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Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 1:43:16 PM   
SomethingCatchy


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Status: offline 		I would love to collar my boy, but a few things stand in the way first. The main one is his job. He's military, and we all know how they *love* leather collars, brand marks, or odd jewelry. On top of that, his job requires him to remove everything but his clothes, so jewelry, dog tags, and collars are not allowed. He can't even have his wallet in his pocket.

We've talked it over, and he's open to being branded. I would rather go with the traditional collar, but I don't want him having to take it off before he goes to work and not having a physical reminder or my ownership. I personally think it hasn't been long enough so I'm going to wait to collar him for a little bit longer (I'm in no rush, he's as good as mine ) but I'm at a loss as of what to do.

Branding? I don't want to do a burn brand. I've been researching freeze brands, but I haven't been able to find anyone to talk to about their experiences. Does anyone have any body mod links for branding practices? Maybe a forum or something? Feel free to cmail me any links you might have.

Collaring? I really don't like the idea of him not wearing the collar at work, and I've thought about an anklet or something that could be tucked away in his boot, but I'm not entirely sure. I'm sure others have been in this situation before... what did you do?

We are both against tattoos. He doesn't like them and I'd never do it myself so I won't ask him to. Are there any other ways that I just haven't thought of? He's got about two years left and has said that after he's out he doesn't care what I have him wear *evil smile*, and I've considered waiting for those two years, but I'd like to get some input on my questions.
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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 1:47:27 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		There is this thing called "Cell Popping" that is a kind of branding, and looks really neat!  It is supposedly non-permanent, but hey!  www.artisticdomme.com  is the site.

Branding is really a tricky thing.  I would advise going with a cautery gun instead of a larger heat brand.  You will have much more control over the final result.  Why are brands okay, but not ink?  Just curious.  Both are permanent, and if you are not ready to "collar" him, why are you marking him permanently? 

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 1:52:46 PM   
SomethingCatchy


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Status: offline 		I would be okay with being branded myself, but I have this insane fear of tattoo guns. So I would never ask him to do it because I couldn't/wouldn't do it myself. I honestly don't know why he's okay with branding but not tattooing. Although we're both weird like that.
I'm also not marking him until I've collared him - the brand would be in place of the traditional collar if that's the route I'd want to take. I'm basically just doing my home work until I make the decision because I've never had this problem before.
Also the branding would be done by someone else who has experience. I don't know if there's such things as licensing for branding and such, but I know some body mod shops in Houston that at least used to do branding. I'm far cry from there, though.

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 2:21:30 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		I might be able to help you in this matter.  My sub is military and I know the issues that come with the collars.

When the time came for collaring, I actually got two.  One is formal leather and the other is a silver chain with a lock on it.  Of course, clip is long past basic or AIT, so it's not an issue.  The necklace can be worn any time he is in uniform, as long as it's tucked under his shirt.  If a necklace of some kind is out, the idea of an anklet or even a c-ring might be options.

For the record, clip has also been branded.  The "LP" mark has been on him for some time now and it was done as to look like a property brand.  I'm sure I have a pic of it somewhere that I can send to you on the other side.  Branding in itself isn't that difficult and is a great alternative to those who don't particularly care for tattoos.  (Not saying he won't eventually have one of those, too.)  If you're interested, I'll be glad to tell you the method I used on the other side.


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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 2:31:22 PM   
SomethingCatchy


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Status: offline 		Please do, LadyPact. I'd like to see one of those pictures if you can scrounge it up, too.

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 2:43:31 PM   
MistressAinCT


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Status: offline 		how about a hidden piercing? a small ring on the scrotal sac just under where his penis lies is hidden even with his clothing off.  I pierced My slave this way (I am a body piercer). 

It can be a small 3/8" hoop 20g (that's very thin) and no one but you guys would ever know.  They heal rather quickly as well and require minimum care (he does have to check it occassionally to see that it hasn't migrated, some piercings do).

Good luck with whatever you decide and congrats.

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 2:45:45 PM   
LadyPact


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Please do, LadyPact. I'd like to see one of those pictures if you can scrounge it up, too.


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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 2:49:05 PM   
VampiresLair


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Status: offline 		I would go for a very thin anklet. For one thing, it is easy to tuck into a boot, for another it is something he will feel constantly. If you have ever had a chain tucked into a sock, you know that every time you move you can feel it. Maybe a small charm on that anklet, your initial or something similiar, to make sure he feels it during the day. And, of course, if it is in that same position long enough, he will have its imprint when he removes the sock and boot as well.



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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 4:04:31 PM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		Just because my boy only wears his collar in private, does not make him any less mine.

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 4:22:59 PM   
AStudyInScarlet


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Status: offline 		i might be green, but i thought it was common practice for people to take off their collars before going to work. is it really necessary to wear it every waking moment?

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 4:23:58 PM   
AStudyInScarlet


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Status: offline 		on a side note, i unintentionally branded my pet. i do not recommend using my method, nor the location...

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 4:25:36 PM   
camille65


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Status: offline 		Well I think it just depends, depends on the collar, the job, the preference of the D etc. There aren't hard and fast rules (thankfully), I wear mine nearly 24/7 and it is one that can go to just about any place without causing a ruckus.

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 4:27:27 PM   
SomethingCatchy


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Well I think it just depends, depends on the collar, the job, the preference of the D etc. There aren't hard and fast rules (thankfully), I wear mine nearly 24/7 and it is one that can go to just about any place without causing a ruckus.


My preference is that he wear it 24/7 or as close as possible.

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 4:29:58 PM   
ShaktiSama


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ORIGINAL: AStudyInScarlet

i might be green, but i thought it was common practice for people to take off their collars before going to work. is it really necessary to wear it every waking moment?


Not every collar has to be taken off. Mine is a steel chain with a lock hanging from it. The only comment it has garnered from anyone who has seen it thus far was "cool necklace". The boykin knows what it means, and so do I; so will anyone else who can read BDSM symbols. It's not necessary to put him in a thick and blatant dog collar to get the job done.


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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 5:08:12 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Depends on the relationship. I wore mine every waking moment the one time I would of been collared. Only took it off to bathe.

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ORIGINAL: AStudyInScarlet

i might be green, but i thought it was common practice for people to take off their collars before going to work. is it really necessary to wear it every waking moment?

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 5:43:44 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		I have a really bad problem with clostrophobia, in regards to things on my neck, One time I eneded up ripping a necklace off and breaking the chain on accident cause my turtle neck I was wearing was bugging me and I tugged on the tn and the chain was an innocent victem.

So as much as I'd like a collar 24/7 sometimes, I would most certaintly have to refuse to wear one, or be allowed to take it off at MY discretion when ever it was bothering me. Mine could go anywhere too, infact I even wore it to therapy, when I wore a collar to try and get used to having one on since I Was underconsideration to a man who demanded collars be worn.
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ORIGINAL: camille65

Well I think it just depends, depends on the collar, the job, the preference of the D etc. There aren't hard and fast rules (thankfully), I wear mine nearly 24/7 and it is one that can go to just about any place without causing a ruckus.

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 6:01:15 PM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		He can wear a collar when he is with you, because you have to respect his job in the military. Have you thought of a tattoo? You can design it and have it put where you want it. I had mine put on my male sub's asscheek. Brands are not my thing but if you go that route, I'd get someone who knows what they are doing.

Good luck,
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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 6:23:59 PM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		I glanced over that 'cell popping' site.  All I saw were ads for the kit and some testimonials about how well it worked. Were there any photos or descriptions of what that actually IS?  

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 6:30:27 PM   
SomethingCatchy


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I glanced over that 'cell popping' site.  All I saw were ads for the kit and some testimonials about how well it worked. Were there any photos or descriptions of what that actually IS?  


I did a google search and didn't find anything either. I'd like to know, too. I might be interested in doing it to myself, since I'm weird like that...

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RE: Need some advice and collaring styles - 12/6/2008 6:54:13 PM   
Reigna


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Status: offline 		To tide him over during those times when a hunk of steel locked around his neck isn't appropriate, my sub has piercings in intimate places--guiches and such. I do them myself, so they are that much more intimate. He also wears a gold neck chain with a charm shaped like the first letter of my name. He's a very closeted crossdresser, and the jewelry is quite markedly feminine. Those of you who know crossdressers will appreciate this: I haven't pushed the issue at all, but he wears it most every day now, tucked underneath his boy clothes.

But the pretty jewelry and the piercings are just stopgaps. There's really nothing like a big, ugly, honkin' collar to establish and reinforce the dynamic and the headspace.  

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