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beurpet -> RE: Can sub frenzie happen later on? (12/7/2008 4:52:57 PM)
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I'm relatively new to all of this still -- it's only been two years since I learned what BDSM meant -- and I continue to learn everyday about myself and the lifestyle. Having said this, my experience with sub frenzy has occurred not when I was in a relationship, but rather when I've been alone, and have had a compelling need to serve. There are many ways to serve, and I have usually addressed this need by volunteering (preferably in the local scene) or doing something extra at work. But as we all know, with the need to serve comes the need to be dominated/controlled, and that is harder to find in the vanilla world. While I haven't done anything stupid to satiate that need, as in have a careless encounter with an unknown dominant, my understanding is it is in this situation that sub frenzy can be dangerous.
I don't know if my inexperience is directly related with a frenzied state. I would think it is something that can happen at any time one is alone for an extended period of time. As you said, the power exchange is similar to other "addictions," like chocolate, alcohol, exercise, extreme sports, etc. If one doesn't get it, after awhile the need can be quite urgent. However, as we become experienced in the ways of life, we recognize the behavior, the reason for the behavior, and means for offsetting the behavior, and thus the frenzy is tempered.
I don't think that this is an issue that should be dismissed so easily as simply an issue for newbies with no control. It can have serious consequences, and those more experienced should be understanding and supportive, rather than dismissive or condescending.
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