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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 9:26:13 AM

thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

I don't think it is impossible to serve more than one dominant but I am reminded of the Jesus saying "One cannot serve two masters". I think it would be taxing to serve more than one person but some folks are quite capable of doing that. I'd recommend going slowly when adding in new tops/doms just as I say going slowly when adding in new bottoms/subs/slaves.

A bit of a hijack, but to clear up any misunderstanding. When Jesus made that statement in the original text, he was being specific - meaning God and Money. Therefore the statement is pretty much pointless in this context.

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I know that and that's why I added that I think it is quite possible to serve two or more mortal dominants. Still taxing and a challenge but possible. Her first post just made me think of that quote.

ACK why is this text suddenly different.... bloody stupid computers... someone give me a wax tablet please...

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 9:28:29 AM

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Who said they can't. There's quite a few subs with multiple Master's. And secondly dopms don't need multiple subs to care for them they WANT multiple subs, there's a huge difference between want, and need.

I knowI am the last person ever who should talk since I mis spell and don't spell check at all, but you should work on ease of reading of your posts, they're very jumbled and kind of hard to understand.

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ORIGINAL: badgirlmara

hmm...a few things i have been thinking about for a long time. i hope to get others to think about these things too and maybe shed some lite on why it is not talked about anywhere that i have seen. yes, that's right folks my mind has been running again and i just can't get these two topics out of my mind. it ya get upset oh well...i'm good at upseting and surprising people. ready for this?

my first and longest thought, perhaps even want (?) runs along the lines of a poly house but not really. that will make sense to you as you read this. how come it is okay for a Dom M or F to have multipul subs but a sub cannot have multipul Doms? if a Dom needs many subs to care for them and keep them happy then why can't a sub serve as the single in a house of Doms? if it is what keeps the subbie happy then i say do it. and for those Doms and subs who disagree, i don't care but please post your thoughts. also, is there anyone on this site that does do that? i'm not meaning those that rent or share their subbies with others. i mean a really multi-Dom house.
it is something that has been eating away at me. yes, it is something i would like to experiance, true i will be sexually worn out, physically exhausted and probly really confussed for a time but i think it might be a great challenge for even the most robotic brainwashed slaves... a challenge that i am very willing to under go and very ready to prove that this can work.
i know this is odd coming from someone that is against multi-sub homes. i guess that is just because i am jealous and think i require a lot of attention. which i guess i do, or so i have been told.

my other idea... are there maso Masters and sado slaves? if so, which again i'm sure there is, why isn't this ever touched upon? i for one get a rise out of hitting men 'nilla or life. well, that is if it is something that want or a dare to try and hurt them because they have such high pain thresh holds. i have debunked a few people that say that can deal with whatever i could give them. then again i have only done it to two. but i did enjoy it. it is not something i could do everyday UNLESS it was required because my owner liked it either because they are into to recieving end or because they know that i have worked hard to make them happy, even when i've been angry at them or upset and kept serveing the best i could.
i like to take my frusterations out on the back or belly of a man. not because i truely want to hurt people by any measure, but it just feels good. i am far from a fighter, at least i'd like to think. maybe it is because i was always the one in school getting beat on and screwed with. i don't know.
anywho, enough about me...please let's talk about this stuff. i just want to know if anyone ever thinks about these two things. if you live like either or both of the things listed but wish to keep it private, them message me here and we can talk.
much love, thanks, and respect to all ~mara~

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 9:29:47 AM

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The only two dominant houses I know of are those where the dominants are each other's primary partner. IE, a dom-domme couple with sub or subs. Or a two domme couple with a sub or subs. To have a dom/dom couple the men would have to be bi to be interested in a female sub. Or the female sub would not be getting her sexual needs met through them.

Since collarme is much more heavily oriented towards heterosexual, the majority of such two dominant couple seen here are dom/domme.

However, like any other poly situation it is difficult to find one person you click with in all possible ways. It is that much harder to find two such people. It is even harder to find two people you resonate with who also resonate with each other.

Re your jealousy issues. If you would be jealous of a second sub getting attention you would prefer to have yourself, why do you think you wouldn't be jealous of the second dominant getting attention instead of you?

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 9:30:15 AM

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It's all cool. Biblical quotes are just my thing and I have often seen them misused (not that I am saying you were but for other readers who have strong biblical convictions who might be placed in an awkward postion if someone used that against them) and so was placing the quote in context of why Jesus said it.

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 10:49:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: badgirlmara

how come it is okay for a Dom M or F to have multipul subs but a sub cannot have multipul Doms?

Our household is set up with multiple keepers, and always has been. It's not common (a lot of folks can't imagine serving more than one person), but it works for us. We may have one servant or multiples, depending on our current needs, and on whether or not we're training someone on a short-term basis, etc., but it works both ways -- with multiples on either or both sides of the collar.

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my other idea... are there maso Masters and sado slaves?

I'm an intensity junkie/sensation junkie, into blood play, piercing, tattooing, cutting, on both sides of the tools, so, yes, you can have a dominant individual who is masochistic. I've also participated in other forms of sensation play. It isn't touched on much because it makes a lot of people uncomfortable, so many of us who do it don't advertise. I'm not most people, and tend to be pretty outspoken, so I've mentioned my proclivities a number of times on these boards.

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 11:14:15 AM

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Doms can be pretty greedy, and don't want to share authority with someone else. So, it's counter productive to share with another dom sometimes.

Also I guess itprobably doesn't occure to many to talk about it.

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ORIGINAL: badgirlmara

i know that but i guess one of the main things i am asking here is why people don't talk about the things that are not the norm for "us". and why don't more Doms agree to such a house where one sub serves many? and why maso Masters do ever admit to this when asked. well i'm sure some do to the right people. but like i said. i'm just wondering.

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 12:29:09 PM

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Hun i now have a poly Master , which i never did before < Right now it is just on line , i do not live with Him . He has a sub that lives with Him 24/7 . i feel that if one really wants it to work out , it will . i i myself would Not want more than one Dom , i wish to devote all my energy to Him , getting to know His needs and to full till them , As to why a Dom would want more than one sub , i guess it is cause His need is so strong that He has too. That does not mean He does not love both of them , i feel the love my Master has for me when We/we talk , etc . Someday it will that we will meet , but ritht now We/we are still getting to know each other . smiles /. ..................Yes there are maso Doms and subs/slaves, i personally know then , she can never get enough pain , the moreone gives the more she takes , smiles . As to why one can not speak out against it , they will probably put us in jail. As it would be considered abuse . i myself am learning that i can take more pain then i ever thought , real life , i have been pushed , to way beyond/ my limits . i still wish to see how much more i can take , smiels . Yes my ass has seen a lot too, but the Dom i was with , is so kindhearted that He stopped before i wanted too , as He was afraid of hurting me . But i would never let that happen , as We/we would never play again if i did . ..........i feel that when You are mad You should not play as then it is too dangerous and one is not in control . lyricaKS

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 2:07:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: badgirlmara

my first and longest thought, perhaps even want (?) runs along the lines of a poly house but not really. that will make sense to you as you read this. how come it is okay for a Dom M or F to have multipul subs but a sub cannot have multipul Doms? if a Dom needs many subs to care for them and keep them happy then why can't a sub serve as the single in a house of Doms?

The thought has never crossed my mind. For me, if I was submissive, I don't think that situation would be something I could engage in for any indefinite period of time. Some of the reasons why ... you already stated further down in your OP.

It would be rather exhausting and beyond confusing.

However, if I look at it as a one time fantasy scenario or brief indulgence ... then who knows.

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 3:58:10 PM

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I am in a long term poly reltionship with Wolf and his wife Satina, I have a Master/slave-SM relationship with Wolf and a submissive SM relationship with his wife, I love both of them deeply.

I am a masochistic bottom with sadistic tendancies

and my Owner(for lack of a better term lol) is a sadist with masochistic tendancies. ;) we play primaly for the most part, in other words, he hits me-- I hit back, I'm encouraged to react naturaly and that is my reaction, it doesn't make me a Top or change our dynamic in the least it just means we both get off on pain to one degree or another.

Wolf's denika

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 3:58:48 PM

badgirlmara

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sexisubi, i undferstand. i am working with a few right now and it is hard to keep all of them happy. i get confussed at who's who and what's what. i think in a live in situation, it would be okay.

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 4:04:59 PM

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All power to any submissive/slave who can serve more then one Dom. This is something that I know I couldnt do.
Perhaps has to do with a person's make-up?

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 4:48:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: oceanwynds

All power to any submissive/slave who can serve more then one Dom.

oceanwynds

here, here!

Anyway, have fun with is badgirlmara, let everyone know, and i hope you find the one you're looking for. =) it is frustrating i know.. but the challange is half the fun.

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 9:30:48 PM

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Hi, Mara----
There's no new thing under the sun; those things have, do, and will continue to exist.
I, personally, find the contemplation of serving multiple Masters viscerally anxiety-provoking; I believe I can serve with solidity and excellence but I have a hard time believing that more than one Master would not place me in a circumstance of displeasing one via the other coming up with a contradictory instruction/desire. 'Course, could get really philosophical and say same is true of multiple submissives and leap into that whole the Master is the slave and the slave is the Master but you can play that one out in your head, if you'd like without my explaining it. I have occasionally entertained that one but still findit easierto wrap my brain around multiple subs than multiple Masters for me.
< shrug > as long as everyone's on the up and up, do what works. :>
Davan

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 9:44:37 PM

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ORIGINAL: daddysliloneds

honestly, it's an ego thing or a man thing i think! now there are a few relationships that i know of where the dom and the sub either own or are owned by more than one, but it's very, very rare! guys want to be able to shove their dick in any ole pussy they want, but they want us girls to keep our legs closed and become the frigid woman until they choose to give us what we need...it ain't right i'm telling you, and i refuse to play into that game! you want me to be soley monogomous to you, then you get what you give!

While I will grant the the majority of men tend to behave that way please don't generalize that all men do. I have always been poly minded, never expecting anyone I was involved with to be exclusive to me. I would not have been able to come and live with my Mistress if I did not believe she was truely interested in poly relationships and the possibility of us adding additional intimate partners to our household when we find compatible people. Currently I am the only one living with my Mistress but she also has a female submissive and another male sub she is considering. It is part of the original agreement that I will be expected to serve all females in the household, even if they are her subs they will be above me.

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RE: living the taboo in a taboo world - 12/5/2008 11:48:12 PM

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ORIGINAL: badgirlmara

my first and longest thought, perhaps even want (?) runs along the lines of a poly house but not really. that will make sense to you as you read this. how come it is okay for a Dom M or F to have multipul subs but a sub cannot have multipul Doms? if a Dom needs many subs to care for them and keep them happy then why can't a sub serve as the single in a house of Doms?

We live in an open and poly relationship. In that princess has another Dom. He is quite honestly 180 degrees different from me. And it works so well. We do NOT dom her at the same time. I am still her Daddy Dom and he is her Dom. She has two collars, one she wears with him, and one she wears with me. I have a friend whose slave also has another Dom. The other guy lives down south from us and visits. They do both dom her sometimes and sometimes they do a full on bdsm 'orgy' of sorts where they both have a sub and then there are times when the girl is with only the out of town Dom.

I also have had other subs, some I just play with, some I trained, and a few I considered for long term. So far the long term thing is hardest for me to find. But for us poly works both ways. princess would still be the Alpha here in the house, and she would still serve her other.

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