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RE: ~~When the Hallway Narrows~~ - 12/4/2008 7:12:29 AM

CreativeDominant

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I am not responsible for someone else's emotions. If I've dated them once and haven't decided if I want to see them again while they've decided I'm their one, that isn't my problem. It is their problem for overinvesting in a relationship that has not yet progressed to that level.

Beyond that I think that if you really are compatible you will come to that decision at the same time. I don't think that if he decides she's the one on the first date that it is sensible to keep seeing her in the hopes that she may decide the same six months down the line.

Mostly, if you aren't capable of accepting rejection, then don't date anyone. Don't even ask people out if you are that fragile because mostly what we get in this world is rejection. We aren't good matches for most of the people we meet.

Nicely said, Des. A good reminder that the "getting to know you" stage is just that...getting to know you.

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RE: ~~When the Hallway Narrows~~ - 12/4/2008 7:36:23 AM

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I care about anyone I am talking to, so even more so anyone I would consider dating. I found that in the process of getting to know someone and focusing only on them, that whether in person or online, I wasn't always the only one they focused on! By the time I found that out sometimes, a great deal of time could have passed and my time was wasted. I don't have all that much time to waste. I am not going to hurry things, but I am not going to waste my time either.

I decided after my last relationship and all that time, that until I was in a relationship where we were both equally commited, I was not commiting to a one on one focus. I tell people upfront that I will talk to other people and get to know them. I will not be sexually active with more than one person and when the sex starts with one, there will be no other's that I am interested in for more than friendship. So far no one has complained and they would have had the freedom to do so without any sourness from me.

The key for me is honesty, communication and really not wishing to do harm to anyone, including myself.

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RE: ~~When the Hallway Narrows~~ - 12/4/2008 7:37:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

Thank you very much miss

This is the kind of honesty I was looking for.

Thank you again

Steel

P.S. SO when you come to the States you'll be commiting yourself to just andi and I right? >wink<

See ask me, discuss exclusivity with me and i'll tell the truth.
Yes i will be exclusive to you and Andi ................whilst in Utah lol

Good answer, misst....
And when youre in CT....hinthintpickpersepickperse!!!!

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RE: ~~When the Hallway Narrows~~ - 12/4/2008 7:43:31 AM

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Casual stuff does little for me...

I did not get tossed into the datting world till my mid 30`s..amd sonce I had custody of 5 of `em...<grins> dates were few and far inbetween...

Like you though...I do have a patteren of honing in...and when I find I am in that mode...I, in time get what I am after...

To bad they were real sicko`s after the fact -L- But ya know what...so am I in some areas!

I find it much harder at my age now...much. The energy is not there at times..

The best to you and andi, oh man of Steel

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