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Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 5:51:49 PM   
RocketDoc


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I have recently obtained a new sub to train. In our opening discussion, she declared that she would like to learn to improve her capability to orgasm.

She can have one per training session through masturbation, Hitachi, or Finger-Fuck.

During her orgasm, she vocalizes little and barely moves. And she can have only one.

From the standpoint of a slave, how would you suggest that I help her to gain greater orgasmic satisfaction as part of her training?

Thank you in advance.


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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 6:02:06 PM   
lronitulstahp


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Status: offline 		For me, stronger orgasms are brought on by more mental stimulation going hand in hand with the physical stimulation. 

Perhaps erotic talk, or literature, some porn...and more discourse to loosen her up might help.  Work on the emotional stuff when working on the sexual, and see what happens.

Good luck.

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 6:14:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Consider erotic hypnosis.  There are quite a few how-to books on it.

Also, you could engage in repetitive commands to force her past quietness.  "Touch yourself.... Now say 'Thank you for letting me touch myself.'  Now say 'Master please make me wet.'"  And so on.  Make her talk about her sexual urges out loud.


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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 6:36:15 PM   
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Also, you could engage in repetitive commands to force her past quietness.  "Touch yourself.... Now say 'Thank you for letting me touch myself.'  Now say 'Master please make me wet.'"  And so on.  Make her talk about her sexual urges out loud.

Dammit, now i'm gonna have trouble sleeping tonight....*puddle*


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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 7:14:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RocketDoc
I have recently obtained a new sub to train. In our opening discussion, she declared that she would like to learn to improve her capability to orgasm.

Um ok, what?  Wasn't it like two weeks ago you were all aflutter about your chick JUST starting exploring bisexuality and you were all focused on helping her in her intimacy and growing comfortable with another female?  Now that's dust in the wind and we're suddenly all about the new girl and her orgasms?   

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She can have one per training session through masturbation, Hitachi, or Finger-Fuck.

What on earth are you training her to do that involves orgasm?

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During her orgasm, she vocalizes little and barely moves. And she can have only one.

From the standpoint of a slave, how would you suggest that I help her to gain greater orgasmic satisfaction as part of her training?

Thank you in advance.
 
What do "better" orgasms have to do with training? It might be full well that right now she IS at her full capacity.  With females, simply time and exposure on its own tends to be a very important factor in a females orgasm experience.  Mostly just explore and enjoy, take classes on sexuality, figure out what her buttons are over time, and see where it takes you.

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 7:55:33 PM   
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From the standpoint of a slave, how would you suggest that I help her to gain greater orgasmic satisfaction as part of her training?


Same way you'll get greater orgasmic satisfaction.....relax, enjoy yourselves, and stop thinking about orgasms.  Let nature take its course. 

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 9:41:54 PM   
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Um ok, what? Wasn't it like two weeks ago you were all aflutter about your chick JUST starting exploring bisexuality and you were all focused on helping her in her intimacy and growing comfortable with another female? Now that's dust in the wind and we're suddenly all about the new girl and her orgasms?


Silly me I thought it was the same girl! LOL

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 9:47:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well he claimed the bisexual girl had been around 18 months.  Oops I just read the profile, there the time has inflated to two years and apparently it's not working out "For a variety of good reasons, we will be disengaging soon."

Which either states they've had issues for awhile and shouldn't have been getting involved with other couples, or that things have not gone very well since that desired bisexual performance.

As well, this is apparently the best time for him to take someone new on and immediately begin fucking her and getting her to have lots of orgasms. .



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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 10:14:02 PM   
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During her orgasm, she vocalizes little and barely moves. And she can have only one.

From the standpoint of a slave, how would you suggest that I help her to gain greater orgasmic satisfaction as part of her training?

Thank you in advance.
 


Obviously -you- don't live in an apartment!

if shes cumming and its her orgasim who cares how she does it? but if you want her to be more vocal any chance you could just say 'louder, show me like it, show me you appricaite it... you call that appricateion, *remove item* i want to hear it... *put back item and wait until she cums*

but even then you might be forcing her to be loud and she might not have cum at all... pitty how that works... but i mean if it is her treat and she is treated to a cum... why does it matter if she moves... or if shes loud?

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 10:40:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Call me jaded... but I thought he just wanted O stories.  He didn't ask dominant women about it... we know a thing or two... He only wanted subs... subs... yeah... okay... submissive women telling him stories on how to get his new lady off.  Okay... I am jaded.  That one per training session... wth?  Increasing her O's and limiting them at same time... I am so friggin confused! 

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 10:46:57 PM   
Racquelle


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Status: offline 		Let's say it was not a loaded question from a potential asswad...

Because the female orgasm is so complex, and based so very much on the mental state, I hold little hope for anyone applying external forces to do much for the gal.  I recommend several books on the topic - just look-up "female orgasm" on Amazon.  If she wants to become more orgasmic, it tends to be an inside job, and an action of her taking more control, not giving it up.

That would be my answer.

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 10:54:28 PM   
porcelain26


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Status: offline 		Yeah, I'm really confused about the whole 'increase an orgasm yet she can only have one' thing, too. If you want to increase the response, I would think you'd give her so many she'd loose her cool and start screaming with bliss....but that's just me.

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 11/30/2008 11:01:20 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		She may want more... and he may be saying she can only have one and it isn't him limiting things... but still... new submissive, opening statement... is this an in person thing or online? 

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 12/1/2008 1:37:48 AM   
DelilahDeb


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Status: offline 		It does happen that a few women (even experienced scene players) are singly orgasmic. Not me, but one of my closest and dearest friends is. (She's still one heck of a "service top", who just loves fisting people.)

As for any particular "new girl", it depends on what is new. Sex? Kink? Masturbation before an audience? Public sex? Exercising an exhibitionist streak? Learning how not to silence herself during O, because she shared a bedroom growing up?

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 12/1/2008 5:55:01 AM   
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As well, this is apparently the best time for him to take someone new on and immediately begin fucking her and getting her to have lots of orgasms. .


WELL DUH! on me!! LOL Oh well... Life goes on for people I suppose. It's just to me, my own opinion, shouldn;t you KNOW the answer to that question if you were a dominant? I mean do some real research on the issue. READ. (Oh now i said the dirty four letter word!) and find out what can help her.

Well, I suppose he couldn't fathom that women are similar but not exactly alike, Ahhh well...

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 12/1/2008 7:35:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not familiar with the OP though it sounds like there may be issues but there has been a lot of good advice given already. The only thing I would add is a good check-up with a doctor in case hormones are out of balance or a vitamin deficiency. Plus, is she on any medications that could interfere with orgasm or sex drive? Just a thought...

Rain


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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 12/2/2008 1:53:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		Perhaps a class on anatomy.  You'd be surprised just how many people have no clue whatsoever about their bodies.

The entire body can become an erogenous zone if you're turned in to it.

Then communicate.  Find out what she likes...do that.


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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 12/2/2008 2:59:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: RocketDoc
I have recently obtained a new sub to train. In our opening discussion, she declared that she would like to learn to improve her capability to orgasm.

Um ok, what?  Wasn't it like two weeks ago you were all aflutter about your chick JUST starting exploring bisexuality and you were all focused on helping her in her intimacy and growing comfortable with another female?  Now that's dust in the wind and we're suddenly all about the new girl and her orgasms?   


This was my first thougth when I read the OP... glad there I am not the only one that noted this to themselves.  I think I will just pass on by when this OP speaks.



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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 12/2/2008 5:53:49 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Has she had her hormone levels tested? Because if they aren't what they should be, then any 'training' program you set up will be an effort at futility.

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RE: Improving Orgasmic Capabilities - 12/2/2008 10:57:49 PM   
Aszhrae


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Status: offline 		Girl agrees with 'sub4hire' take the time to learn what works and what doesn't. Not every persons body reacts the same as the next persons.
Questions are good. Internet is a great source of information. Learn about the body. Take a class in sensual massage. Even aromatherapy has been known to cause a desired affect. There are so many options.


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