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Pampering Skills - 12/4/2008 11:00:22 PM

Araven

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Alright, this might just come off as lazy.. or I don't go out and look myself. But Im having the darnest time finding good legitimate web sites, or even books that offer advise and training in giving massages, pedicures, foot rubs, ect.. Are they taught strictly in classes and programs?

I was wondering.. Are there websites out there that can give good accurate information? Perhaps some websites with tutorial videos and demonstrations on how to do the right things?

What sort of resources has your sub used to learn some of these pampering skills to do in a professional way? Have they taken classes, and have paid certifications? Are they just naturals?

I'd be curious to see what sort of knowledge and the process of acquisition of these skills.

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/4/2008 11:30:43 PM

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In clip's case, he was already trained to be a very good cook when I got him. It was already something he enjoyed doing and had been for years. I think you'd laugh if I told you who trained him since he is wonderful at it.

As for things like pedicures, I helped him learn that along with some of his fellow male submissives here in the area. I think he's something of a natural when it comes to foot rubs, especially foot rubs with, shall we say, extra attention. I doubt what he can do is taught in class.

I'm sorry I can't help with websites and such. I'm sure someone will. The truth is most of clip's skills were taught in other ways. Quite a few of them from other male submissives or at workshops given by folks who wanted to share knowledge. We have some great teachers locally on both sides of the kneel. After all, if Dominants can have mentors to learn certain skills, why can't submissives?

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 2:23:02 AM

DelilahDeb

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My own method of learning massage (relaxation, some shiatsu & acupressure, "Swedish", a "huna" technique I was told is called "lomi lomi", physical therapy miscellania, chiropractic miscellania, and more) has been body memory and (apparently) a natural ability to apply techniques that I have experienced. At college my whole dorm floor exchanged serious back-rubs (massage of limited territory but not duration or intensity) regardless of gender, often nattering about techniques while it was going on. Sometimes two or three pairs at time might be getting "work done".

That was where I got my start, come to think of it…except my single-parent mother, a working engineer, had taught both of her daughters back rub techniques in simple self-preservation, when we were 11 and 12 and 14.

I have heard good comments on Playboy channel shows that demonstrate sensual massage techniques (not explicitly sexual, but relaxing) from people who know a bit about massage. (I've never paid for the channel.) You might also check your local library or community college library. Nursing textbooks probably have basic healthful techniques, and these days I'd be astonished if they weren't accompanied by DVDs or tapes that demonstrate.

Also, if there is a local massage school in your area, they may have a place where you can sign up or attend sessions for the "massage interns" to get some of their requisite hours under supervision, in the latter stages of their training. Sort of like dentistry and beauty colleges do.

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 4:32:26 AM

LadyLou

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My sub learnt to do a truly mesmerizing Indian head message from VideoJug. The video is quite corny, and bound to bring out the giggles, but here it is (note the instantaneous smiles lmao) http://www.videojug.com/film/how-to-do-an-indian-head-massage There are other video tutorials on there for various things, some better than others.

If your lady likes to be super-indulged, like myself, ignore the time limits they give in the vid, as following that it would only last about 10mins. I have my sub stretch it out to a good 45mins or so, to a point sooooo good that I am pure bliss.

Everything else, I just tell him.

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 5:11:04 AM

chezzy71

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When the time comes down the road...i am overly excited to pamper Mistress..especially in the kitchen.

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 5:16:43 AM

housesub4you

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There are hundreds of videos on Youtube shoing how to give foot, head full body massages.

I learned to cook from my Grandmothers and i must say, the Dommes I serve are very pleased with this service. As for learning how to cook, pick up a cookbook and start cooking for yourself, or find somebody in your area who knows how to cook and watch and learn. Cooking os not that hard, it just takes time

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 5:21:06 AM

CatdeMedici

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Araven, you might try a search of you tube, I know My UM finds all kinds of cooking, makeup, sewing type videso out there---so I might try looking there, I am sure you will find something, I will also do some utube crawling this weekend to see if I can find you a link ot two.

Often if you escort your Lady when She goes, you can observe pedicure techniques at least.

ammended to add this link: http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=Pedciures&search_type=&aq=f

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 5:25:55 AM

DiurnalVampire

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Fox had a thread on here about learning to give a massage, several months ago. If you look that up, he was given several very good suggestions. We have a book called "Sensual Massage" which is fantastic, becasue it is fully illustrated with models, not drawings. If you are really interested in learning, go to a Barnes and Nobles or a Borders and find yourself a chair over near the section, and browse. Read through and see which ones make sense to you and which dont. Same with online tutorials. If you arent finding what you want with one search, make the search more specific.

Fox doesnt cook for me. I taught him to make coffee and he cleans beautifully... but cooking isnt pampering to us. He learned to give back massages and foot massages and we have all the necessary oils and lotions for them. Beyond that he just spares me having to do things like vacuum or dishes.

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 5:37:29 AM

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You could pay a trained professional to teach you the basics.

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 6:17:57 AM

MistressOfGa

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OttersSwim started a thread on pedicures not too long ago. Great information.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2148113/mpage_1/key_pedicures/tm.htm#

Someone suggested you go with your Mistress the next time she has a pedicure done, great learning tool as well.

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 7:22:28 AM

undergroundsea

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I met a woman in our local scene who used to give pedicures professionally. I learned from her. Putting out a call in the local community about a wish to see a training event for these skills could bring out those who have these skills to teach the class.

For massage, I went to school. Our local community college allowed evening and weekend classes, and I split it out over two semesters.

For cooking, I learned the basics in college to feed myself. I would say what has helped me most in cooking is the tendency to experiment and bring together different ideas. My specialty has become omelettes, which I think I somehow subconsciously did to provide incentive to be allowed to sleep over or be invited back to sleep over again ;-)

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 8:14:03 AM

chiaThePet

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Personally, when dealing with those heavy onychogryphosis mornings, I find
the Craftsman C3 19.2-volt orbital buffer/polisher with a 1/16th inch sanding
plate attached to be the most efficient approach to reducing those unsightly
callouses and "thick as a subs skull" nail plates. Goggles mandatory of course.

Other than that, my Dominant and I share the wealth of the following glory.

I wake her with a lovely bugle reveille, load her into the wheel barrow for easy
transporting to the hosing station, where I lovingly cleanse her pastel skin.
I count and connect the goosebumps from the icy cold water, forming the
varied constellations of the sky. Yes, a sight to behold, a planetarium delight.

Then it's on to the wiglet pavilion where I choose a smart but functional cascade
of synthetic fibers to adorn her glorious smooth scalp, held in place by the tape
of colorful bows from Christmas past. Smart and sassy speaks volumes.

Moving on, it's a fun filled game of "go fish" as we try to be the first to retrieve
her upper teeth from the effervescent shimmering pool of polident overnight.
Shouts of "I hooked a big one, but it got away" fill the crisp morning air.

From there, the excitment builds as we play "Pin the overalls on the Mistress".
Wonderful giggles fill the morning amid her cries of "ouch that smarts, but
does this pitchfork clash with these?" Cherished moments indeed!

She sits as royality on the throne, just inches from the tub, reading mesmerizing
excerpts from "Men are from Mars, Women are from Pasadena" as I fit the
recycled tire rubber sandals into place with a polished garden spade. I know
I can, I know I can.

Ready for the day, She spins happily about the room as I scamper to rescue
falling mementos and quickly sweep away the sparkling shards of broken glass.
Yes, it is once again a most beautiful day with her grace.

On to the kitchen, where we partake in the daily ritual of "catch a chicken, get
an egg." She beams with unrivaled emotion as I create little smiley faces out of
ketchup atop Her eggo homemade waffles. Oh the magic of the morning!

After the usual competition of breakfast plate frisbee against the dining room wall,
it's off to hitch the little neighbor boys to the carriage for a joyful jaunt into town.
A close-out sale at BigLots becomes the destination of our frenzied and quivering
shouts of "Open, open, open". Toilet tissue, twelve double rolls for one dollar,
it's as if God himself has visited us with fortune!

Yes, Araven, be filled with envy at the wonder which I have brought to your
dreams, Heaven does exist, and exists only for her. Angelic music fills the
swirls of eternity as we dance among the whispering clouds. Soft steps
interrupted only by the occasional 'thump' of her prosthetic leg falling in playful
spins to the floor. It is a gift of unimaginable pleasure I share, for it is opportunity
to fall to my knees before her as I re-attach the balance of our worlds. She is
my everything, She is...'thump'....excuse me for a brief moment...my shining star
amidst a dark and deary world.

And we dance, captured in our ritual of pampering, the moments which make
each day just a cut above the Price Is Right. She plays the theme song over
and over, echoing in my devoted ears as she cracks the whip and shouts in
laughter, "Come on down, no, not there, no, over here, no, to the left a little,
no, up a bit, warmer, warmer, and we have a winner!"

So little Araven, work hard, persevere in your love and devotion to her, these
and many more unbelievable moments of pampering can be yours to behold.
Each and every one become as the sweet breath of life.....'thump'.....excuse
me for a brief moment....yes, as the beat of the heart itself, anything for her.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 8:17:45 AM

LadyHibiscus

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Massage, manicure, etc, are generally things that you need a license for, so there are not a lot of casual classes! You might want to look up your adult education classes, I know that they do a partner massage thing in my area. And, what everyone else said, as regards videos. :)

You will want to practice on someone to hone your skills---hope you have a buddy to work on!

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 8:24:58 AM

chiaThePet

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Oh yes, it goes without saying, but I'll say it anyway.

Pie.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 8:30:00 AM

YourhandMyAss

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There's a massage class that was november 30th, it would of been a great class but it was out of town and we can't go. And I see all types classes coming across the group at the Citadel in Sanfransisco all the time. It also depends on your local group. Iknow our group has know how type classes all the time, from tea serving to boot blacking to massage workshops.

And if you're going to do manicutres at home you dont need a liscence to learn to do them.

There's probably instructional DVD's all over the place, hell I picked up a manicure set for 5 bucks for a holiday sale and it teches how to give french tip manicures.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Massage, manicure, etc, are generally things that you need a license for, so there are not a lot of casual classes! You might want to look up your adult education classes, I know that they do a partner massage thing in my area. And, what everyone else said, as regards videos. :)

You will want to practice on someone to hone your skills---hope you have a buddy to work on!

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 8:33:01 AM

YourhandMyAss

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Yes. There are, check on amazon, check for books on the subject, check for tutorials. I'll do a websearch for you and show you what I find.

And I don't think it's lazy sometimes websearches are hit or miss.

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ORIGINAL: Araven

Alright, this might just come off as lazy.. or I don't go out and look myself. But Im having the darnest time finding good legitimate web sites, or even books that offer advise and training in giving massages, pedicures, foot rubs, ect.. Are they taught strictly in classes and programs?

I was wondering.. Are there websites out there that can give good accurate information? Perhaps some websites with tutorial videos and demonstrations on how to do the right things?

What sort of resources has your sub used to learn some of these pampering skills to do in a professional way? Have they taken classes, and have paid certifications? Are they just naturals?

I'd be curious to see what sort of knowledge and the process of acquisition of these skills.

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 8:36:35 AM

LadyLou

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chiaThePet

Personally, when dealing with those heavy onychogryphosis mornings, I find
the Craftsman C3 19.2-volt orbital buffer/polisher with a 1/16th inch sanding
plate attached to be the most efficient approach to reducing those unsightly
callouses and "thick as a subs skull" nail plates. Goggles mandatory of course.

Other than that, my Dominant and I share the wealth of the following glory.

I wake her with a lovely bugle reveille, load her into the wheel barrow for easy
transporting to the hosing station, where I lovingly cleanse her pastel skin.
I count and connect the goosebumps from the icy cold water, forming the
varied constellations of the sky. Yes, a sight to behold, a planetarium delight.

Then it's on to the wiglet pavilion where I choose a smart but functional cascade
of synthetic fibers to adorn her glorious smooth scalp, held in place by the tape
of colorful bows from Christmas past. Smart and sassy speaks volumes.

Moving on, it's a fun filled game of "go fish" as we try to be the first to retrieve
her upper teeth from the effervescent shimmering pool of polident overnight.
Shouts of "I hooked a big one, but it got away" fill the crisp morning air.

From there, the excitment builds as we play "Pin the overalls on the Mistress".
Wonderful giggles fill the morning amid her cries of "ouch that smarts, but
does this pitchfork clash with these?" Cherished moments indeed!

She sits as royality on the throne, just inches from the tub, reading mesmerizing
excerpts from "Men are from Mars, Women are from Pasadena" as I fit the
recycled tire rubber sandals into place with a polished garden spade. I know
I can, I know I can.

Ready for the day, She spins happily about the room as I scamper to rescue
falling mementos and quickly sweep away the sparkling shards of broken glass.
Yes, it is once again a most beautiful day with her grace.

On to the kitchen, where we partake in the daily ritual of "catch a chicken, get
an egg." She beams with unrivaled emotion as I create little smiley faces out of
ketchup atop Her eggo homemade waffles. Oh the magic of the morning!

After the usual competition of breakfast plate frisbee against the dining room wall,
it's off to hitch the little neighbor boys to the carriage for a joyful jaunt into town.
A close-out sale at BigLots becomes the destination of our frenzied and quivering
shouts of "Open, open, open". Toilet tissue, twelve double rolls for one dollar,
it's as if God himself has visited us with fortune!

Yes, Araven, be filled with envy at the wonder which I have brought to your
dreams, Heaven does exist, and exists only for her. Angelic music fills the
swirls of eternity as we dance among the whispering clouds. Soft steps
interrupted only by the occasional 'thump' of her prosthetic leg falling in playful
spins to the floor. It is a gift of unimaginable pleasure I share, for it is opportunity
to fall to my knees before her as I re-attach the balance of our worlds. She is
my everything, She is...'thump'....excuse me for a brief moment...my shining star
amidst a dark and deary world.

And we dance, captured in our ritual of pampering, the moments which make
each day just a cut above the Price Is Right. She plays the theme song over
and over, echoing in my devoted ears as she cracks the whip and shouts in
laughter, "Come on down, no, not there, no, over here, no, to the left a little,
no, up a bit, warmer, warmer, and we have a winner!"

So little Araven, work hard, persevere in your love and devotion to her, these
and many more unbelievable moments of pampering can be yours to behold.
Each and every one become as the sweet breath of life.....'thump'.....excuse
me for a brief moment....yes, as the beat of the heart itself, anything for her.

chia* (the pet)

Chia, you had me in tears. It doesn't help that I got an eye infection, but tears I tell you! LMAO!

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 9:15:27 AM

YourhandMyAss

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The Book Of Massage: The Complete Stepbystep Guide To Eastern And Western Technique by Lucinda Lidell, Carola Beresford Cooke, Anthony Porter, and Sara Thomas

http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=Massage

Rest are listed down here below that link.

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 9:16:36 AM

thetammyjo

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Fox took some classes when he was in college as well as frankly just learning basic homehold skills from his parents.

You can turn to books -- try Amazon.com or another place or you local bookstore even. Just don't be like my husband and think that if the massage book lists 10 types of techniques you must do them in that order in one massage... lol.. oh, dear, this is why he's a great bottom/fetishist but sucks at being a submissive.

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RE: Pampering Skills - 12/5/2008 9:32:05 AM

YourhandMyAss

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I do believe there's a tiny bit more skill involved in being a good cook than just picking up a book and following a recipee. You have to kind of know what would work and what wouldn't work and how to tweak a recipee if needed, and a bit of skill goes a long way into making something truely specacular instead of just something grabbed out of a cooking book.

That being said I believe almost any one can cook if they just followed the recipee and I am skeptical of people who say hell they can't even boil water with out burning it so they can't cook. Cause if you can follow directions you can cook.

Course perha[s nobody would wanna eat it, but ya did cook.

quote:

ORIGINAL: housesub4you

As for learning how to cook, pick up a cookbook and start cooking for yourself, or find somebody in your area who knows how to cook and watch and learn. Cooking os not that hard, it just takes time

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