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LadyHibiscus -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/6/2008 7:20:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsStarlett I glanced over that 'cell popping' site. All I saw were ads for the kit and some testimonials about how well it worked. Were there any photos or descriptions of what that actually IS? Some pals on Fetlife gave out that link... I think it is on the FlintBDSM list, but I will get back to you! edited to add: there is a group called Cell Popping Body Art on Fetlife. When I get some realtime experience, I will report back.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/6/2008 7:22:39 PM)
My "collar" was (and will be again) a bracelet. Hugh's was a style of chain like boat anchor chain, since he was a sailor. In retrospect, I am sorry I didn't go with a cutting, but I was new to bloodsports way back then. [;)]

stella41b -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/6/2008 10:41:08 PM)
My new domme says that mine is going to be a length of rope. But if I'm good she'll put some soap on it just to make it smell nice.

Lockit -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/6/2008 10:44:56 PM)
Stella... I cannot say what I thought when I read that! OMG... lol

thetammyjo -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/7/2008 7:18:36 AM)
Considering where he works I won't do anything that might cross the lines of what they think is proper. Not only will that open him up to discrimination in terms of promotions but it might open him up to personal attacks from his peers. I can appreciate the need for collars, I have a fetish for them myself but I learned over the years that the most important collar is the one your sub/slave wear around his heart and mind just as the best leash is the one you are consistently mindful of. Try to be content with an at-home collar. Make putting it on and off a ritual that you do together, use words that remind you both that regardless of it he is always representing you in all he does because he is always yours. Over time you may too discover that the object pales in comparison to the commitment and honor an excellent sub/slave will offer the right dominant.

MistressDaraine -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/7/2008 3:11:30 PM)
You could go with a scarification instead of a collar or branding, but it may be difficult to find someone who knows how. Also, most brands are done using a cauterizing pen now, so they can be very fine. My boyfriend is a body artist, and has done all of the above (including tattoos and peircings) but I don't know of anyone in the Houston area. Also, he could wear a wedding-style ring, unless he's already married. The military has no problem with that, and you both would know what it means. Unless you are letting him date, of course. It's just a suggestion. The idea of a genital piercing is a good one also, in my opinion.

SomethingCatchy -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/7/2008 5:08:10 PM)
The problem is is when he works at his specific job, he has to remove everything from his person besides his clothes. He even had to snip off buttons on his top. A ring just wouldn't cut it. If it was an anklet that might work.

MsStarlett -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/7/2008 6:48:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Some pals on Fetlife gave out that link... I think it is on the FlintBDSM list, but I will get back to you! edited to add: there is a group called Cell Popping Body Art on Fetlife. When I get some realtime experience, I will report back. Thanks, sweetie. I'd appreciate that. It actually sounds dreadful and painful. I just can't seem to figure out what they are talking about. Sometimes, you really do have to draw me a diagram.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/7/2008 6:53:00 PM)
Well, I got some more intel, and if you are not on fetllife, I do recommend you try out the group. The markings are a series of dots, around the size of an eraser head... some look great, others get blurry. I remain a fan of cuttings, there is so much more control.

MsStarlett -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/7/2008 7:25:22 PM)
Oh... Gotcha. Thanks. No, I haven't joined FetLife. I'm fairly active on two other vanilla forums. Never learned to do a darned thing with MySpace... only joined that to help out a friend. Don't know that I have the time or wherewithall to start something new.

beeble -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/8/2008 5:46:21 AM)
quote: SomethingCatchy wrote: The problem is is when he works at his specific job, he has to remove everything from his person besides his clothes. He even had to snip off buttons on his top. A ring just wouldn't cut it. If it was an anklet that might work. So, in other words, by asking him to wear a collar 24/7, you're asking him to break a rule laid down by his employer. I'm sorry, but that just isn't reasonable; doubly so for the military, which is much more picky about rules and regulations than the average employer; triply so if the restriction on jewelry and so on is a health and safety matter. OK, so an anklet is less likely to be noticed than a ring or bracelet but what if somebody drops something heavy on your sub's foot he needs to take his boot off to get medical attention? It sounds like your sub is very keen to please you which is good in a way but also puts a responsibility on your shoulders not to put him in danger by making requests that a less compliant person would refuse to carry out. I second TammyJo's comments about an at-home collar until your sub can wear one all the time. I love wearing my collar but I'm not at all comfortable with the idea of wearing it 24/7. Imajican and I have a simple ritual (I kneel naked, she offers me my collar to kiss and then fastens it round my neck) that has become very significant to us, even though it's usually performed intercontinentally over IRC. An alternative that hasn't been mentioned is that you could write on him each day with a permanent marker (which is not at all permanent on skin). The effect is that of a tattoo but without the squick. But, again, you need to give careful consideration of the effects that might have on his career and wellbeing. beeble

LadyPact -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/8/2008 6:04:42 AM)
I wasn't especially thinking about this when I replied the first time around, because I was thinking specifically about My sub's case. Had I put it in reference to My husband, I'd have been thinking differently. With what My husband does for his MOS, there are times that he can't wear any type of metal either. No wedding band, no watch, no dog tags. OP, if what your sub does in the military anything close to what My husband does, please do not attempt to cheat the rules. Keep the metal off of him and don't risk it. Go for some kind of body mod and keep the collar at home.

SomethingCatchy -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/8/2008 6:09:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beeble quote: SomethingCatchy wrote: The problem is is when he works at his specific job, he has to remove everything from his person besides his clothes. He even had to snip off buttons on his top. A ring just wouldn't cut it. If it was an anklet that might work. So, in other words, by asking him to wear a collar 24/7, you're asking him to break a rule laid down by his employer. I'm sorry, but that just isn't reasonable; doubly so for the military, which is much more picky about rules and regulations than the average employer; triply so if the restriction on jewelry and so on is a health and safety matter. OK, so an anklet is less likely to be noticed than a ring or bracelet but what if somebody drops something heavy on your sub's foot he needs to take his boot off to get medical attention? It sounds like your sub is very keen to please you which is good in a way but also puts a responsibility on your shoulders not to put him in danger by making requests that a less compliant person would refuse to carry out. I second TammyJo's comments about an at-home collar until your sub can wear one all the time. I love wearing my collar but I'm not at all comfortable with the idea of wearing it 24/7. Imajican and I have a simple ritual (I kneel naked, she offers me my collar to kiss and then fastens it round my neck) that has become very significant to us, even though it's usually performed intercontinentally over IRC. An alternative that hasn't been mentioned is that you could write on him each day with a permanent marker (which is not at all permanent on skin). The effect is that of a tattoo but without the squick. But, again, you need to give careful consideration of the effects that might have on his career and wellbeing. beeble I am not asking him to do anything that will affect his career. I'm not sure how many different ways I can say it - I'm not interested in getting him in trouble or making things difficult for him in his vanilla life, and I'm contemplating on waiting the two years he's got left to collar him then. I understand your concern but I'm not an idiot. Or maybe I'm just being uber sensitive today.

hereyesruponyou -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/9/2008 7:48:14 PM)
My pet and I consider the ring of his cb3000 to be his everyday collar. Even when he has occaision to beg for release, such as a weekend Beerfest with friends, he keeps the ring on. Because it is plastic he can even fly with it. I really enjoy that the only time he removes MY real collar is when he cleans and shaves for me. Now when we play together or when he is serving me from home, he puts on the leather collar as well. Maybe your boy could just use the ring if chastity is not your thing.

MistressDaraine -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/9/2008 8:06:47 PM)
If metal is the problem, he could get a piercing using an acrylic ring. If It was on the underside of the scrotum, even his coworkers wouldn't see it, so it wouldn't be a big deal. That's the only other thing I've got left to recommend.

MissAnimus -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/10/2008 1:00:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MsStarlett I glanced over that 'cell popping' site. All I saw were ads for the kit and some testimonials about how well it worked. Were there any photos or descriptions of what that actually IS? Here are some of the pictures http://www.artisticdomme.com/gallery.htm And here is some (vague) info on how it is done http://www.artisticdomme.com/faq.htm

HisBestGirl -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/13/2008 11:04:58 PM)
I realise you're not a fan of tattoos but my Master and I used a tattoo as a form of branding. It's quite small, discreet and my god, it works so well as a permanent, constant reminder of his ownership and love. It corresponds directly to one that he has himself (it's smaller and reversed). I love knowing it peeks out from beneath my clothes.

Aszhrae -> RE: Need some advice and collaring styles (12/14/2008 12:01:08 AM)
If it was allowed, girl would love to have been able to wear a collar all these but it was not allowed. Girl actually feels naked without one, but girl does obey her mistress because mistress enjoys her privacy. Girl knows in her heart who girl belongs too. Really do wish girl was allowed. Have you thought about subdermal insertion. Something tiny is placed just beneath the skin. Except for a tiny incision and the slight sting, after it appears as pattern. Girl has seen beads used with this method and it does look very nice.

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