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RE: Can sub frenzie happen later on? - 12/7/2008 10:31:05 AM

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Okay, so not a sub or slave, but the topic caught my eye as it rolled around that scrolling menu.

I can say that this 'frenzy' is felt on both sides. Maybe it's like that infatuation stage when we first discovered there were people with other parts we liked! I am glad I read this thread as it opened my eyes to something to watch for in a new sub. Thanks to the OP and those that answered.

See even us Doms can learn sometimes!

Your welcome DomDg and thank you.
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RE: Can sub frenzie happen later on? - 12/7/2008 4:52:57 PM

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I'm relatively new to all of this still -- it's only been two years since I learned what BDSM meant -- and I continue to learn everyday about myself and the lifestyle. Having said this, my experience with sub frenzy has occurred not when I was in a relationship, but rather when I've been alone, and have had a compelling need to serve. There are many ways to serve, and I have usually addressed this need by volunteering (preferably in the local scene) or doing something extra at work. But as we all know, with the need to serve comes the need to be dominated/controlled, and that is harder to find in the vanilla world. While I haven't done anything stupid to satiate that need, as in have a careless encounter with an unknown dominant, my understanding is it is in this situation that sub frenzy can be dangerous.

I don't know if my inexperience is directly related with a frenzied state. I would think it is something that can happen at any time one is alone for an extended period of time. As you said, the power exchange is similar to other "addictions," like chocolate, alcohol, exercise, extreme sports, etc. If one doesn't get it, after awhile the need can be quite urgent. However, as we become experienced in the ways of life, we recognize the behavior, the reason for the behavior, and means for offsetting the behavior, and thus the frenzy is tempered.

I don't think that this is an issue that should be dismissed so easily as simply an issue for newbies with no control. It can have serious consequences, and those more experienced should be understanding and supportive, rather than dismissive or condescending.

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RE: Can sub frenzie happen later on? - 12/7/2008 5:04:36 PM

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Sub frenzy is really just excitement and eagerness. Just like we have to judiciously choose which things we put in our cart at the hardware store...subs (and everyone else) must be judicious about how to make those emotional investments in the areas of love/sex/relationships. Nary a one of us has made perfectly well-informed decisions our whole lives, but hopefully we learn with maturity and experience...

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RE: Can sub frenzie happen later on? - 12/8/2008 6:07:47 PM

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i experienced sub frenzy before....after numerous breakups, scars, and outbursts i have learned not to take most dominants seriously

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RE: Can sub frenzie happen later on? - 12/8/2008 10:54:08 PM

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I don't know how to feel about the negative light that's occasionally shed on frenzy here. I guess it's because I still feel like I'm in the throws of it. Like I want nothing more than to please my Daddy, and I can't stand being away from him for too long ( a day is toooo long). I feel like such a bad, needy, little girl at times. But it's just soooo good. Guess I'll just have to find a similar high, like running and working out.

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RE: Can sub frenzie happen later on? - 12/9/2008 12:48:51 AM

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I don't know how to feel about the negative light that's occasionally shed on frenzy here. I guess it's because I still feel like I'm in the throws of it. Like I want nothing more than to please my Daddy, and I can't stand being away from him for too long ( a day is toooo long). I feel like such a bad, needy, little girl at times. But it's just soooo good. Guess I'll just have to find a similar high, like running and working out.

Being enthralled and passionate isn't such a bad thing! It is a great feeling, and frankly I think everyone should be so blessed as to be that happy and emersed in the joy of another. For a day, a week, a lifetime. Its just plain awesome. Just love the hell outa your daddy. Seriously. If it is just sooo good, how bad can it be? Frenzy away girl.....and if possible, send video!

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RE: Can sub frenzie happen later on? - 12/9/2008 10:45:10 AM

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Lmao, thank you WinsomeDefiance. I adore my Daddy, but due to an extreme fear of his new brown leather belt, there will be no video lmao. Seriously I'm on punishment, right now, for not knowing how to be discreet.

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RE: Can sub frenzie happen later on? - 12/9/2008 11:08:30 AM

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(hugs) Just learn your lessons quickly - discretion is definitely an important one to learn early and thoroughly.

S'ok about the lack of video...my imagination makes some pretty awesome home movi quality mental images anyway..

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