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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/9/2004 1:55:47 PM

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Well, I could have added that the point at which her orgasms start to run together with no break between and she begins to beg for mercy is rather pleasant, but that just sounds like bragging. Ah, the good old days.

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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/9/2004 2:24:29 PM

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I agree with KIKI BLUE. I really would NOT like the feel of being raped for real, as it has happened to me in the past,
but I have to say that this is not what 'play' rape is about. Thats why its called 'play'.

Actual rape and the brutal control and disrespect are not what is desired from play rape, at least for me.
I enjoy the control of it, but I also more enjoy the feeling or idea that my partner can't get enough of me and has to completely experience and have me NOW. Its not an issue surrounding negativity, it is something handled with the fake look or staged play of rape that really comes from a positive feeling... the overwhelming desire one would have for another that they love and cherish. Roller coaster rides are fun for those who like a little fear. They are NOT fun for those who don't get into that kind of excitement. You know you're buckled in, you know what is going to happen, and the fear is part of the fun. But thats a whole separate topic alltogether, I'm sure. <----stops rambling.

Play Rape: This has to be done with someone I have been with for a while, it is something I save for 'later' (I personally feel some things should be relinquished slowly so that the sex life of any couple can continue to thrive and feel hot and alive, and this is one of the 'kinks' I save.) I think it is also a good idea as something to save for later because you really have to trust the person, to know that he or she will not take advantage of your tastes in any way in order to fulfill some kind of psychological illness they may have, that you may not know about in the beginning. kwim?

I believe that if someone can play along that is fine, and if they just can't, it is not a necessary part of my needs.
I feel that if it is NECESSARY for someone, they have issues that are better resolved or at least better evaluated by a professional psych/therapist.
just my opinion
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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/9/2004 7:00:55 PM

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ok, a few thoughts on this very interesting thread.

1. recently I have had the delight to witness Resistance Play in a scene and I was wondering how this was different than Play Rape. I saw knife play, the girl pinned against the wall, and even a boot to the head. all in all, it was very consensual and very emotional. but if it simply is described as Resistance play, and not Play Rape, I would be curious as to how?

I like the idea of forced sex, not rape, but the choices we can list in our profiles are a bit limited.

I like the idea of being forced into sex, though I may resist at first. Deep down I want to do it, but want them to actively control me and exert that by forcing me and showing me how much I want it.

Forced sex leaves good feelings, rape leaves bad feelings.

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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/9/2004 7:16:57 PM

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I like the idea of forced sex, not rape, but the choices we can list in our profiles are a bit limited.

I like the idea of being forced into sex, though I may resist at first. Deep down I want to do it, but want them to actively control me and exert that by forcing me and showing me how much I want it.

Forced sex leaves good feelings, rape leaves bad feelings.

Yes i have to agree, i think thats why bondage appeals to me. It is the letting go of control, like a play rape would be (I think as i have never have experienced it). But yet i also know form others who have been sexually assaulted that some cannot participate in this activity.

A few years go i started to write a play rape scene and because of a whacko that had more of an affect on me than i care to admit (thats gone, but if i ever meet up with him, he will be my dogs GF!), i was unable to finish the writing of the scene for some time. I seem to have gotten past it, but i would still not attempt this unless it was with someone i trusted a great deal.

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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/10/2004 11:35:06 AM

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Play rape used to be a hard limit for me, but as with many of my early established limits...it has kinda fallen by the wayside.

I think there is something wonderful about the struggle to establish dominance. The fight, the harsh reality of the moment, the power of the taking....oh my...

(returns after a little break)

My slave feels much the same way about play rape. She likes to put up a fight, she likes to struggle, and she likes to feel completely helpless as she is taken. So it works for us.

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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/12/2004 10:43:30 PM

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Girl hugs boy

! I'm trying to understand the choreography of this scene! Two hands tied up. Check. One foot grabbed by Lawrence. Check. The other foot contacts Lawrence's head. Check. He backs off. Check. Ok, so now your two hands are still tied up. Your two feet are free. And then you hug him?

My brain is spinning around! I'm imagining you're a gymnast, hugging his neck with your thighs!

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Once I was lowered to the ground, he loosened the line securing both of my hands. He came close enough to slip his head in between my bound hands...

But I was actually attempting to hug his neck with my thighs when I kicked him... it is great for distracting a man who is hurting you. I was a gymnast when I was younger and the body still remembers.

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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/13/2004 2:22:25 PM

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I was a gymnast when I was younger and the body still remembers.

The gymnast vs the marine. A very cool bdsm paradigm.

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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/13/2004 2:50:57 PM

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Not having experienced the horror of "real" rape as a violent and brutal act, I tend to think of this as just another adult sex game. In this game, the issue is control - control of my person, my mind, my sexual response - but again, to me, it would be a game.

Given the horrific experiences of some, I can well see why there are those who list play rape as a hard limit.

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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/13/2004 4:59:05 PM

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This is an interesting topic to talk about. In no way shape or form do I condone rape or any other sexual assault or harassment. Even more interesting I actually lecture on sexual assault issues to women and men.
However the whole concept of play rape is very interesting and enticing at least to me. For the person who seeks to be the victim it is an issue of giving up control and for the person who is the rapper it is an issue of control. There is obviously a lot more to this and it has to be approached with trust and understanding.
Oh and for the person who posted saying they do not like bringing their work home with them. That was in very poor taste.

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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/13/2004 6:13:32 PM

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Oh and for the person who posted saying they do not like bringing their work home with them. That was in very poor taste..

Since I teach full-contact women's self defense using realistic rape scenarios to cause the adrenalin dump similar to what one finds during an ACTUAL assault, please clarify exactly how my comment that "play rape is bringing my work home with me" is in poor taste?

Thank you,

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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/14/2004 6:01:46 AM

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Sinergy,

In your first post you did not spcecify what your work was so it actually made it sound like you were kidding around and saying you were a rapist. However kuos to you for the work you do do.

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RE: Play Rape ..... Hard Limit! - 8/14/2004 8:46:18 AM

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In your first post you did not spcecify what your work was so it actually made it sound like you were kidding around and saying you were a rapist. However kuos to you for the work you do do.

I had posted what I do elsewhere on the boards a few times. You probably did not
connect the two and made an assumption.

You know what happens when you assume...

Enjoy your day

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