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Just a Tragedy - 12/2/2008 4:40:05 PM   
TNstepsout


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Status: offline 		My son called me at work today to tell me that he'd just found out that a friend of his had died on Thanksgiving Day of a drug overdose. This young mans best friend (also someone my son knew) had died of an overdose just a few months ago. My son met both of them when they worked together. When he met them, neither of them were doing the dangerous drugs that killed them, a combination of heroin and cocaine. He only met them about 5-6 months ago. They were introduced to these drugs by a girl they all hung out with.

It took just 5 short months for these drugs to take these young men's lives.  I don't quite know why I'm posting this except that it has upset me in a way I don't quite understand. Maybe because my own son lived so close to that danger zone for so many years.  There was a time I worried that could be his fate one day. It just seems so tragic and senseless and so terribly close to home.
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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/2/2008 4:46:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I offer to you and your son .my utmost sincere condolences and my deepest sympathies.  I too know how he must feel to lose some one so close & I can very much relate. My heart goes out to you and your son. -Sincere hugs to you-

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/2/2008 4:48:08 PM   
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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/2/2008 4:51:27 PM   
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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/2/2008 5:38:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Your son is obviously intelligent and made the right decision. Whatever values you taught him on the way have kept him safe. You should be proud. Keep him close.
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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/2/2008 5:40:49 PM   
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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/2/2008 5:47:04 PM   
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They were introduced to these drugs by a girl they all hung out with.

That was unfortunate. Evil will always turn the weak of heart with seductions of bliss.

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/2/2008 7:48:02 PM   
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Maybe because my own son lived so close to that danger zone for so many years.

It is quite scary to think that, "there but for the grace of God....."

It is a tragedy.....prayers to you and your son (and kudos to your son for avoiding that pitfall).


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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/2/2008 7:48:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		i am so sorry for those boys and their families.  TN, i am glad your son is safe and did not fall to the temptations that took his friends. 
it sounds as if you have a wonderful trusting relationship with your son.  you and i are fortunate to have such wonderful children.  keep them close and in our prayers always! 

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/2/2008 8:08:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Darwin wins this round. That is a tragic story; I've seen and met people in the same situation, and it's never fun to watch.

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/3/2008 1:00:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		As a parent I totally understand your sadness and fears.  Unfortunately drugs have impacted every family, and we have also lost young men who overdosed. 
You obviously planted the right seeds deep in your own son and he might possibly consider sharing this experience, as you are, with his peers.  Would be such a great thing if one more child could be saved from this scourge.  Take care....hugs.    

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/3/2008 1:29:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		That is very sad news.  I am relieved that your son walked away from that life.  I know one addict who had been in and out of jail and prison for years who finally is sober and working and maintaining a stable life.  He is in his mid 40's now.
 
And another who is currently in jail awaiting trial on meth and heroin charges.  He is in his 30's and this is the time he has faced such major consequences.  Neither his wife nor his parents can or will bail him out.  Rehab did not work the first time and who knows how long this cycle with continue.

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/3/2008 1:44:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		How sad. If anything good can come from such a senseless loss perhaps it is that your son will never be tempted to follow the same path. Hug.

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/3/2008 2:02:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		that is very sad :(

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/3/2008 3:09:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

My son called me at work today to tell me that he'd just found out that a friend of his had died on Thanksgiving Day of a drug overdose. This young mans best friend (also someone my son knew) had died of an overdose just a few months ago. My son met both of them when they worked together. When he met them, neither of them were doing the dangerous drugs that killed them, a combination of heroin and cocaine. He only met them about 5-6 months ago. They were introduced to these drugs by a girl they all hung out with.

It took just 5 short months for these drugs to take these young men's lives.  I don't quite know why I'm posting this except that it has upset me in a way I don't quite understand. Maybe because my own son lived so close to that danger zone for so many years.  There was a time I worried that could be his fate one day. It just seems so tragic and senseless and so terribly close to home.



The lessons you teach them when they are young do stick with them. Sometimes they have a head hard as a rock and you hope some of the lessons your teaching seep in. But the grand canyon will tell you water beats rock in the end. As sad as the situation is, it's good your son did not follow their path too. I'm sure you had a lot to do with that.

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/3/2008 4:41:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		TN,

please post even when you dont know why.  the group here is pretty sharp.

I live in a small town.  We have drug deaths here as well.   The law now goes after the supplier- if they can figure who it is.   2 years ago,  my chiroprator age 33, was found dead.     he had someone else locate his drugs from him.  I thought it was strange how he wore sweaters alot.  but he never looked high...  so I was suprised.

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/3/2008 5:30:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks all. I've just felt kind of down and gloomy since he told me. I am grateful that my son finally turned his life around and got away from drugs before it was too late. I just feel so bad for these parents. It all happened so fast. They were probably trying to figure out what to do, maybe trying to find a rehab or something, hoping, praying their children would get out before it was too late. But too late came fast. 

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/3/2008 6:38:16 AM   
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Darwin wins this round.
Too bad humaneness hasn't won here.

I hope that you and yours will be okay TNstepsout.    M

< Message edited by FullfigRIMAAM1 -- 12/3/2008 6:41:57 AM >

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/3/2008 7:25:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		As a parent, we can only try and hope to get through to our yunguns.  It sounds like you did a pretty good job at it.  I am happy that your son listened.  I empathise with the parents of those lost and pray that I never have to through what they are going through.

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RE: Just a Tragedy - 12/3/2008 7:38:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		TN there is no way to convey my feelings about these deaths. Wasted lives are just that, wasted. But perhaps they more than anything will bring home to your son and their friends just how dangerous drug use is. If it does, then maybe they have left a legacy after all.

Hold your son close and listen when he needs to talk about this and anything else..your strength will help him get through.

Blessings

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