Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

The Things They Left Behind


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Polls and Other Random Stupidity >> The Things They Left Behind Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 1:42:22 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		We've been doing the Big Clean since the wild one died, and this weekend's project is going through the old silver stock from when I was vending,  and personal jewelry so I can sell it.  First, I came across a silver bracelet that Bill gave me.  Why on earth did I think it was amethyst inlay--it's sugilite!   Looks nice on, too. I found this cute little  turquoise one, too, from when the silly head first figured out that JEWELRY was a good present.  Has it been fourteen years since I saw him?

I found these silver bracelets that I was working on for me and H, back when I was studying metalworking.  They're not done, but mine looks really nice--a hammered cuff maybe an inch wide, 12 ga silver.  Into the recycle bag!  I know it's been nine years, but I am not going to put any more work into that piece, especially when its match will never be finished.

I am not a creature of sentiment, generally---lose the lover, lose the letters, eh?  I am also a packrat, and it's easy to just put something away and not look at it for years.  There have been other people in my life who never gave me anything that lasted except memories, and sometimes not even that.  When H left me, I unloaded the jewelry he gave me---I kept the tools, though!   

Are you a keeper?   Are you happy to find something from the past?  Does it make you feel better or worse about the person who gave it to you?  I've had this rattling around in my head for awhile now, and just wanted to let it loose. 


_____________________________

[page 23 girl]
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 1:57:25 PM   
Daddysredhead


Posts: 23574
Joined: 11/6/2005
From: Northern (yet still part of the South) Virginia
Status: offline 		This is timely.  I have spent the past two days going through more and more stuff in the ungodly storage unit.  It's the final resting place to soooo much stuff.   Some of the stuff belonged to grandparents, parents, and stuff from when I was married.  I found lots of stuff from married life, and even college and high school days.  I looked at some of the stuff, then trashed it.  Some of it, I kept and gave to the Things.

_____________________________

Founding Member, Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's

Do not challenge me to a battle of wits & come to fight unarmed.

Are you really that stupid? ~ Bless your heart

13th doughnut


(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 2:30:31 PM   
YourhandMyAss


Posts: 5516
Joined: 6/25/2006
From: Sacramento
Status: offline 		Yup. I am a keeper. But more and more so, I am becoming less of a keeper. I have very little room for the precious items , so why would I want to keep non precious items. Infact it annoys me when my mom expects me to keep shit she bought me when I was two, but always had packed away cause I was to little to have it, for instance the peter rabbit collection she started for me. It has ZERO sentimentality to it but she expects it to mean something to me and got pissed that it didn't.

More and more so for me to keep it, it has to be either awfully special, or really cute.

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus


Are you a keeper?   Are you happy to find something from the past?  Does it make you feel better or worse about the person who gave it to you?  I've had this rattling around in my head for awhile now, and just wanted to let it loose. 


(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 2:33:43 PM   
SweetNika


Posts: 955
Joined: 4/19/2008
From: Forest Hills, Maryland
Status: offline 		I am a keeper, Ive tried to through some of the stuff away but I end up pulling it out of the garbage, cleaning it off and putting it back away and feeling guilty for tossing it in the 1st place.

_____________________________

Blessed be,
Nika


(in reply to YourhandMyAss)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 2:33:45 PM   
Termyn8or


Posts: 18681
Joined: 11/12/2005
Status: offline 		I wouldn't unload precious metals right now. Seperate it yes, but now is not a good time to sell.

T

(in reply to YourhandMyAss)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 3:08:48 PM   
hejira92


Posts: 2272
Joined: 10/27/2005
From: Palm Beach County, Fl
Status: offline 		I got rid of most of the stuff the ex left here (donated most of it), but kept framed pictures of him with the kids up in the living room. I figure he was a sh*t, but he was still their father and I want them to have good memories of him. Master says they will go (elsewhere) when He moves in.......
 
I used to be a pack rat with lots of chotchas and clutter, but something changed when my marrage ended and now I can't wait to throw things out. If I could live in a traditional japanese-zen type house, I would. Maybe one day when all the ums are gone......

_____________________________

Property of Cuffkinks

Member:
The Pimpettes
MoGa's IN-Crowd

"You're the gleam in my eye, the smile on my face and the bulge in my pants" - Cuffkinks

(in reply to Termyn8or)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 3:13:53 PM   
WinsomeDefiance


Posts: 6719
Joined: 8/7/2007
Status: offline 		I'm not a keeper.  I like my space uncluttered, and usually don't attribute sentimental value to things.  Every now and then a song will come on that takes me back to a specific time with a certain someone.  I enjoy the nostalgia, while the song lasts.  Places, now those usually illicit strong memories.  Things, not so much.

(in reply to hejira92)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 3:54:06 PM   
beargonewild


Posts: 22716
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline 		I pretty much go in cycles of pack ratting and then a massive clean out. I still held on to a few toys from childhood and several sentimental items I acquired or very special people gave me. I found that as time passes so do many of the emotional attachments I have for "things." especially from negative experiences.



_____________________________

Do Not Rile da Chosen Bear

Promiscuous boy you already know
That I’m all yours what you waiting for?

Resident MANWHORE ~1000 Bear pts~

10 NZ points
Whips~n~Cuffs

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 5:23:59 PM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		I'm still wearing the sugilite bracelet!  Term, why wouldn't you ditch any metals?  We're not talking coins or anything here, just metalworking scrap, rings, that kind of thing.  From when silver was CHEAP.

_____________________________

[page 23 girl]



(in reply to beargonewild)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 5:47:03 PM   
ResidentSadist


Posts: 12580
Joined: 2/11/2007
From: a mean old Daddy, but I like you - Joni Mitchell
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
Are you a keeper?  
Are you happy to find something from the past? 
Does it make you feel better or worse about the person who gave it to you?

1.  I keep a few selective mementos. 

2.  The mementos that are not on display are in a collection.  It is always bittersweet to explore the collection as the memories are fond and the fact the relationship didn’t work out was sad.

3.  I feel very good about almost everyone I have fallen in love with and chosen to have a relationship.  They were good people or I wouldn’t have chosen them in the first place.  It was the relationship, the way we fit, our goals that didn’t work out.  That doesn’t mean I love them any less, it just means I wont have them as my slave.  Many are still my friends, lovers and even partners in business.  Most of my Exs are like family. 

_____________________________

-=BDSM Book List=- Reading is Fundamental !!!
I give good thread.

(in reply to LadyHibiscus)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 6:20:00 PM   
LeMis


Posts: 9255
Joined: 9/24/2005
From: Florida
Status: offline 		2 things.

#1.  I am a packrat  
(but I have gotten better at getting rid of "stuff")  

#2.  When I read the title, I thought of Red's "things",  

_____________________________

Make a mental note . . . oh, I see you're out of paper!
Make somebody happy. Mind your own business.

Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt. — Lincoln

(in reply to ResidentSadist)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 6:48:21 PM   
KMsAngel


Posts: 17415
Joined: 4/13/2007
Status: offline 		lol, now those Things are ones i'm glad he left behind.

the rest, i'm slowly getting rid of. my um's have asked me to hold on to some of the Things for them. as they're settling down now, i'll be passing them on soon. they feel it's part of their heritage, and in many ways they're right.

as for the rest, well there is vy little with any meaning now.

in fact, the thread on the $2 note was kinda funny. when we got our license oh so many years ago now, he got 2 x $2 bills in change. he wrote on his, I'll love you forever and signed it. i think that will be one of those things that the ums will definitely get.

_____________________________

20 fluffy points!

flightless cherub


(in reply to LeMis)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 7:03:33 PM   
sunshinemiss


Posts: 17673
Joined: 11/26/2007
Status: offline 		Well, hmmmm... I've started keeping scrap books.  Not the cutesy wootsie ones you see.  Real stuff.  Confetti, bar matches, rings from good coffee, notes from others, grocery lists, anything that strikes my fancy.  My favorite ones have notes from other folks in them.  My scrapbooks are wonderful, and I put things they leave behind in them. 

well wishes,
tgfka sunshine

_____________________________

Yes, I am a wonton hussy... and still sweet as 3.14

(in reply to KMsAngel)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 8:01:22 PM   
GreedyTop


Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		Hi, my name is Andrea and I am a chronic packrat.


There are oodles of thngs I could stand to trash.. but the things I refuse to trash are the backstage passes and laminates I got during my years of working with bands.  Certain books.  Artwork.  Tour tshirts. The platinum album (and CDs) framed I got from touring with MC Hammer (ok, it's MC Hammer..but still....). Certain stuffed animals (like the bondage kitty I got for my 45th b'day).  Photos. and as odd as this sounds (especially from someone who doesnt like to cook), some of my cookware (gifts from Mom..sentimental stuff).  The percolator coffeepot that is older than I am.

I'm sure there is other stuff...

< Message edited by GreedyTop -- 11/29/2008 8:02:00 PM >

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to sunshinemiss)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 8:09:56 PM   
sunshinemiss


Posts: 17673
Joined: 11/26/2007
Status: offline 		i could help you with that GT... I swear I'm fabulous at that stuff.  I got no problem helping people get their stuff together.  oh yeah.  I'm realllllllllllly good at that.

WAIT... you are 45?  WOW!  happy birthday.  45 times over.

hugs,
tgfka sunshine

_____________________________

Yes, I am a wonton hussy... and still sweet as 3.14

(in reply to GreedyTop)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 8:10:56 PM   
GreedyTop


Posts: 52100
Joined: 5/2/2007
From: Savannah, GA
Status: offline 		46 in less than a month... *sigh*

_____________________________

polysnortatious
Supreme Goddess of Snark
CHARTER MEMBER: Lance's Fag Hags!
Waiting for my madman in a Blue Box.

(in reply to sunshinemiss)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 8:19:35 PM   
ResidentSadist


Posts: 12580
Joined: 2/11/2007
From: a mean old Daddy, but I like you - Joni Mitchell
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
........as odd as this sounds (especially from someone who doesnt like to cook), some of my cookware (gifts from Mom..sentimental stuff).  The percolator coffeepot that is older than I am.

You have cookware and a real live coffee maker?   That's sexy!

_____________________________

-=BDSM Book List=- Reading is Fundamental !!!
I give good thread.

(in reply to GreedyTop)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 8:27:07 PM   
KMsAngel


Posts: 17415
Joined: 4/13/2007
Status: offline 		*looks sideways at rs*

boy, you're easily pleased, rs

_____________________________

20 fluffy points!

flightless cherub


(in reply to ResidentSadist)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/29/2008 8:51:51 PM   
stormgirl


Posts: 294
Joined: 1/17/2007
From: tennessee
Status: offline 		what a sweet post.  Unlike RS, I don't talk to my exes.  I get sad when I find those things.  I am still cleaning out from my divorce, and it is lovely to give that stuff away.

Other things, my son's drawings, things I like that someone I like gave me, books, things I don't know what to do with, they stay . . . I have been giving stuff away for months and there is still buckets of it.  I think it grows in one of the closets.


_____________________________

pride and elan

If you start your day with a fresh cup of crazy and some arrogance on the side, good job!
indecent yet sorta cool


(in reply to KMsAngel)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: The Things They Left Behind - 11/30/2008 12:24:42 AM   
LinnaeaBorealis


Posts: 8595
Joined: 10/5/2008
From: Insanity & beyond
Status: offline 		I have things, lots of things, way too effin many things!!  I'm in the process of paring down more & more.  From my Father, I have one xerox paper box of things & a few of my favorite books.  From my Mother, I have one xerox paper box of things & a couple of sets of old dishes, one set of which I'm considering selling now.  The things from my daughter's & my childhoods that I wanted to always keep are in the box with my Mother's things.

Sometimes I think about something after I've given it away & I miss it for that moment.  But the lack of its clutter in my world outshines the moments of missing it.  I kept nothing from my 4 most important relationships.  Except the end tables.  Anybody want some end tables??

_____________________________

Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in
~~L. Cohen

Just one of the yahoo's

(in reply to stormgirl)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Polls and Other Random Stupidity >> The Things They Left Behind Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.109