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to much? - 12/25/2005 4:47:04 AM

KimattC

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For Male subs:
Durning cbt or just cock torture is it possible to go to far because the sub wants to please the Domme a bit to much and forgoes his own safety?

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RE: to much? - 12/25/2005 5:59:57 AM

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anything is possible ..... isn't it???

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RE: to much? - 12/25/2005 6:27:30 AM

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anything is possible ..... isn't it???

Try skiing through a revolving door.

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RE: to much? - 12/25/2005 7:55:36 AM

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* Strips off her ski-gear and pouts* Awww do ya mean you CAN'T ski through a revolving door? Now what am I gonna do with the rest of my day ?

LoL John you had me spitting pepsi through my nose i laughed so hard !! Thanks for the morning giggles !

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RE: to much? - 12/25/2005 9:00:34 AM

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As a submissive male, i would have to say yes to that question. With so much emphasis directed at pushing a subs limits, and a sub wanting nothing more than to please his Mistress. Yes a sub can lose site of what his limits truly are, and disregard all concern for his own safety. i myself have done it. Not that i am complaining

. But depending on the individual. i would have to say it is highly probable that a slave lost in the moment, can be taken further than he ever intended to go.

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RE: to much? - 12/25/2005 10:13:42 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KimattC

For Male subs:
Durning cbt or just cock torture is it possible to go to far because the sub wants to please the Domme a bit to much and forgoes his own safety?

Even though I am not a male, I am going to answer this anyway

Yes, for males and females in some situations. I know for a fact that I can be taken too far for the simple fact that I lose myself, and it completly falls to my partner to know that I have had enough.

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RE: to much? - 12/25/2005 11:02:54 AM

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I'M Going For It!

Timing is everything, but once I'm through the revolving door...then what John?

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RE: to much? - 12/25/2005 11:13:42 AM

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i won't get involved in CBT because i do not enjoy pain and it's just not appealing to me

to each their own though

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RE: to much? - 12/25/2005 5:51:57 PM

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Why is the sub responsible for his safety? That is the responsibility of the Dominant, knowing when is when--where are safewords?

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RE: to much? - 12/25/2005 7:08:22 PM

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cracks open the door slowly..peeks in..looks at the chalkboard...

oops
wrong class...i was looking for scrubbing kitchen counters that won't allow rough powders..

but since i'm here...

with due respect...

do the words...

"gee, ya think maybe?" strike a bell?

a lot of dudes will do what it takes to win Her favor..to tough it out.

i gotta run..i'm late for my class...

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RE: to much? - 12/26/2005 2:30:17 AM

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quote:

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Why is the sub responsible for his safety? That is the responsibility of the Dominant, knowing when is when--where are safewords?

Well not actually being able to feel what he is feeling... It can be difficult to know when.

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RE: to much? - 12/26/2005 7:17:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KimattC

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Why is the sub responsible for his safety? That is the responsibility of the Dominant, knowing when is when--where are safewords?

Well not actually being able to feel what he is feeling... It can be difficult to know when.

hence the invention of green, yellow, red--at that point the responsibility is his to communicate---

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RE: to much? - 12/27/2005 10:39:23 AM

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I think the point the OP was getting at is that the sub might not be using their safewords effectively out of their desire to please the Dom... am I right? Can the Dom trust the sub and rely on safe words if the sub is not using them when they ought?

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RE: to much? - 12/27/2005 10:48:42 AM

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When your cock goes from being 6 inches soft....to 4 inches hard.....you might want to use the "SafeWord!"

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RE: to much? - 12/27/2005 10:50:18 AM

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That's definitely a case of ought to have safeworded, Fastlane. Thanks for the example

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RE: to much? - 12/27/2005 10:55:05 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: nelbot

I think the point the OP was getting at is that the sub might not be using their safewords effectively out of their desire to please the Dom... am I right? Can the Dom trust the sub and rely on safe words if the sub is not using them when they ought?

What happens when the submissive is taken so far into space that they can not effectively let their partner know that enough is enough? When any form of communication becomes impossible...and not because they are afraid of using their safeword...but because it becomes impossible for them to do so?

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RE: to much? - 12/28/2005 3:01:14 AM

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Exactally what I mean. yes we would like to be able to trust our sub to use the safe words but can we if their need to please the dom overshadows their own safety.

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RE: to much? - 12/28/2005 4:56:08 AM

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too much! (forgot the o)

It is a little scary when a subbie won't tell when it is too much, most specially when safe words (caution and stop) are given and fully explained. It is scary because it is a path not gone down before, and a Master always respects his sub, and is not there to punish but to teach. As a sub journeys and takes on more responsibility and pain a Master has to be more attentive, knowing his sub is going out on a limb for him, sometimes he has to observe more than words, but action and reaction. But boy is it a fun journey.

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RE: to much? - 4/5/2006 5:39:34 PM

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I have a high pain tolerance, but even I need a break once in awhile during a CBT session.

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RE: to much? - 4/5/2006 5:51:41 PM

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From a female subs point of view, i know i get to the point i would be unable to use a safeword even if I needed too, I get to the point where the desire to please overtakes any concern I have for my own person, thats why I know i need it to be a Dom that cares for my safety that takes me there

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