , tender velvet 2 years my junior ,and my pet 17 years my junior ..as you can see our ages are all over the place .. but we have many common views and insights... and together we form a great kinky family no matter the age differences.

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/24/2008 11:15:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wait...what?

I might have an answer to whatever's being asked, since I'm 20 and Mistress is 38, but I'm gonna need a coherent line of thought first.


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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 2:52:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		I used to wonder about this like you; but as long as all involved are adults, if there is attraction, it's their business and none of mine.   Sometimes an older partner makes one feel more secure and cared for.   Other times it's because there is a better conncection in terms of communication and chemistry; and yes I'm sure financial security factors in sometimes, though never for myself thus far.    Now that I'm older, dating younger (though have a 10year comfort zone on the difference) is not such a foreign idea.   M

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 4:23:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		If I had to guess, I would say it is because they are attracted to each other. Now you have me wondering why you care? How does it impact your life when a younger person hooks up with an older one?

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 4:32:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Mistress is 30 years my senior, yet we have so much in common. We havent been apart for an extended period in months, yet we still find things to talk about. Honestly, some of my favorite moments are fromus turning off the TV in the middle of house and just talking for hours on end.

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 4:43:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		I never thought I would be interested in a boy much younger than myself, until West came along.  I don't THINK he considers me to be his 'mommy', but you'll have to ask him about that.  He has his own mind and can speak for himself.   I will be 47 this week.  He is 25.  He is my pup and I am his owner.  That's about as far as the age play goes.  Beyond that, he has been accepted into my family because I love him, my husband (49) respects him and my sons (18 & 27) consider him a friend.  Our other close friends consider him to be a close friend of the family.  Some know that he is my 'boy toy', 'pet' or 'sub', some don't quite understand.  He stays with us, travels, eats, recreates and works with us as a member of the family.  I do not consider him to be one of my children.  He is closer than a friend, but not on par with my spouse. 

It's always difficult to find words to describe the relationships within a poly situation.  We all know our 'places', even if those places don't have labels.  West was just such a good 'fit' for me that I don't even consider the fact that he's so much younger most of the time.  I do enjoy teasing him about it.  Some of my friends like to tease me "You always did like 'em young."  or "You wear them out so quickly."  But beyond that, it's not really an issue.  I enjoy his company.  I will be very sad when he finds a life mate and leaves me.  I will rejoice that he has found happiness and morn the loss of my companion at the same time... much the way a Mother rejoices and morns when her child marries and moves away.    So, I assume that is one more aspect of the age difference.  I know that he will not be with me forever.  But I fully intend to enjoy him as long as possible.

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 5:10:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		i thought sugar daddies/mommies referred to a person in a pseudo relationship where the sugar "person" financially supported someone else in return for sex and little else.  /shrug


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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 5:50:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

If I had to guess, I would say it is because they are attracted to each other. Now you have me wondering why you care? How does it impact your life when a younger person hooks up with an older one?


I never said it did, I am merely looking for perspectives, no different than asking for opinions on facesitting.

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 7:51:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: hopelesslyInvo

i thought sugar daddies/mommies referred to a person in a pseudo relationship where the sugar "person" financially supported someone else in return for sex and little else.  /shrug



As did I.

I am usually older than my S.O.'s, at least that is my history and present. But "sugar momma" oh hell no. Everyone pulls their financial weight.


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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 8:46:55 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have had sugar mommas contact me. The offers that they made were incredible. I am to independent minded to accept such an offer. I would always feel obligated to them in some way. My son had a sugar momma just a couple of years older than him. He found out he is to much like me and he got out of that situation.

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 9:10:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		Do you suppose there are slave Sugar Mommas?

I want one.


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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 9:17:45 AM   
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Do you suppose there are slave Sugar Mommas?

Yeah LaT sign me up for one too.

OP my male sub is 8 years my junior and we are very happy together. No desperation or loneliness to be found here. We have many intellectual discussions, silly discussions, laughing sessions, sex and lots of love, kink and fun.

Sometimes its not about the age of the person, or the people, but how the individuals themselves interact and engage each other. I could be with someone older than I am or younger as long as we had that chemistry that is so important in all relationships.

If you want a answer written in stone I do not think you will find it. Sometimes things just happen and we can accept them for what they are or we can walk away.

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 9:41:44 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

uhm uh, well--20-30+ years difference? What is the attraction? Loneliness, desparation? I mean what does someone have to share intellectually? Or is it all about...well sex? Mommy syndrome??


You asked a question and attached some very negative connotations to it.  I will speak for myself, I am not lonely, far from desparate, and finished raising my children, so it's most definitely not because I want to spend more time of my life being "Mommy", and I damn sure love my money too much to call someone my "sugar" baby and I'm keeping him and though the sex is great...it isn't the be all do all of the relationship.

So... wow!  I guess that leaves the postives!  We are compatible, we have many shared visions, thoughts, we can talk about any and everything.  He is one of the smartest, most determined, strongest men I know.  He is well rounded and grounded, more so than a lot of men I know my age. We have a connection...he is my other half!

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 10:00:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		It seems that a lot of younger kinky guys like older women. (On the pro side of things, my clients are rarely under 30. But an older pro I know rarely gets anyone over 30. I think that's telling.) It seems like a Mommy thing... which is probably why I have always avoided men between certain ages: they tend to want more nurturing and patience than I have to give.


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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 10:24:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		I guess there are lots of reasons for it, but I think one, possibly even subconscious reason is that men hit their sexual peak much younger than women. I think the average is about 18/19 for men and about 40 for women? Not everyone likes to admit it, but sex plays a big part in any kind of attraction, and a lot of younger guys go for older women for that very reason. I'm sure the reverse is true, also.

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 12:13:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: aidan

Wait...what?

I might have an answer to whatever's being asked, since I'm 20 and Mistress is 38, but I'm gonna need a coherent line of thought first.



seriously.

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RE: Sugar Mummies - 11/25/2008 12:25:03 PM   
Venatrix


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Do you suppose there are slave Sugar Mommas?

I want one.



I think I'd like a sugar family.  Then I could really live in the style to which I'd like to become accustomed.

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