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Long Term LIve in Relationships - 11/27/2008 5:21:13 AM

FloridaMistresse

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I would like to ask submissives, or slaves that have been in Long Term Live in Relationships for 7 years or more:
~How do you keep the Ds alive?
~Do you still practice rituals, routines, protocols daily and if so what are they and how do you feel about that?
~How has your relationship changed over the years?
~Nature of the relationship ie: sub vs slave, gay, str8, bi, poly monogamous.

Oh and Happy Thanksgiving!!

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RE: Long Term LIve in Relationships - 11/27/2008 9:53:16 PM

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I have been in a non-sexual poly relationship with my Owner for 13 years now. Keeping the D/s alive is easy. If you are lifestylers then the lifestyle is just what it is called.. A LIFESTYLE... i am sure that Master wakes up sometimes wanting for all of us to do what is expected of us but He is the Master.. He needs to micromanage and be the one to control the situation. Be in control.... ALWAYS. The Master is what can make or break the relationship.. unless you are with a sub who tops from the bottom or has decided the D/s is dead. In that case, get a different slave.

One thing I have noticed to be important is the type of formality that Master keeps between him and us slaves. Sure, with the beta (his wife) there is an informal connection but us boys are ALWAYS expected to call Him Master or Sir. i think that keeps our heads on straight.

Keep up the protocol... keep up the D/s... and your slave will follow your lead. It's like dancing. The lead stops... so does the follower.

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RE: Long Term LIve in Relationships - 11/28/2008 6:10:36 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FloridaMistresse

I would like to ask submissives, or slaves that have been in Long Term Live in Relationships for 7 years or more:

15 years here...the last 7/8 as full on DS

~How do you keep the Ds alive?

Through 24/7 chastity amongst many other things, however a full steel belt is very much a constant reminder that I belong to Ma'am and I'm NOT in control of my bits...

~Do you still practice rituals, routines, protocols daily and if so what are they and how do you feel about that?

Every morning there are rituals and protocols to adhere to which set up the dynamic for the day, what they are is very much private, but I'll say not only do I not mind, I live for them...

~How has your relationship changed over the years?

From both vanilla over 15 years to Ma'am/slave

~Nature of the relationship ie: sub vs slave, gay, str8, bi, poly monogamous.

Slave, straight (forced/ordered bi) cuckold

Oh and Happy Thanksgiving!!

Don't have that in the UK but cheers anyway

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RE: Long Term LIve in Relationships - 11/28/2008 12:19:10 PM

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I am from France, I didn't have Thanksgiving till I came over here too. I DO celebrate Black Friday with my beta though. W/we are going to shop all day. ellie, my beta, got a pair of shoes for $45 that would normally be $300. Sweet.

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RE: Long Term LIve in Relationships - 11/28/2008 12:32:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FloridaMistresse

I would like to ask submissives, or slaves that have been in Long Term Live in Relationships for 7 years or more:
~How do you keep the Ds alive?
~Do you still practice rituals, routines, protocols daily and if so what are they and how do you feel about that?
~How has your relationship changed over the years?
~Nature of the relationship ie: sub vs slave, gay, str8, bi, poly monogamous.

well.. I going to answer this on behalf of Alandra since waiting for her to post to a thread is like waiting for the ice melt in the artic.

Alandra has been living with me since June of 1990. We keep our M/s relationship alive by simply functioning in a manner that is consistent with who we are as individuals. A consistency that brings happiness and contentment for both of us. We practice a variety of rituals and protocals that make it impossible to just list them off like a check list. Much of the rituals and protocals have become just part of our daily behavior that it is something that we need to focus on to do. Simple things like hand signals are a common occurance in our daily life. Bedtime rituals on a daily basis and then more infrequent rituals like the placing of the collar on their neck or even our formal family meals that we will have on ocassion... the list goes on. We do all these things because they bring enjoyment and pleasure to us as indivdiuals and as a relationship. In many ways... what we do is connecting part of yourselves with each other and makes us distinct from the rest of the world. We have our own unique interactions... our own unique love language.. or own unique language that communicate who we are to each other. Over time .... our relationship has just evolved in more unique and specific rituals and protocals between us. It's about creating our own language that speaks to each other from the depths of who we are as individuals and a relationship. As we have grown in our awareness.. .so has the language or behaviors between us. For example. In the beginning.. I entered into the relationship with Alandra with a mindset of monogamy.. while Alandra openly shared her desires for a poly-lifestyle. As we grew together and became more aware.... I evolved and we set out into the direction of a poly-lifstyle which we start to be active in about 1999. It wasn't until about 2005 that Kyra came into our life and now lives with us a year in about two weeks. With Kyra.. she brought change... a new person to incorporate with her own language that became a part of us and we a part of her.

Frankly.. what I have shared here in this post is nothing new.. we have at one time or another have made many posts about our family. I guess.. I wonder... what is the purpose of your thread. What is your motivations for asking those specific questions.

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RE: Long Term LIve in Relationships - 11/28/2008 6:49:10 PM

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Girl has been a service submissive only for the last 18 years. Yes, that's right. Nonsexual with current mistress and master. They are happily married to each other, mistress initially had me as her pet, master with mistress permission uses girl for laboring which really isn't so bad, girl has learned over the past years how to build a house, fix most things that can go wrong with house, renovations and such. Only thing girl really had to endure was the public humiliation which of course does not like. The first few years there was some resentment by master, given how mistress was affectionate towards her pet. The last 8 years have been rather dull, but girl has earned some leeway with years of loyal service. Girl also learned how to repair master's vehicles. Not bad for a girl with only a high school education. No time to go to college when you're a service submissive to a couple.

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RE: Long Term LIve in Relationships - 12/2/2008 3:51:15 AM

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this slave was collared for 18 years ago... domestic and sexual duties, servicing its Mistress limitless... in France
... but Mistress ended that relation 6 months ago... for many reasons... playing became rare, cause too much professional stress for both and the relation was disrupted...

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RE: Long Term LIve in Relationships - 12/2/2008 8:26:53 AM

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It's been ten years now for Doug and I. Our relationship evolves just like any other relationship. He has had good times and bad..so have I.

We keep the D/s alive by always learning. Watching and talking to others. Getting new ideas. Try out those new ideas.

We still practice the same as we did when we were new together. He chooses my clothing on a daily basis. I still ask him what he would like to eat before cooking each meal. Of course, after all these years I am told I can make what I want from time to time.
Our relationship is much deeper than a mere play relationship. Its who we are from day to day.

The relationship has only grown stronger over the years

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RE: Long Term LIve in Relationships - 12/3/2008 3:06:02 AM

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I would like to ask submissives, or slaves that have been in Long Term Live in Relationships for 7 years or more:

We are only at 5 or 6 years but I'll answer anyway.

How do you keep the Ds alive?

The Ds is just part of the relationship, its what we accepted as our relationship from the start, there is no effort in it.

~Do you still practice rituals, routines, protocols daily and if so what are they and how do you feel about that?

The rituals, routines, protocols whatever..I had to think about that for a sec, I was initially going to say we have none, yet I guess they have become so engrained that they dont seem like rituals or protocols anymore...but when I think about it, they are there.

How has your relationship changed over the years?

I'm more relaxed in it. I dont mean that in a complacent way, its actually a good thing "accepted circumstance for how things are".

Nature of the relationship ie: sub vs slave, gay, str8, bi, poly monogamous.

slave, monogamous.

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RE: Long Term LIve in Relationships - 12/26/2008 4:59:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FloridaMistresse

I would like to ask submissives, or slaves that have been in Long Term Live in Relationships for 7 years or more:
~How do you keep the Ds alive?

i was serving a great Mistress for 8 years. i guess your question is for couples who practise the D/s lifestyle through their marriage. my relationship with Mistress was strictly D/s so it was simple for us to kept it alive. i mean our roles were clear from the beginning and they helped both us to live this relationship.

~Do you still practice rituals, routines, protocols daily and if so what are they and how do you feel about that?

yes all the time. There were lots of rituals and protocols i should follow every single day. They became my "second nature" in time. (or should i say my "first nature"? ) They were like washing your face as soon as you wake up in the morning.

~How has your relationship changed over the years?

i personally felt more comfortable with myself and who i am really in this life. Besides i used to trust to death my Owner.

~Nature of the relationship ie: sub vs slave, gay, str8, bi, poly monogamous.

slave, pure slavery, poly (on behalf of my Mistress)