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Aszhrae -> RE: Non-sub space play (12/1/2008 10:00:29 PM)

It's not the pain that is focused upon, it would be mistress. Seeing her when my eyes close, her voice, when crop stings, knowing that it is by her hand. If girl drifts, that is what puts me there. Mistress touch would put me there just as easily if girl let it.




sunshinemiss -> RE: Non-sub space play (12/2/2008 4:56:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: aravain

I wasn't trying to say something was unattractive or anything similar [:D]

Hi aravain,
In that case please accept my apologies for taking it the wrong way.  I appreciate you saying so.

Subspace, for me, is something that's unavoidable. If pain is involved, it's where I go, which was why I asked. I didn't know that focusing was a way for some people to stay OUT of subspace (and, actually, my experience is the opposite). As a whole I have a tendency to babble, and so asking me questions wouldn't change anything, for me, except what that babbling was about.

Yeah, I thought it was unavoidable too until I heard the words "no subspace tonight for you".... eek!  There is a place *the bad place* where I would go to survive, to keep myself sane, but they never take it that far.

It's an interesting thought, play without subspace... I know I'd still *enjoy* myself, but would I get AS MUCH enjoyment is the question.

This kind of play for me is about pleasing them.  I enjoy it in a whole different way.

Then again others will point out it's not always about my enjoyment, which is true enough [:D]


well wishes,
tgfka sunshine




aravain -> RE: Non-sub space play (12/2/2008 8:02:45 AM)

No worries, the internet is a text based media which means it's notorious for non-subtlety in communication :)




graceadieu -> RE: Non-sub space play (12/2/2008 4:08:03 PM)

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I've gotta ask you something about this. If you are not allowed to float off to subspace when playing, how is the difference made between play and punishment?


I'm not sunshinemiss, but I hope you don't mind me putting in my own 2ยข.....

Personally, my "high" as a sub comes not from subspace, but from being in a headspace where my wants fall away and my entire focus is on pleasing my Dom/play partner (and from knowing that I am in fact pleasing them). Knowing I've displeased and I'm not allowed to serve/give pleasure pulls me out of that, so I can't enjoy a punishment. (Also, usually play includes me having an orgasm or three and some fun light pain, while punishment certainly doesn't, lol.)




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