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NazjamRa -> older doms (12/4/2008 10:17:19 PM)

do all subs enjoy older doms? I know that some around their own age may not have the experience but isn't that part of growing togther?



atypicalsub -> RE: older doms (12/4/2008 10:24:37 PM)

My Mistress is 13 years younger than I am.  I am also quite new to this while she has many years experience.  We both felt age was irrelevant when seeking a partner.  Competable interests and attitudes were what we each felt was important to find.



GreedyTop -> RE: older doms (12/4/2008 10:25:51 PM)

I prefer a guy around my own age.



Scheherazade -> RE: older doms (12/4/2008 10:34:04 PM)

Didn't think I would but daddy changed my mind and my heart. Since we have met I have seen many young women go for the older or even daddydoms.

I think as with daddy, many older men and even to their 50's, can be everything the young man can be and with all of that experience, a whole lot more.



moonvine -> RE: older doms (12/4/2008 11:24:49 PM)

I specifically look for my age and younger.  My last was 34.



slavejali -> RE: older doms (12/4/2008 11:48:50 PM)

Think the benefit of having a parter that is around your own age is that you can "relate" to them easily.



silkncarol -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 2:41:32 AM)

I don't always look at age...it's about maturity, experience and compatibility.   I've seen Doms who where as much as 20 years older and younger by 10 or so years.  Though i have found if someone is younger than 10 years it starts feeling weird to me. 
I've always equated older as more experienced in life, women, D/s and BDSM....which are all pluses to me!



greeneyedreamer -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 4:53:09 AM)

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Though i have found if someone is younger than 10 years it starts feeling weird to me.


I agree, after 10 years it feels odd and weird... and just the life experiences are off...

Dreamer



sexisubi -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 4:56:31 AM)

i try not to let it really get to me... however usually i wont go for anyone over 45, i have to be honest, i may be mature for my age at times but that child in me still comes out. so i find myself embarrassed when im with anyone over 45... personal issues, i know, even if the Dom doesn't care.



housesub4you -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 5:51:30 AM)

Age is in the mind.  I serve my Domme(wife) and she is 17 years younger than I am.

If you think age differences will cause you to have nothing in common, age has nothing to do with that your personallity does.  I know people who are 25 and act like they are in their 60's, and vice versa. 
If you get along you get along. 

I also serve a Domme outside of my marriage (Yes everyone knows) and She is 10 years younger than I am,

I have served Dommes older than i am and we got along great.

I consider the mind much more than I do a persons age



mc1234 -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 6:15:52 AM)

I'll go five years younger and ten years older, and that's about my comfort zone.  



natasha66 -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 6:35:03 AM)

i prefer older, always have.  It's a matter of compatibility, as others have said.  If I found myself to be compatible with my age or younger, I would go with that, but the fact is that hasn't happened.



CatdeMedici -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 6:57:13 AM)

I prefer someone no less than 10 years younger and no one older---
 
younger--for Me its a life experience issue.
 
older--its an energy issue--most men older aren't interested in being active with a lot of things.



OrionTheWolf -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 7:06:33 AM)

Then they need to get their ass up every morning and do yoga and tai chi, as well as a good diet.


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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

I prefer someone no less than 10 years younger and no one older---
 
younger--for Me its a life experience issue.
 
older--its an energy issue--most men older aren't interested in being active with a lot of things.



kiwisub12 -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 7:12:35 AM)

My Sir is 11 years older than me, and it took some getting used to the idea. The reality is that the age made no difference in what we do. He is an old coot, and i love him, and what he can do to me. I like to accuse him of cradle snatching - and usually get pinched or spanked [:D].

Once you get past the fact that age is just a number, you realise that there are any number of people in any age group that can run you into the ground, and an equal number who are old before their time. It really is just a matter of figuring out who you are looking at.

However, having said that, i don't think i would ever go younger than 35.  I want my relationships to also be as a romantic one, and really, i can't see me with someone that young.                         my bad.        [:D]



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 7:13:15 AM)

i wouldn't all submissives/slaves seek somone older however speaking only for myself, i prefer someone older and/or closer to my age. i would have a very hard time submitting to someone younger than me.



SilverMark -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 7:17:22 AM)

As an "old guy"....I think we have certain qualities and experiences that younger ones do not....and we do things at a much more reasonable pace<eg>....sometimes the slower the better!....



LumusandtheLady -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 7:19:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Scheherazade

Didn't think I would but daddy changed my mind and my heart. Since we have met I have seen many young women go for the older or even daddydoms.

I think as with daddy, many older men and even to their 50's, can be everything the young man can be and with all of that experience, a whole lot more.


Daddy Dom's aren't always older, I've seen them be younger than their girls. In fact, my Daddy is 7 years younger than me. It's about caring, nurturing, growth and discipline among other things, not so much age. [;)]

OP, not all subs prefer their doms older. It's a matter of taste and preference. Up until earlier this year, I would have looked for someone my age or a little older and found myself madly in love with someone 7 years younger. Totally unexpected but what mattered was what we had in common, experiences, respect and how we felt for each other - not physical age. (And am I ever so glad I ignored it!)

Rain



mylittlesub -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 7:34:41 AM)

I don't think there's much you can put into a "all subs do this!" category ;) 

I personally have always enjoyed older men - I've found them to be more compatible, far more patient, generally more experienced, very grounded, and usually have a better grasp of their priorities.  My Husband is 14 years older than I am, and USUALLY he can run circles around me (well it helps that I'm bound, but that's another story).

Age is just a number.  There are plenty of men who take care of themselves and are very virile and active well into their 70's, while I've known couch potatoes in their 30's who couldn't even do as many push-ups as ME - and that's bad....



peppermint -> RE: older doms (12/5/2008 7:58:43 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: NazjamRa

do all subs enjoy older doms? I know that some around their own age may not have the experience but isn't that part of growing togther?


Using the word "all" in your question makes the question useless.  There are no absolutes in human behavior.

NO...not "all" submissives prefer older Doms.
NO...not "all" submissives prefer younger Doms.

It seem that some older Dominants who haven't been able to find a compatible submissive feel that submissives must prefer younger Dominants.  It also seems that some unattached younger Dominants feel that submissives must prefer older Dominants.  They use their personal experience as a conclusion about "all" submissives. 

Of course, there are other reasons why these Doms are currently subless.  It could be that they are only searching online, therefore limiting their searching area.  The Dominants, in their hurry to contact the greatest quantity of submissives...hoping that just one might take the bait...write to collared submissives (i get these every week), submissives who only want local relationships when the Dom lives 1000 miles away, write to a submissives who have incompatible needs and wants, write to a submissive who wants a LTR when the Dom is seeking casual, writes to a submissive who wants casual when the Dominant seeks a LTR....etc.  In other words, when someone hasn't found his/her match yet, it's easy to blame someone or something else rather than just admit that the search will take time and energy.  Age preference is just so easy to blame. 



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