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Bratzilla -> RE: weight loss (11/29/2008 8:41:07 AM)

My weight has gone up and down several times, but I never found my desire to be humiliated and abused waning based on that. I also never sexualized my weight, though, nor had it used as a way to denigrate me, so it's hard for me to understand.

Aren't there other things you can be humiliated for, like being such a whiney slut?



kdsub -> RE: weight loss (11/29/2008 9:41:23 AM)

We all have our different ways of thinking but to me it is the humiliation that counts…not how you go about doing it.

Again to me humiliation is a way to be accepted for what you are in a way that provides pleasure to another…this pleasure at your expense lessens your feelings of worthlessness. It gives a validation of a pitiful existence but allows you to share in the pleasure you would normally not experience.

Butch



pompeii -> RE: weight loss (11/29/2008 11:00:39 AM)

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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici
Was that because some attention was better than none?


I am not a world-famous psychologist (yet) but I do think that some of the sub's needs are "attention whoring" such that a submissive, at least any submissive I've ever been with, garners ALL my neurons of attention for the full time of the play ... where the only time I'm not attentive to all of her, mentally, physically, and orgasmically, is after I cum myself, and that wonderfully relaxing refractory period begins, during which my attention is focused upon my own relaxation.



Bratzilla -> RE: weight loss (11/29/2008 11:03:53 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: pompeii

quote:

ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici
Was that because some attention was better than none?


I am not a world-famous psychologist (yet) but I do think that some of the sub's needs are "attention whoring" such that a submissive, at least any submissive I've ever been with, garners ALL my neurons of attention for the full time of the play ... where the only time I'm not attentive to all of her, mentally, physically, and orgasmically, is after I cum myself, and that wonderfully relaxing refractory period begins, during which my attention is focused upon my own relaxation.



I've always thought that one of the key elements of what I enjoy about being in a state of "submission," the fact that all of his attention is directly on me, alternately pleasuring and torturing me until it becomes the same thing. The attention is one of the most enjoyable aspects of it for me.



VAcontroldom -> RE: weight loss (11/29/2008 8:52:53 PM)

I agree with the posters suggestions, which are basically to search for "humiliation" and go from there
Perhaps if you share the former driver of your humiliation with your dominant food could still be used (from a bowl, etc) if that's a key driver or used in other ways (insertion and feeding of healthy low fat veggies, for example)



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