any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"?

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NormalOutside -> any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 3:27:42 AM)
With that title, I'm dating myself (old-school D&D from elementary through senior high). Oh well :) I feel a bit like I've been going through a confusing period for most of this year. Not really "on" as often as I want to be. I felt a change in attitude about things like homosexuality, religion, unconditional love, when punishment works and when it doesn't, accepting others completely as they are. I've mellowed a notch. Well, maybe half a notch, but still. The last few weeks I've felt things starting to come into focus, and now I feel very centered and like I finally get "it". Not sure exactly what "it" is, but the combination of coming out of this messy period at the same time as developing some of my skills and gaining a better understanding of people, feels REALLY good. If I were a D&D character (Human slave trader perhaps), maybe I just went from level 4 to level 5? [8\|] Of course, the scale is open-ended, so take that as you like :) I realize I'm not perfect. In fact, I realize that perfect doesn't exist. Anybody else ever get that tasty feeling? Submissives (and anyone else), feel free to pipe in if you have something relevant to add, please! [sm=passthelube.gif]

MsMeghan -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 7:29:06 AM)
Not on topic: ...but I'd like to point out that I'm only 19 and I've played my share of D&D - you're not dating yourself! ;-)

lusciouslips19 -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 11:46:52 AM)
I have noticed a change. You are certainly more tolerant and therefore more tolerable. You seem to have toned down the arrogance just a tad. But if you backslide prepare for a member of the Subbie Mafia to slap ya down(we are not your submissive)! Life is a highway.

Padriag -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 3:18:54 PM)
Nah... after I hit Archmage I quit counting. [;)]

SadysticJester -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 3:26:25 PM)
we all go thru changes,,i recently went through a drastic change,well not a change more of a putting back in place things i let slide during a phase of training and it went missing to the point it was frustrating to try and figure out what it was....yes it caused some turmoil in the house.i have always been a Sadistic Prick but put alot of it aside so that it didnt take over entirely till i could control that aspect better w/o it intereferring,with day to day life..

kiwisub12 -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 4:44:42 PM)
perhapes its a matter of you being more comfortable with yourself - and thus more tolerant of others. or maybe its a matter of maturity. Maturity - it happens to most of us, sooner or later. [:D]

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 5:34:50 PM)
Level 65 half-elf magic-user here.. s Of course, I hosed myself over (and still do) when I lost my alignment (and my god and her magic weapon gifts and special spells). Of course that didn't stop me from changing alignments 3 times before I settled on Chaotic Neutral. LOL And yes, this probably 'dates' me, too. As for the OP... I've gone through that phase a few times in the past quarter century, and every time I do, I find that in a measurable space of time, I hit the next round of heavy-duty melee... so far, I've survived the navigation and upheaval, but I just cleared another library and learned a whole bunch of new spells... so I'm betting dollars to donuts another round of "killer" melee is behind the next door. (another favorite analogy... whitewater!!! I've decided that tubing whitewaters is pretty much an outstanding analogy for life.)

Aszhrae -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 9:08:11 PM)
Girl is definitely not going to mention, oh well, maybe, starting with the basic set and simply playing an elf. now its NWN and meeting a girl of a mistress in Norway that told me to join Collarme, if girl was really wanting another mistress after the couple here releases me. It's a hell of a learning curve, since girl has really been a captive submissive. Meaning, girl has absolutely no idea what to do without permission or direction. Girl has gone from Elf to being a Pixie, "please don't step on me, girl will go SQUISH."

KnightofMists -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 9:22:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NormalOutside Anybody else ever get that tasty feeling? Submissives (and anyone else), feel free to pipe in if you have something relevant to add, please! It's always a thrill to reach a point of " I get it".... but I learned along the way of getting it that with each step I take there is alot more it's that I don't get than I do... and that is only the its I am aware of... god knows how many its are there that I am not aware of. Not to put water on your parade... but I am finding getting it is becoming less and less important than enjoying it!

CruelDesires -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 9:34:47 PM)
I called it "reaching a new level of awareness" and if I recall correctly, it happened around the age of 35 ish. You will hit another level of awareness when you turn 40ish. It keeps getting better too. :-) C-D

cagliostro -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 9:57:53 PM)
Congratulations. Your mind has broadened. Not sarcasm. Real appreciation. Life is more than labels. Keep growing. Seriously. I've been there, keep on keepin' on.

persephonee -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/26/2008 11:36:06 PM)
i spent some time in Marcel's basement back in 1984-85...couldnt hear much of what was going on up at the table they were huddled around...apparently, wrapping my mouth around his cock affected my hearing...but i think he was like, some sort of wizard or something??[;)] i dont feel like ive gained any ground in maturity, but im definitely hitting my stride sexually....again. i hear that happens to girls...but again, i dont hear much with my mouth wrapped around.... Happy Thanksgiving Big Boy! perse

DogGoneBad -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/27/2008 12:38:17 AM)
To level up is just progress in self improvement. Changes you make in your life can be for the better or for the worse. These changes will play a role in your current or future relationships. I'm in the process of leveling up right now. I'm working on new skills, breaking old habits, educationing myself, and making changes in my life.

ExSteelAgain -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/27/2008 4:14:58 AM)
We all feel periods of great self confidence at times, but every now and then the doubts are there is probably closer to the truth. But you have a point that with time D/s gives an awareness that puts us in a little better place. Sometimes we come into situations that make us realize it. A couple of weeks ago, I had some time to waste and decided to stop by a neighborhood bar. It is one of those where everyone at the bar carries on a running conversation with everyone else. A group conversation type thing around the drinks. There were some guys and a few women. The sexual tension between the men and women became obvious to me as the guys tried to impress and the women did their thing, too. I felt completely aware of what was happening and supremely secure that I didn’t have to play the game. I was friendly and talked enough, but I had simply done so much that their posturing seemed superficial. When you know you can tie a woman up, whip and use her until you are both satiated, some things are ordinary. I didn’t have to try to impress in any way. When I saw one woman being coy with a guy coming on to her strongly, I could only smile and imagine her being flogged and how her attitude would change. When others bragged, my humor was self depreciating. I ordered another beer and knew I was in charge in that setting. Interesting thing with us, huh? I imagine submissives have similar insights around vanillas.

agirl -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/27/2008 5:48:03 AM)
I call them 'moments of clarity'...and I REALLY, REALLY like them. Usually they indicate a change in my life and general level of contentedness. agirl

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/27/2008 9:21:47 AM)
Moments of clarity, and periods of greater confidence. Those rock.....(I sound like the.dark!!) Levelling up is fun, but even when you aren't leveling up - getting your hands on some really great modifiers, rocks too!

Lashra -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/27/2008 9:36:54 AM)
Level 80 Drow, High Priestess of Lloth here. But that aside, I have grown quite a bit since I started down this BDSM path at the age of nineteen. Life is constant learning and growing. Just think what you might know ten years from now. ~Lashra

horune1 -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/27/2008 10:55:37 AM)
Yes I concur, level 19 Fighter/15 Shadow Warrior (Ninja)/5 Psionicist Half-Orc bathed in Red, White and Fang dragons blood, Red and fang dragon blood drinking G E E K, I have my share of basic, expert, advanced, 2.0, 2.5. 3.0.3.1.3.5. playing man, and with age comes experience and awakening, I was TRAINED in the OBEAH tradition by first serving for 8 months as a slave, then 6 months as D'sani or slave keeper then 4 months as D'sani prime or master of the house, so i know first hand what it is to be a slave to becoming a true master. I gained a few levels with that, where i can to understand fully that the only true power is that provided by the supplicant, the power is trust, if you as a DOMINATE have one or more serving you you gain energy and power from them, without them you are truly nothing, it is not about you it is about them and how you can help them evolve into a greater them and as they evolve so also do you on your journey to true completle ness...... Yes it's deep but that is my experience and my way of thought..

leadership527 -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/27/2008 2:05:54 PM)
God, it's been years and years... roughly 30 of em... since I've played D&D. Of course, in between then and now I've done my fair share of leveling up in pretty much every MMRPG that came out... until, of course, I realized that the only thing wrong with massively multiplayer games is all those cursed other people. Insofar as "leveling up" in real life, This whole M/s thing is so new to Carol and I and things are changing very very quickly. Roughly every two weeks or so it seems like some major new corner is turned and somehow, we have ended up with more than we had before... more love, more sex, more ownership and control, more togetherness. I keep wondering when the rate of change at least will slow down a bit. And yeah grins broadly we like it a lot.

lally3 -> RE: any other dominants feel like they just "levelled up"? (11/27/2008 3:33:08 PM)
the wonderful thing about taking this journey is how you grow, how you hit learning curves in 5th gear and you darent slam on the brakes, you dont want to slam on the brakes so you career off, rebounding and bouncing along, landing on your arse, picking yourself up, dusting yourself down and setting off again a little wiser. i really do doubt that i would be this happy, content, fulfilled, mellow and enthralled if it werent for the fact that ive been riding this puppy by the seat of my pants for, oh, quite a while now - and its one hell of a hot ride!

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