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blondagebabe -> RE: Is something a lie if... (11/29/2008 12:53:00 PM)

That's not a lie, it's an error of judgement. You are human after all, we make mistakes, especially when our hearts become involved.

Best of luck!



moonvine -> RE: Is something a lie if... (11/29/2008 1:23:23 PM)

Yay, ice cream...thanks!:)



stormgirl -> RE: Is something a lie if... (11/29/2008 10:16:28 PM)

You meant what you said, and you were mistaken.  We all do this many times a week, but usually it doesn't matter if we are mistaken.

I hope you get through this with the help of - mint chip? - and your friends.



Termyn8or -> RE: Is something a lie if... (11/29/2008 11:10:24 PM)

storm you beat me to it, that is the word mistaken and it is not a lie.

Don't sweat it.

T



moonvine -> RE: Is something a lie if... (11/29/2008 11:23:28 PM)

But did I mean it?  Was I lying to myself?



BKSir -> RE: Is something a lie if... (11/29/2008 11:29:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: moonvine

But did I mean it?  Was I lying to myself?


Only you can answer that part.  This brings a bit of a comparison to mind.  If I were to say, right at this second, "The sun is shining rather nicely.", it would be a lie.  If I were to have said that 12 hours ago, it would have been true.  However, things change, and, the gods honest truth then, may not precisely apply now.  Does it make it any less truthful in the context in which it was given originally?  Of course not, but that context changed, the situation changed.  What I said WAS true, it was not a lie by any means.  But now, things are different, and it's a rather chilly evening/night out there.



bondagelover1950 -> RE: Is something a lie if... (11/30/2008 3:45:24 AM)

Something is a lie ONLY when you know that what you are saying is not true. If you say it, believing it true, and it later turns out to be not so AND you own up to the mistake then it is a whoops, uh-oh, duh, etc.

BTW to my knowledge there are only two ways to lie and be totaly believeable.

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myotherself -> RE: Is something a lie if... (11/30/2008 4:21:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: moonvine

But did I mean it?  Was I lying to myself?


At the time you probably did mean it.  Then things change, and you don't necessarily have control over your feelings so much any more.  It's easy to say walk away if you're getting too involved.  It's much harder to do it.  I know that - been there, seen it, done it, got the t-shirt(s).  [:(]

And if there's ice-cream and hugs going round - count me in!  I'll bring some chocolate flakes to add to the dish - chocolate is the cure for everything, even a broken heart...



kiwisub12 -> RE: Is something a lie if... (11/30/2008 8:43:38 AM)

or maybe you wanted to play so bad that you lied to yourself!!!     We do do that you know.   and if thats the case, the person you hurt the most is ............ (drumroll)..... yourself!

so quit beating yourself up, do a self examination to see if you did lie to yourself, make a note of the symptoms if you did, and vow not to do it again.

Life is too short not to be honest with yourself. [:)]



DesFIP -> RE: Is something a lie if... (11/30/2008 9:29:22 AM)

Not a lie. You were making a guess about events in the future. There was no way for you to predict what did happen.

Once feelings change, and they do, you need first to be honest with yourself and then with your partner. And accept the fact that they aren't obligated to return your feelings and may instead feel the need to run like hell.



stormgirl -> RE: Is something a lie if... (11/30/2008 7:46:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: moonvine
But did I mean it?  Was I lying to myself?
Oh FFS!  You are a Person, with a Person's ability to run you mind over this thought again and again trying to figure out what you did . . . .  Not one of the helpful abilities we humans have.  You cannot know what zactly was in your mind.  Leave the attempt to ensure that you are to blame.  This is true: even if it is entirely your fault you still do not deserve damage.   It is what it is - move forward with love.

(Maybe you now know more about yourself.  I found being emotionally uninvolved with lovers easy (overly easy) when I was younger.  Now where my naughty bits go, my heart goes also.  Of course I only found this out when I became more emotionally involved with someone than I intended.)

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